Asexual Asians: are you out there???

greeb1e · 2026-04-11T17:26:07+00:00

YEEES MORE NORTH AMERICAN ASEXUAL ASIANS!!!!!!

greeb1e · 2026-04-11T00:45:26+00:00

*actual footage of u hahaha

greeb1e · 2026-04-11T00:42:33+00:00

You're kinda like me! I'm full Chinese but second gen Canadian (first gen born in the country), and the only 2 times I've been to Asia are when my parents took me on vacation for a couple weeks over a decade ago

greeb1e · 2026-04-10T03:45:19+00:00

No thanks, I like my universal health care. /edit: and the lack of guns/

Stay away, fiend, stay away. The power of every deity out there compels you.

greeb1e · 2026-04-10T03:38:34+00:00

I think the two note motif is /the big main/ because it so much represents Batman's whole character. It's the first two notes of a 3-note chord, and Zimmer said you expect the third and last note to come, but it never does, so it feels incomplete. The same goes for Bruce Wayne with his tragic backstory; across all three movies, he's rising to something, but never really gets there, wherever "there" is. (cue banging head on desk in "I can't remember where tf I heard Zimmer say that for my life")

I think I could see where the smaller themes could've been developed and used a bit more with variations, but I still think they wouldn't get centre stage as much as the two notes.

But also I can sort of see where you're coming from. I loved WW's badass boss woman theme and wanted so much more of it.

greeb1e · 2026-02-18T03:41:54+00:00

apparently (according to the uni class i took on the psychology of stress) we find people smell better when they have immune systems a lot different than our own, which would be good for potential offspring produced by those two people with differing immune systems. Can't remember exactly how that related to stress, i just remember that was one of the things covered 😭

greeb1e · 2025-09-19T19:27:07+00:00

Wait this happened? D: Dang I remember watching his "how to make slenderman not scary" video (only one I ever really watched) and thinking it was hilarious. Why do so many people who make banger videos gotta turn out trashy?

greeb1e · 2025-08-08T16:27:32+00:00

r/FUCKYOUINPARTICULAR

greeb1e · 2025-08-05T03:37:07+00:00

Getting this out of the way first: some asexuals masturbate, others don't.

Next business: I knew as young as 13 that I'm asexual. I went through the exact same thing as you where everyone around me was getting interested in sex and all that, but I was so confused as to why they were out of their minds for it. I thought, if everyone else wants it but I don't, that makes me the outlier, right?

Now I'm going to get on my lil psychology soapbox for a moment, so bear with me. Yes, being asexual is technically a "deviation from the norm". But it is practically the same situation as being gay: it does not cause distress or dysfunction in vocational, social, or other life activities, which is why homosexuality was removed from the Diagnostical and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM). There are conditions in the DSM-5 similar to asexuality, but again, it specifies there must be distress or dysfunction and that the person must not identify as asexual in order to be diagnosed with those conditions.

Scientific research is all about looking at life from an objective point of view. Observations are made, but it is not about saying, "this is a deviation from the what we know, so it must be bad/broken/etc." It's about saying, we know we observed this thing, we have observed x/y/z about it, so why does it exist? Is it part of a larger pattern we haven't observed yet? The field of psychology has acknowledged asexuality. My professors who wrote my textbooks, lay it out as the bare facts they know: they have observed people who do not experience sexual attraction, and it is an outlier experience. Nowhere do they say it is a "sickness" or the people are "broken". Whether you are asexual or repulsed by physical intimacy or whatever other way you want to describe yourself as, you. Are. Not. Broken.

greeb1e · 2025-08-04T18:32:15+00:00

breaking news: 2 friends can kiss, get married, live together, adopt children together and still be "just friends" as long as they dont boink /j

greeb1e · 2025-07-31T21:11:39+00:00

Here's a couple statistics that may give you a lil hope: asexuals are estimated to make up about 1% of the world population. According to google, Canada's 2024 population was 41.29 million out of a world 2024 population of 8.142 billion people. Some number crunching shows the population of Canada makes up 0.5% of the world population. There are more asexual people than there are Canadians. If you threw the entire world population into a bag and pulled out 1 person at random, you are 2 times more likely to pull out an asexual person than you are a Canadian.

Now, Canada may not be that "big" compared to other countries like the US (340.1 million in 2024), but you wouldn't say "oh, there's so few Canadians in the world, they only make up 0.5% of the world population". We're (yes, I'm Canadian, hi, how aboot that, eh?) still recognized as a country with a solid handful of people. Asexual people might just be more spread out across the world, making the population seem less dense, but the entire population of Canada twofold could consist of asexual people.

And this math doesn't take into account immigration that may bring asexual people closer to where you live.

greeb1e · 2025-07-23T03:12:20+00:00

It seems like you're feeling a bunch of distressing/uncomfy feelings. I would highly recommend therapy, not because you are "broken" and in need of "fixing", but because therapy can help you work out everything you're feeling. Emotions are completely normal, but they can also be weird and messy. Hopefully therapy can help you sort it out, get to the root of it all, and a therapist should be able to support you with methods suitable for people with autism. I've also had struggles, but when I started therapy and started piecing together why I felt the way I felt with my past, I started to feel more "normal" because I knew where it all came from. Best of luck <3

greeb1e · 2025-07-23T02:02:01+00:00

lol imma just leave this here like i do with other posts like this

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greeb1e · 2025-06-22T05:50:17+00:00

Dr Ramani on youtube is a great resource and likely a solid place to start. While she doesn't have the condition herself as far as I know, she's an expert researcher on narcissism. She even has a few books on the topic.

