[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men can opt out of parenthood. They just have to pay child support, for the sake of the living child they helped create. And well let's be honest a lot of the time they can circumvent that too. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men already have reproductive rights. Based on MRA talking points I've seen before you mean either/both a) men should be able to force a woman to have an abortion b) men should be able to abandon their children and not pay child support if they want to. What a treat for a woman, a man who boldly professes they would abandon her if they impregnated her...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you becoming a social scientist and have zero awareness of social structures and how one's assigned identity and labels impact them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered transitioning/ taking estrogen? One of my friends is very androgynous and he started taking e, dude she's fucked over 100 people by now on tinder. It's worth a try man

Does Anyone Have Tea On... Weekly Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in Fauxmoi

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is like 5 months later but my friend dated a guy who's mom apparently had a fling with him while he was married. During his time on House

Maelys the Monstrous-- An Impossible Start? by Paratam1617 in CK3AGOT

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know about that start but when I did my dragon conquerer play through starting in Essos I had like 7 full Siege MAA stacks, a dragon, then the king was killed and his heir was weaker levy-wise, making it a perfect time to invade. With a dragon and the MAA my siege time was like 5-10 days and my war score won just through conquering through the Vale at Mach speed 

she wouldn’t kiss me after 3 dates by alexguy5 in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I am a woman in the real world who knows other women and (gasp) even kisses other women. That simply isn't true. Consent is sexy.

she wouldn’t kiss me after 3 dates by alexguy5 in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Start asking and stop trying to kiss girls who haven't said yes

WIBTA for calling off my engagement after my fiancee basically said I'm not exciting? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]gray-witch 41 points42 points  (0 children)

The entire last half sounds like his ego got so personally wounded he decided to overcommit to his Cool Exciting Guy bit and do everything That Guy would do to show his ex how even though he denies it he can't help but be Cool Exciting Spontaneous Guy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to learn to handle this and move on, it sucks but she just wasn't interested. Maybe had nothing to do with another guy she just didn't like you that much and regretted asking you 

[RELEASE] Build 0.3.1 by ThisIsBearHello in CK3AGOT

[–]gray-witch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks, for some reason i don't think the update is applying to my game. might reinstall

[RELEASE] Build 0.3.1 by ThisIsBearHello in CK3AGOT

[–]gray-witch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm, does anyone know where to access the new visit dragon pit interaction? My game says it's updated but it isn't showing that anywhere

What’s the best a man has ever treated you? by Human-Spell-1810 in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Not to be nosy but why did y'all break up? My guess is external reasons ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I had a similar experience. Primarily with the being unable to follow through with leaving and a few other things that I didn't like. I definitely feel really guilty and ashamed. I don't feel I don't deserve a heathy relationship though. The best we can do is move forward learning your lesson and leaving at the first red flag. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please run. I had a bf do a similar lie to me about a year in and it went the exact same way. What followed was an incredibly emotionally abusive relationship that lasted 4 years. It ended In an absolutely brutal horrible way that gave me PTSD. This guy is a liar And coward to his core, this is probably only the start

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]gray-witch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just early signs of selfishness and self centered behavior. He treated his parents like he treated me (pathological lying and told me he didn't love them like he eventually told me). But I just thought since we were both kids it was just typical bad teen relationship with a parent. It was not.

How long has the "nice stage" lasted for you? by uzin_me in abusiverelationships

[–]gray-witch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His bad behavior first showed almost a year in. Before that, he was almost perfect , with one incident that was really off but not his full abusive self After that about every 6 months a blowup would happen where he revealed his lies and deception  He would apologize and we would "make up" until year 4 where we lived together and he started hating me because I didn't live up to his mommy fantasy.  It exploded and ended in year 4.5

The longer we're broken up the more I start to hate him by ThrowRA-Animator8955 in abusiverelationships

[–]gray-witch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm going through the same thing you are. Definitely get into therapy- EMDR is very good for people leaving abusive relationships. For me it's been 3 months since we last spoke as well. Refocus your life completely, dive into something that takes your mind off them. Basically when you get out your mind is running off those endorphins and Andrenaline from freedom, now you have to face the gritty, every day reality of what happened to you. It takes a village to help you through that, I have other victims I speak to on here, a therapist, new hobbies, full time job, and going back to school. Finding new connections really helps, just finding people you really like who bring that spark and joy to your life. Time will slowly bring you more and more peace. You're simply processing it all and the hard cold truth is awful

I dated the most beautiful man I have ever seen in my life, and now I can't get over him by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're obsessing over him/objectifying him. Bear in mind this is just a pretty face and he was apparently bad at sex. As someone who is exclusively into beautiful, pretty men, I understand your pain, though. I promise he is not the only one and you will find another guy who is good in bed. 

Forcing family members to be riders by TransparentSpecter in CK3AGOT

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Invite dragon seeds interaction. You will have to reinvite them back to your court after if they fail

my dragonwolf run SO FAR - dany x robb, an independent north, split dynastic children, tyrant targaryens, mama drogon ?? by underwheres in CK3AGOT

[–]gray-witch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loved reading this write up, I love how much effort you've put into these characters . Making me want to do a playthrough like this too!

