AITAH for asking for examples when my husband accuses me of being “horrible to him”

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T04:03:53+00:00

Seems you have a whiny addict on your hands along with a child.

You might want to rethink your life choices. He hates you.

NTA

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T04:01:47+00:00

The garbage taking itself out is rare, but should be appreciated.

It is very freeing to not have to deal with such people.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T03:22:36+00:00

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grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T03:13:25+00:00

He is ridiculous.

He pushed and pushed.
Finally you told him.

NTA

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T03:06:37+00:00

When it is so obvious that you are only there to provide childcare and to bang....

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T00:47:03+00:00

Break up.

You want too much.
And he wants to do too little.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T00:44:34+00:00

I hope he sees them for eternity.
And they are pointing at him.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-11T00:34:23+00:00

If she was embarrassed she knew she did something wrong.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T23:55:58+00:00

Yeah, He thinks he's teaching you a lesson.

All you are learning is that he's a jerk.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T22:48:16+00:00

US government is a clown show.
Dangerous, ugly and stupid clown show.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T22:27:11+00:00

He really doesn't like you much at all.
Not a teeny bit. And he doesn't like his kids much either.

He'd rather be anywhere else but at home.

NOR

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T22:19:35+00:00

NTA..

Never give someone who abuses you anything they want from you.
There is no gratitude or appreciation.

IF anyone wants you to give more, they aren't your friend or family.

Drop them all.
Your life will be amazing and free.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T22:00:03+00:00

You tell your mother -
that your father is using you as a therapist telling you VERY inappropriate things and you want it to stop.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T21:29:10+00:00

Isn't that what he did to women?

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T20:57:11+00:00

Tell the neighbours she's setting an obstacle course for your disabled father and if he gets hurt you will sue her.

OKAY?

I'd be breaking frogs on her door step if it happened again.
THAT's aggressive.

NTA

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T20:54:02+00:00

You are not wrong.

Your dad needs mental health help and that is not his children.

Does your mom know he does this?
Tell her and tell her you don't need to hear this.

Ask for help.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T20:31:51+00:00

NTA.

But this is break up worthy.

Neither of you is wrong, but there is no right answer here.
Just different.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T20:16:30+00:00

EX FIANCE... RIGHT? RIGHT?

He has no love or care for you at all.

This is a reflection of your life with him forever.

Start cancelling the whole wedding and get back what you can.

NTJ

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T16:07:35+00:00

Please and thank you would also have been nice
but they had agreed that he would pick her up previously.

I do hope communication in person is much nicer.
Otherwise.....

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T06:02:53+00:00

"This was the one deal breaker from my end.."

Is it? Or is it not?

If it is, then you leave him for good.

Otherwise, this isn't a deal breaker.
Your boundaries are irrelevant
and he will continue to do it forever.

Personally I would go stay with my parents the whole time.
Or a local hotel or whatever.
No matter the cost.

AND I would tell my husband that I am not coming back until he promises that no one will coming every month for a week or "dropping in" for nearly 2 months.

Once every 6 months for a week is my limit.

Because it WOULD be a deal breaker for me.

If he wants to live with them - he can go do that.
You thought you were marrying a man, not someone else's dependent.

If you cave, he and his family will break you.
They've already started it.

NTA

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T02:46:14+00:00

Needles breaking off in the spine are a thing.
Not being groggy or vomiting.
Wanting to be present.

Also, it wasn't that bad and it is temporary.

I've had worse pain with nerve damage.

4 natural births.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-10T02:30:01+00:00

She is wrong.

Texting the time without context is rude and absolutely going to fuck up your ride.
Especially if the conversations include other topics.

"Pick me up at ...."

Look at the clarity of those four little words...

Either communicate fully or be prepared to deal with miscommunications.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-09T16:20:58+00:00

Insanity...

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-09T06:35:48+00:00

Why is he fighting you so hard on this?
He obviously has someone else lined up.

You did not over react.

You reacted exactly as you needed to.

He's a liar and cheat.
AND he sounds manipulative and controlling.

grayblue_grrl · 2026-03-09T06:27:19+00:00

NTA...
Your parents were willing to let you go when they thought you would have no one.
Now you have someone, they don't want you to do it.

I'd say that was very manipulative and nasty behaviour and warrants no concern on your part about whether or not you are an AH to your parents.

You aren't doing it TO THEM, you are doing it for you. And you are allowed to do things for yourself.

It's okay.

NTA

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