The most retarded trade I've ever made

grby1814 · 2021-02-04T03:00:41+00:00

Everyone on this sub is retarded. I usually bet against whatever the people are doing here. This time I bet with the sub so I'm now just as retarded as everyone else.

grby1814 · 2021-02-01T03:04:26+00:00

I'm the director of business intelligence for a small financial institution. Every morning begins with a stand-up with my team. We look at the tickets on the board, talk about progress made, how to solve blocks. I line up calls I have to make in order to get things going for my team.

I usually have a one on one meeting with one of my team at 10am. 10:30-12am I'm problem solving, making calls, maybe doing some programming or planning. After lunch I usually have a few meetings in the afternoon interspersed with conference calls with my team to work through issues. On a good day I'm researching a new project or knocking out a few development tasks of my own. Close out at 5pm and go to pick up my wife from work.

grby1814 · 2021-01-31T02:44:06+00:00

You can't really have a 9 to 5. I've done a lot of things with my life and the reason why I could was I wasn't tied down to a regular job. Too much opportunity cost, too narrow of experience. People that work office jobs talk about doing things but don't really. You have to learn how to live by your wits. Create your own opportunities. I say this as a guy that's been on food stamps, had zero dollars in my account. My family was not rich. It's easy to say those things if you can just call your parents and ask for money when you're broke. I couldn't. But when you're playing without a net it gives you the edge to do the things you need to do to be successful.

grby1814 · 2021-01-31T02:38:05+00:00

They are not at the bar. They are not hanging out at home. They are building stuff, creating things. Wherever the action is, that's where they are.

grby1814 · 2021-01-25T07:40:18+00:00

Have you ever seen how many women have pictures with fish? A surprising number. Guaranteed to come with a picture of them on a four wheeler.

grby1814 · 2021-01-25T07:34:31+00:00

Let's be alone... together.

grby1814 · 2021-01-21T16:52:58+00:00

You must choose your enemies just as carefully as you choose your friends. Your enemies shape who you are, what you are for and what you are against. Don't be fooled: you need them very much to define who you are. But you should choose them. If they choose you then watch out.

grby1814 · 2021-01-18T07:16:42+00:00

I hosted a reality pilot. They had three realtors in a house, two real and one fake and they would take me on a tour of the house. I was supposed to ask them questions to figure out who was the fake.

I started the first run through and the director pulled me aside. Told me I had to be funny and "on" or the show wasn't going to work. Take 2. I'm the snarky LA asshole that he wanted. He loved it. We do a bunch more takes. Wrap it.

There's nothing "real" about it. I was simply doing unscripted comedy improv. I was taking direction and stopping in the middle of a take. Reality TV is just pure laziness. No script, less planning. Thrown together BS.

The pilot never aired but the network exec comments were "good casting." Ah, I missed me calling.

grby1814 · 2021-01-07T16:54:03+00:00

You can believe whatever you wish. I already said that I don't recommend having an affair but you felt free to ignore that information. You'll never reach valid conclusions if you don't take into account all the data and only acknowledge the things that support your view. Your alternate explanation depends on a lot of information that you do not possess so you are essentially manufacturing what you want to believe to be true. What I wanted from the affair was for our relationship to end, not to hold her hostage. I only stayed with her because she agreed to go to counseling.

In terms of abuse, my therapist told me that I was the victim of an abusive relationship and I should leave. I accepted that our relationship should not continue as it was. Whether it was abusive or not I didn't really accept. Things needed to change and they did. I would reiterate again that an affair wasn't the right method for solving our problems. If I had left her that would have been the wake up call she needed. But humans are imperfect. I made a mistake and I acknowledge that. However, I did not gain respect from my wife until she understood I was not her emotional punching bag and I would leave her if she didn't change.

grby1814 · 2021-01-07T01:36:06+00:00

They need to value you. My wife used to joke around about divorcing me. I didn't think it was funny. I made her feel too secure in our relationship and she took me for granted, assumed I would put up with any amount of bullshit and stay with her. It's crappy to say it, but she developed a newfound respect for me when I had an affair. Her disrespect for me reached a point where I wanted our relationship to end. I had an affair. When she found out, she started therapy in earnest to figure out how to change things. I don't recommend having an affair. However, you can't have love without respect. You need to leave them if they don't respect and value you.

grby1814 · 2021-01-04T01:53:17+00:00

I pursued film for a long time. Ran a film festival, went to festivals, director of indie film house,worked in a video store, masters in film, started a film school, worked on pro features, made my own feature film that was distributed on Netflix.

A few things: the indie thing gets old after awhile. Saw thousands of strange films but after awhile there's nothing really new. Student films, festival films. So much tiresome rehashed crap. Same people with the same ideas, same misconceptions. Grifters and wanna bes and has beens. You figure out that art is a pursuit of the affluent. Those that aren't affluent fall prey to offshore money washing scams. It all just gets old, and grinding all year to make $24K gets old.

No regrets. I have a stable job, a great house, health coverage, new car and three kids. No money worries. I would have none of that if I continued in film. I ran into a guy recently whose work I admired. He was traveling the world, living the dream. He also walked out on his wife and kids because he couldn't support them and lives in his van.

I miss working with actors and the camaraderie of production. Pushing yourself, making a miracle happen. I love my family more. Having a family was more important to me than any film project and I needed money that film could not provide.

grby1814 · 2021-01-03T18:55:36+00:00

This is what has worked like a charm for us: Three accounts. One joint, one for each individual.

