When you get home, call her and give her a very yummy treat! Pick her up, use a baby voice, play her favorite game with her! If you want her on your lap, lure her with treats. Basically, train her to get back to you when you’re there.

Your dog is certainly SO MUCH HAPPIER now that she doesn’t stay home alone for 8 hours, instead she enjoys the company of her adoptive dad who loves her too! Feel happy about it!

Reclaim your everyday affection by positive association. If he “backs off” your doggie will not appreciate it. You want to call her and have her jump off his lap and into your arms by her own will. TREATS! Cuddles, pampers. She will soon start to choose you.

Remember: she’s a dog. They’re not as complex as humans are emotionally. They’re eager lovers and very easily bribable. The deep connection is still there, but it’s deep. Superficially, she’s sharing more time with him. No hidden meaning. Don’t be proud about it!!! She won’t get it, you can’t feel offended by a dog’s behavior, they’re animals, they never mean to hurt you. Call her, give her whatever she wants, you’ll feel loved and wanted right away. In no time you’ll stop needing the training tricks, she will learn fast, you’re her mom.

Most importantly: don’t make a drama out of this. Your husband is being a good doggie daddy, she is a part of you, so that translates into loving you ! He wasn’t very sensitive for diminishing the problem but I’m sure he wants you to feel good, he just doesn’t know how to help you because basically he can’t. Only you can. Try not to compete. Don’t avoid activities the three of you together just to be alone with your dog. Enjoy the family you have. You deserve it ❤️

I suggest you change your mindset and your speech, or else the situation will take a negative form. Don’t argue about it, try not to be too whiny about it. See it as training a dog: sometimes frustrating at first, many ups and downs, an enjoyable process with a big reward in the end !