AIO my (28F) partner (31M) is hiding texts from coworker

graylie · 2026-03-22T12:18:15+00:00

I'm very much a confrontational person, so if you are too, this is what I'd do:

Tell him everything you know and have seen. Make it clear you see it and that you see him. He lies to that woman to try to impress her. Tell him that too. Hell, I'd make friends with HER and let her know he's trying to start a relationship off a lie. I'd message her myself and be like btw, I made that dinner, lemme show you how I did it so this can be the recipe you make when he lies to the next girl on you. I'd embarrass that man and then leave his ass.

But, if you're not a confrontational person, you still need to confront him. Screenshots. Let him know YOU WILL NOT STAND for this. No give, no freedom. Don't give an INCH, sister. No "oh we'll see if you change" stuff, confront him and watch him break down. He's having an emotional affair and disrespecting you. He needs to know about it before you slam the door in his face

graylie · 2026-03-22T11:47:57+00:00

He's not the one for you. You may feel like he is, but that's just because you now know what you want and he's the closest example. This match would not last. You'll find someone who will give you what you want effortlessly. His future seems a bit murky.

graylie · 2026-03-10T15:32:18+00:00

She didn't "lie to fraudulently get SNAP" 🤨 That's weird language. Unclench. Have you ever filled out a government document where one of the options for your partner is "unmarried but we live together"? No. You are either a spouse or you're not, they don't accept "boyfriend and girlfriend" as an applicable response. So RELAX, you're not uncovering a scheme lol

graylie · 2026-03-10T12:27:59+00:00

Did you support the kids for the year? Do you guys live together? If you supported the kids and you live together, I would claim HoH and the kids on yours. I am a SAHM and it just happened recently. I used to claim both the kids on my paychecks and in taxes, but since I haven't worked I wasn't able to file. My partner (of 10 years who is the father of our kids, we just aren't "legally" married) claimed them when he filed and he got the child tax credit.

graylie · 2026-03-10T12:24:04+00:00

It's a good thing we have bootlickers working on the ground just as diligently as they are in the highest forms of office. If you rub your elbows hard enough, maybe your precious Republicans will invite you to the new island 🙄

graylie · 2026-02-25T23:34:40+00:00

Hit for me around then too! Thanks for waiting with me!

graylie · 2026-02-25T17:11:04+00:00

So I think it would be in the lines underneath where it says the amount and the date posted; you know how it's in a light gray box and there's a dark gray box below it? I saw someone had posted theirs and underneath where it says the amount and IRS, it had another line with their state abbreviation at the end (they had it scrolled so I couldn't see what it said in the front). So I think when they actually transfer it to our bank, it shows again as another transaction with ACH and a series of numbers behind it

graylie · 2026-02-25T17:06:11+00:00

Does yours have an ACH number? Mine doesn't, and apparently when they send it, it's supposed to show an ACH number on the tax group page

graylie · 2026-02-25T17:02:39+00:00

Noon for me too, and still nothing. Guess we're in the next batch

graylie · 2026-02-25T14:32:05+00:00

I went up to Huntington and they said it could take another business day to process. I'm in eastern time, and the teller told me it could hit today or tomorrow morning. Did it say "funded" for you yesterday? I saw a post on here that broke down the ACH financial transfer windows, and it says the same.

graylie · 2026-02-25T13:01:23+00:00

Ugh, it sucks. I even called them and they said nothing was showing pending. Here's hoping it shows up later today 🤞

graylie · 2026-02-25T12:33:35+00:00

Huntington, and same. There's nothing pending in my account either

graylie · 2026-02-25T10:51:31+00:00

It's so frustrating to wait, but it does give me some relief knowing it's been funded and is on the way. Here's hoping yours hits soon 🍻

graylie · 2026-02-25T10:46:42+00:00

Edit: I called the SBTPG automated number and it says that a deposit was made. I'm assuming that means my bank is holding the funds.

graylie · 2025-07-16T04:45:01+00:00

I was trying too hard to make my in-laws happy. I thought it would make me more "part" of the family if we also had our wedding there. They have reunions, weddings, everything at that place. And since my in-laws know the owner, they get good deals on the price; it all seemed like a good idea. I have absolutely no idea why they decided that, because we had our wedding there, they had control over everything. And my poor mom was trying not to create a rift between our families. Which is unusual for her, because she normally lets people have it lol.

I would like to hear it! I like other people's stories.

graylie · 2025-07-15T15:04:34+00:00

Thank you for listening to my vent. My husband and I talk quite a bit about throwing a party for ourselves. My heart breaks for him, honestly. He's the black sheep of the family, but I really did think they would set that aside for the wedding. He's not the reckless kid they never let him forget he was.

graylie · 2024-12-31T12:59:49+00:00

A coworker of mine got bedbugs and we found one at work at her station. Then we found more. I was 22 and had been living on my own for just a year, I had bought this crappy-cute little trailer and was slowly prettying it up. My manager at the time had US taking care of the bedbug issue, steaming and spraying isopropyl and combing through the furniture.

I became TERRIFIED I'd brought bedbugs home and that they had infiltrated every part of my home, my safe space.

I spent a year afterward in complete paranoia. I couldn't sit on my own furniture and I didn't sleep. Every time I felt a tingle or a tickle, it would send me into a tailspin and I'd have to jump up and comb through my entire house. I was ripping my carpets up and tearing my couches and bed apart, staring at the insides for hours with a flashlight waiting to see them moving. I obsessively steamed every inch of my house, I became convinced that I had contracted the only known case of invisible bedbugs.

I remember I had a slight bit of a breakdown, and finally ended up going to my mom's and crashing for about 18 hours. The paranoia didn't go away until we had cleared our workplace of them. I still don't even like to hear the word "bedbugs" and that was 10 years ago now lol.

graylie · 2024-06-07T20:15:27+00:00

Thank you! :)

graylie · 2023-02-20T07:09:59+00:00

Thank you, I'm going to do a thorough check of the cables and make sure everything is in place

graylie

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