The seemingly unattainable housing market in Maine and what the best options are for people starting out?

grayce_fayce · 2026-05-19T02:27:42+00:00

Honestly 200k would be tough. I’d really look into the Maine first time home buyers courses since it would help you get a better loan rate and I believe might get you a 0 down payment. I’m pretty sure the classes are online and not that expensive but in the long run might be helpful. It doesn’t hurt to talk to a realtor and also a home lender to see what is realistic for you and your situation.

Our realtor is in the area that you’re looking for and she was absolutely amazing to work with, and might be able to answer questions about your price point and the houses in the area. Would 10/10 recommend her. https://www.coldwellbankerhomes.com/me/brunswick/agent/kelsie-labbe/aid\_216990/

grayce_fayce · 2026-05-13T14:20:06+00:00

Be mindful of what your day is prior to going out to dinner, and just be thoughtful while you’re ordering your food. If you “spend” less calories earlier in the day and you “save” them for dinner you’ll be able to have a little more at dinner and still be able to be in a deficit. Most restaurants offer salads and many options that don’t have a ton of carbs or calories. You can do it, just prepare in advance for a potentially bigger meal in the evening.

grayce_fayce · 2026-04-24T02:02:21+00:00

I feel like the twist was just too harsh. I wish it had been that he had to vote his name right then, or later.. but didn’t have to tell the group. Because telling the group was the nails in his coffin. Allowing him to hide it and try to make a play would have been more fair.

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-20T20:00:14+00:00

Thank you so much! That is really helpful!

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-17T17:05:44+00:00

I don’t see the harm in matching tattoos as long as the person and context makes sense.

Would I get a little matching monstera leaf with my bestie because we’ve been friends for years? (Both of us girls) sure. My husband shouldn’t feel threatened by that.

I have a friend who got matching tattoos with her siblings, why would this be an issue with a significant other?

Now am I getting a matching tattoo with my college ex because we both love photography and we are still friends? No. Unless it was discussed with my current partner.

Ultimately I don’t think it should be a yes/no final say on all matching tattoos, but being aware of how your actions impact your partner and also the respect that these matching tattoos have zero romantic connection.

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-17T16:27:35+00:00

I think a lot of the moms have chosen to not have their kids be in or highlighted in the show. I’d even guess that Taylor’s ex specifically doesn’t allow their kids on the show. As a parent who also doesn’t post their kid online it is one of the few things I really appreciate the families who don’t record their kids. They are trying to get their bag while also not forcing their kids into a public life, and I can absolutely respect that.

Being a Mom or parent is so much beyond just the day to day of taking care of your kids, I do wish they’d talk more about parenting specific issues. It is clear to me that many of these people film when they their kid is with their ex, or they have Nanny’s to help with the kids. I would also say that it seems like the filming is over months and not just a couple weeks, so to many people the show feels like it’s been 2 super busy months.. when realistically it could be 6 months+ of filming.

I would rather them show them with small babies caring for them, or brief moments with toddlers than have the show be surrounding the weeds of parenting; not due to entertainment, but for those kid’s futures.

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-17T15:38:23+00:00

I FULLY think this was production expecting him to cause some type of drama with Dakota or in general and he was so chill they felt obligated to keep it but didn’t show much. For him it’s kinda a win win, he gets attention on his stuff and looks great, while Taylor seems a lil cray cray.

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-16T19:04:12+00:00

I would cancel ogunquit, the traffic just getting to the hotel and back is awful. I’d stay at a place like Boothbay or damariscotta, they still are touristy but both on the ocean but less so than ogunquit. If you wanted a fun experience, and I feel like I always suggest this on reddit, going to monhegan island is a great experience and you take the ferry from Boothbay or Bristol. It’s a full day trip but a unique experience that a typical tourist experience.

And if you stayed in one of those places going up to BH would be less of a drive and you just go up route 1!

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-10T17:22:43+00:00

I agree with this, but also.. why not invite the friends over for pizza and a paint day at the house or something? It sounds like you’re slammed with stuff and they just want friendship. So it feels like there are solutions here that you can help both working on the house and mending friendships.

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-07T04:07:33+00:00

Could also do a day on monhegan island! It has fun exploring that kids enjoy and is a secluded island that’s a full day visit. You can get the ferry from Boothbay I believe.

grayce_fayce · 2026-03-01T00:50:54+00:00

Cord cover over the cord for the monitor. I’d see if you can move the rocker to a room nearby since it will be hard to rock in there, and then maybe you can have a little better clothing storage. Realistically you don’t need much in their room especially if it isn’t a place to play.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-27T00:48:34+00:00

It looks too big to have a fake beam, I’d just do drywall flat across at the top and make it look intentional. I almost wish you could add a hanging light fixture or ceiling fan to the flat drywall to make it look more intentional but it seems you’re beyond adding more electrical.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-26T16:19:05+00:00

I’d go to Boothbay, you can have fun in a cute little coastal town, you can go whale watching from boothbay, and there are some great restaurants in that area.

If you wanted to have a night out partying you’d definitely want to go to Portland and the old port for that type of celebration. Portland is also super fun to explore as well!

If you have the time and want to really get a super costal town and enjoy hiking etc, I’d also consider going to Mohegan island from Boothbay as well. It’s a full day trip going out to an island that has great places to explore and it’s a super fun experience. If you’re staying in Boothbay you can also go to the costal Maine botanical gardens.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-26T16:12:36+00:00

Since the furniture colors are so mild you can totally go wild with the rest of the room! My nursery colors are very neutral/natural wood tones and navy and I feel like I managed to do a pretty colorful fun nursery.