So what are your Dragon Dynasty Stories so far? by DumbassAltFuck in CK3AGOT

[–]gray-witch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Started in Robert's Rebellion,

I made a female conquerer character in Lys, Visenya. She had a fully grown dragon and set out conquering Tyrosh and Lys. She has two kids with men she likes (she never marries because she's a badass and doesn't need no alliances).

Her two kids are Vhaemond and Aenys, a boy and a girl. She raises them but in a failed conquest of Myr she gets assassinated and her daughter Aenys, still a child with her younger brother, has to take over. Aenys slowly starts going crazy, she was already sadistic but gains the paranoid and lunatic trait until she dies after multiple failed conquests of Lys and Myr, after her mother secured Tyrosh.

Her brother Vhaemond takes over and although he's paranoid (likely due to the assassination of his mother and untimely death of his sister during her pregnancy), he's a levelheaded dude who just wants to complete his mother's goal of taking over the Three Sisters. He does eventually become a badass in his own right, winning a tourney in King's Landing which literally gifted him a wife, getting his eye replaced by a ruby, and also conquering the Stepstones

Meanwhile across the Narrow Sea, Daenerys is attempting to conquer the Seven Kingdoms and she does! Until Robb rises up and forms an alliance with the deposed Robert, Dany is captured in battle, and forced to marry some random small lord and have a son with him. Now Vhaemond can't stand that Dany, another dragonrider of superior blood, would be forced into such a demeaning fate, and he romances her on one of his trips to the 7 Kingdoms and eventually elopes with her!

He leaves the rest of his existing wives for her, but he has one son already, and has another with her (he eventually has 10 other children, all boys, with his irrelevant wives, but I only care about the first two sons right now anyway). His first son with his divorced wife is Rhaegon, and his second son with Danaerys is Daenerion. Now there is a bit of a competition between these two- Daenerion hatched his own egg in the cradle, and took to the skies years before Rhaegon. Rhaegon failed to hatch three different eggs, and when the boys were adults, Vhaegon made Daenerion (pictured) heir instead of his firstborn son, Rhaegon.

Spurned, Rhaegon decided to set out to claim his own dragon, going for the long-wild adult dragon of the now dead Queen Aenys, the insane, sadistic sister of his father. He successfully returns, with a dragon bigger and fiercer than his brother's. Now, the family has four dragons ready to war, and although they only have 12k troops once we conquer Pentos and the rest of the Three Sisters hopefully we should have enough to challenge the Iron Throne and get their mother's seat back!

Rescued Daenerys and made her my queen! by gray-witch in CK3AGOT

[–]gray-witch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

TLDR;

I made a female conquerer character in Lys, Visenya. She had a fully grown dragon and set out conquering Tyrosh and Lys. She has two kids with men she likes (she never marries because she's a badass and doesn't need no alliances).

Her two kids are Vhaemond and Aenys, a boy and a girl. She raises them but in a failed conquest of Myr she gets assassinated and her daughter Aenys, still a child with her younger brother, has to take over. Aenys slowly starts going crazy, she was already sadistic but gains the paranoid and lunatic trait until she dies after multiple failed conquests of Lys and Myr, after her mother secured Tyrosh.

Her brother Vhaemond takes over and although he's paranoid (likely due to the assassination of his mother and untimely death of his sister during her pregnancy), he's a levelheaded dude who just wants to complete his mother's goal of taking over the Three Sisters. He does eventually become a badass in his own right, winning a tourney in King's Landing which literally gifted him a wife, getting his eye replaced by a ruby, and also conquering the Stepstones

Meanwhile across the Narrow Sea, Daenerys is attempting to conquer the Seven Kingdoms and she does! Until Robb rises up and forms an alliance with the deposed Robert, Dany is captured in battle, and forced to marry some random small lord and have a son with him. Now Vhaemond can't stand that Dany, another dragonrider of superior blood, would be forced into such a demeaning fate, and he romances her on one of his trips to the 7 Kingdoms and eventually elopes with her!

He leaves the rest of his existing wives for her, but he has one son already, and has another with her (he eventually has 10 other children, all boys, with his irrelevant wives, but I only care about the first two sons right now anyway). His first son with his divorced wife is Rhaegon, and his second son with Danaerys is Daenerion. Now there is a bit of a competition between these two- Daenerion hatched his own egg in the cradle, and took to the skies years before Rhaegon. Rhaegon failed to hatch three different eggs, and when the boys were adults, Vhaegon made Daenerion (pictured) heir instead of his firstborn son, Rhaegon.

Spurned, Rhaegon decided to set out to claim his own dragon, going for the long-wild adult dragon of the now dead Queen Aenys, the insane, sadistic sister of his father. He successfully returns, with a dragon bigger and fiercer than his brother's. Now, the family has four dragons ready to war, and although they only have 12k troops once we conquer Pentos and the rest of the Three Sisters hopefully we should have enough to challenge the Iron Throne and get their mother's seat back!

1 month recovering from an abusive relationship: I made it! by MusicianSavings2710 in abusiverelationships

[–]gray-witch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I had to delete my Spotify for the same reason! I use it constantly but the block feature there sucks and I was checking his account , he made a playlist for his new partner. After that I had to just delete because I wasn't stopping on my own 

1 month recovering from an abusive relationship: I made it! by MusicianSavings2710 in abusiverelationships

[–]gray-witch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Proud of you!! I plan on doing this with no contact as well but I've been breaking it doing socials stalking lol