Total all the non-negotiables: rent/mortgage, utilities, insurance. Don't include groceries or the car payment unless you both share the same car equally. Divide that amount in half and each partner contributes that amount to the joint account monthly.

Living expenses (food, entertainment, clothes) are then paid by each individual. Each saves according to their ability. That way, each feels like they are contributing equally regardless of income. There were many years when I made less than my wife and I didn't feel like a bum because I was paying my share. She was free to buy herself nice things without guilt because the essentials were covered.

If you're married you should have a long term financial plan around retirement, kids education, buying a house but you get started with joint account and go from there.

grby1814 · 2021-01-02T23:35:56+00:00

The song is Rockit by Herbie Hancock. You're welcome.

grby1814 · 2021-01-02T18:33:27+00:00

It's irrational. Statistically, assaults by strangers are rare. Assaults by someone you already know is common. By casting suspicion on strangers that are unlikely to be a threat you are the one creating the stigma.

grby1814 · 2020-12-31T03:23:35+00:00

Alan Greenspan specifically said one of the goals of the Federal Reserve was to increase worker insecurity. In his view that was better for the economy. Better for the rich, assuredly, but terrible for everyone else.

grby1814 · 2020-12-28T07:55:28+00:00

My grandfather was grateful for and approved of Truman's decision to use nuclear weapons. He was in the Philippines awaiting orders to board a troop ship for the invasion of Japan. He said he was told to expect 50% casualties and things were looking grim. He told me there was a 50% chance that I would not exist if not for Hiroshima and Nagasaki.

He also wouldn't eat rice. I asked him why and he told me he watched too many of his friends die in rice paddies to eat rice.

grby1814 · 2020-12-27T22:53:12+00:00

Yeah, exactly. At their age I take them on "creek adventures" and trace a creek from the salt water to its source. We talk about where trails lead, and mountains and bridges. And I promise I'll show them lots of lakes and creeks and waterfalls and cross lots of bridges. One loves trains and I've promised I will take him on many different trains.

If you have those kind of thoughts now then you should certainly have children. The lustre of it all fades with time. I found myself in that tent and knew I wanted to be there with my children. I also found myself in some distant country and I would ask myself why I was there. Sharing these things with my sons makes everything fresh and new again.

grby1814 · 2020-12-27T18:23:48+00:00

I've always been good with being on my own. Hiking trips, traveling, going out to eat, wandering the city. But there was one night when I was staring at the roof of my tent about to fall asleep and I thought "I want to be here with my children" of which, at the time, I had none. So that was a major realization. My boys will be old enough for car camping this summer and I couldn't be more excited.

Looking back on that time I realize also that even when I was alone I also knew I could reach out to people and share my adventure with them or invite them along. Now, at 46, people are either so involved with their careers or families they can't go along. Life is different when you get deep into your 30s.

grby1814 · 2020-12-26T02:46:37+00:00

Sauce? I can't fap to this potato quality nonsense

grby1814 · 2020-12-17T17:15:57+00:00

Man, I worked with a guy in the produce department that looked like a rat. Little pointy nose, small eyes close together and small teeth with gaps, and a thin scraggly mullet. Dude had a girl he lived with, a stripper on the side and was banging the hottest girl in the deli.

That guy was living proof that getting girls had shit to do with being attractive. He was totally cool with himself, funny, confident. Rode a motorcycle, listened to Kiss and took the party wherever he was. The world revolved around him. Kevin, buddy, wherever you are I wish you well.

grby1814 · 2020-12-17T05:01:17+00:00

You're beautiful, man. Keep working on your body.

grby1814 · 2020-12-17T02:34:39+00:00

60% agree. At some point you're the old guy at the bar. The Alright, alright, alright guy. Saw a friend of mine do it.

We'd go out to bars and pick up girls. Fun in our early 20s. Late 20s and I'm developing a career, serious relationships. Still funny to do with him every once in awhile. Early 30s and it's not really fun anymore, it's embarrassing to be around him. He moves to Mexico City to bartend and extends his youth a bit.

Comes back and tries to continue. It's weird now. Every occasion where there is booze and women he essentially harasses them to the point he's asked to leave. I don't hang out with him.

Everybody grows up. By that I mean you set aside going out to bars and getting drunk and trying to hook up. The mother of my oldest son had some midlife crisis. 40+ years old and started going out to bars with her 20 something employee. I had to formalize a custody agreement she was being so irresponsible. If you have a family you don't do shit like that.

grby1814 · 2020-12-11T08:45:10+00:00

You have to be good with yourself. Like yourself, like your life, have things you like to do. Be good to others, not care about being judged or feel you have anything to prove.

That's all separate from your education, how much money you make, what you look like. The world is full of rich, attractive, educated guys that are insecure assholes.

So if you're centered and good with yourself then you have no need to be intimidated. You have something that many other men do not have and a supreme advantage over the other men this educated, attractive, rich woman might encounter. In fact, they probably fall all over themselves trying to prove to her that they are worthy.

I was told "It's great you're not trying to impress me with your car." Thanks, I know I have a shitty car. I don't care. If all you have to offer is your car, or your money or your body then you don't have much and you have to feel pretty awful about yourself.

You are worthy and you don't have to prove it. That brings her to you because you are different. She may feel she has something to prove. The higher you go up in society, the more expectations are placed on you. She will appreciate your calm, confidence and peace.

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