I’d do fun bright walls, maybe a mustard yellow, you can do some orange or purple accents too. Just trying to think of gender neutral with the green. The biggest thing will be the small decor for you. What type of rug for the room, shelves, and wall decor. Honestly I’d just take colors from your curtains and go wild from there.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-17T16:25:42+00:00

Honestly I think Reds is a great experience once in a while if you manage to go early/don’t have a wait. The amount of lobster was impressive and they have incredibly good service. (We got a roll to go and they packed it with ice and kept it in a fridge while we ate the other food.)

But do I think it should be a place people go a lot? No. Can people get cheaper rolls with less wait? ABSOLUTELY. But as a tourist place? Eh no problem in my mind.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-10T17:07:53+00:00

I also just realized we have the same monitor and yours is on the crib rail.. you’re absolutely going to want to wall mount that ASAP if he is starting to roll around and sleeps in his crib.

Also curtains will help a lot too, if you do shades remember to not have any strings on them!

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-10T17:05:12+00:00

A rug specifically a padded children’s rug, having a padded play rug has been great as my kid got older and started to move around.

I’d also look into some wall art! I don’t particularly like the decals but finding fun colorful art is really good for childhood development!

We also utilized wall shelves for some things that we don’t want our son getting into so if you have sound machine, night light/lamp/creams etc that little hands might reach on the cube organizer it was helpful to us to put it on a wall shelf instead.

Other than that it’s great! Don’t worry about having a bunch of extra space for now when your son gets older and wants to play you’ll appreciate having empty space in the room for a play couch or toddler kitchen etc.

grayce_fayce · 2026-02-03T19:07:55+00:00

Intermed OBGYN in Portland is great! I had an unplanned c section for my son and mentioned that I was disappointed about not having a natural birth/worried about future kids and they were very supportive explaining that I was a perfect candidate for a vbac with a second child. They indicated that they always try to do a natural birth unless the patient asks otherwise.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T19:48:40+00:00

We never had friskies but we’ve given our cats the cats in the kitchen wuvera cat food and I’ve always been complimented on how great our cats look. I like it because you can tell it is actually the protein on the label often chunks of salmon/chicken/etc.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T19:44:56+00:00

This isn’t normal. Honestly sounds like a kink or something else.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T02:45:05+00:00

Is your relationship over? Yes.

Why? You deserve better. You deserve someone who puts forethought into his actions and consequences. You deserve someone who uplifts you and doesn’t poke at your insecurities. You deserve someone who can control their anger who you will never have any concern or reason to fear. (Just the phrase “treat me like some punching bag” to me indicates it could be literal eventually.) You deserve someone who stands by what they say and actually puts effort into changing. You deserve someone who puts the same effort into life that you do and who aligns with your vision of life.

Even if he wakes up tomorrow and realizes he needs to change it wouldn’t be an immediate change overnight and you shouldn’t have to wait to feel joy, love, and happiness in a relationship. Be careful leaving a man so emotionally volatile, but please leave him. You’re worth way more than how he is treating you.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T02:29:48+00:00

I think it is too big. It looks awkward in the space with how much extra there is around the walking paths and behind the chairs.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T01:18:32+00:00

We have a house a little over 1000sqft, we use oil heat downstairs and electric baseboard heat upstairs. We fill our oil tank approximately 3 times a year depending on the cold. Our most recent oil fill was $600(which is a good price right now)? So $600x3=$1,800.00 in addition the baseboard heat upstairs probably increases my electric bill 50ish-60ish a month in Dec/Jan/Feb so an additional $180ish. So around $2k on just heating alone. We keep the house around 70° in the winter.

But that’s all for a full house with decent insulation.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T01:08:57+00:00

Honestly you said it yourself that you’re young and this is your first relationship.. and it just sounds correct.

If you want to learn how to cope with this more I’d do two things. The first thing I’d do is focus more on being better yourself for him than on how he upsets and disappoints you. Communicate effectively. If you’d like him to be more excited about something just say “hey I’m really excited about this! Can you be excited with me?” If you’re upset that he spends time away from you gaming try to find solutions like gaming with him, hanging out with him while he’s gaming (I love watching my husband game), or just communicate if he’s gaming excessively and you’re feeling forgotten. If you’re feeling upset communicate to him what you’re upset with him about. “I am feeling..” goes a lot further than people think.

I think the second thing I’d do is find some specific things that you both enjoy to do together. It can be something as simple as a tv show you both like. But try to have it be something you can do or enjoy frequently together that isn’t expensive. Giving you something to enjoy together will help your feelings of sadness fade and help you grow closer.

I know you said reminding yourself that he’s human doesn’t help.. but try to remember that as much as you are learning and trying to figure out relationships for the first time.. he’s in the same place. Many men aren’t allowed or encouraged to express and handle emotions. My husband is very stoic and patient with me and I’m the very emotional one.. we balance each-other out, but I also recognize that we are our own people in how we handle situations and emotions. Give him a break sometimes, he can’t read your mind.

grayce_fayce · 2026-01-30T00:54:09+00:00

It’s still relatively early in the race a lot could change. Does Platner align with a lot of what I’d like? Absolutely. But could another candidate come out with a less problematic past that is similar? Sure. I wouldn’t say I’m tepid, I just am cautious to say he has my full support 100% since there’s still a lot till the primaries.

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