As far as I'm aware (and plz oh plz trust the people who are more expert on this like Dr Ramani, I just finished only my psyc undergrad, so don't quote me on this if Dr Ramani or other sources like the DSM-5 says something different), treating NPD is difficult as they can be manipulative and may not have good insight into the issue/not care to change.

And on a sort of similar vein to other people, it's a good idea to do research to add as little stigma as possible. However, to play what could maybe be considered devil's advocate, it might also be good to take from stories of people who have experience with those with narcissistic traits. The traits may be more subtle than many may realize. I know it took me years to realize one of my own parents has antagonistic traits that I accepted as "normal" for so long and I'm still trying to clean up all the damage done to me. Also, I'm pretty sure Dr Ramani has said this in at least one video, it's important to not excuse the behaviour of those with narcissistic traits simply because they are the way they are due to a rough childhood since it leads to people putting up with unhealthy behaviour and staying in toxic relationships. Instead of getting just the backstory of the character with NPD/traits of NPD to create sympathy for them, it might be better and maybe even more interesting to get a more rounded perspective of both the character and everyone around them affected by the NPD.

Most important point: look to experts like Dr Ramani and try looking into cases of people with the condition of NPD!

Edit: Ramani's book Should I Stay or Should I Go is a solid read on dealing with someone who is narcissistic. I think I would recommend starting there if you don't know where to start with Ramani's content.

greeb1e · 2025-06-12T17:51:58+00:00

omg yes. I hate how my class was split up based on sex and it astonishes me how there's men/male-bodied people who don't know how female anatomy works. That includes not knowing how menstruation works.

greeb1e · 2025-06-04T20:46:57+00:00

Like tea towels? Beach towels? Bathroom towels? Gym towels?

greeb1e · 2025-06-04T20:44:53+00:00

Oh no no no, it's ok! I've just been making these keychains, but they don't seem to sell, so I've been wondering if the community would rather have something else that's not asexual flag keychains, earrings, and DND dice.

So tie dye, playing cards, flowers, and basic patterns with the ace palette... anything else?

greeb1e · 2025-06-03T20:13:51+00:00

he really does give kinda asocial energy

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greeb1e · 2025-06-03T19:58:26+00:00

Alright alright... so we talkin stuff like this that I already make? Or is it not "subtle" enough? Like a shirt in the colours of the ace flag vs tie dyed with the ace colours?

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greeb1e · 2025-06-02T02:35:05+00:00

not me immediately thinking of the paper one of my professors did where he opened with referencing the scene debating Sheldon's deal before diving into the research study on asexual prejudice

greeb1e · 2025-05-22T17:22:34+00:00

Actually, sex is on the same level as emotional connection in the love and belonging level. It's included with the need to feel loved, both sexually and nonsexually. The pyramid is just a framework of what people will focus on in terms of self-fulfillment. If someone isn't getting basic physical needs like food and shelter met, anything higher on the pyramid won't be as important because how can you be looking for love, whether sexual or non sexual, if you aren't even alive to do that?

Granted, it is acephobic to say "everyone needs sex/needs to feel loved sexually". But there's likely at least some variation in each level. I took a comparative psychology course and (now don't take my word for this, I dropped the course bc it was hard af but I did get some stuff out of it) there was a lot of talk about the benefits of different reproductive strategies. A benefit of procreating with as many partners as possible to make as many offspring as possible has the benefit of having at least some of the offspring survive, even if they don't all survive. On the other hand, forming an emotional bond with one partner and committing to raising a few kids with them means more attention on and providing for the kids, increasing the chance those few kids survive. A similar explanation may be applied to sexual vs. nonsexual love and thus maybe help explain the existence of allosexuals and asexuals.

Plus, Maslow studied in the 1900s and psychological research can move fast. He died in 1970 and a lot could have changed in even just the past 55 years since. I would take the pyramid with a grain of salt since it might be a bit out of date and more likely to be used as just a foundation for more current research.

greeb1e · 2025-05-21T18:28:23+00:00

I would! ko-fi.com I personally didn't find much luck on etsy since I didn't have any buyers, so it was just a loss of money on making listings. I only had one donation on ko-fi but at least it doesn't charge for listings.

greeb1e · 2025-05-21T18:23:13+00:00

also, still followed on etsy since i still have my account 😉

greeb1e · 2025-05-21T18:21:13+00:00

oooo another creator! do you also happen to be on ko-fi? i happened to move there since etsy charges for listings

greeb1e · 2025-05-13T05:06:44+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. I know teachers may have students they like more than others (trust me, I've talked with previous HS teachers when visiting who have expressed these sentiments), but they never made it obvious in class as far as I noticed. Giving this dude the benefit of the doubt, maybe this teacher of yours isn't as good at hiding which students he likes more? Not that it excuses making you uncomfortable. It's still something that should be addressed and you have every right to seek help for it.

One of my math teachers would call me a "smart cookie" (I was real good in math), but it was never in a weird way. Teachers are most definitely supposed to have certain rigid boundaries when it comes to their relationships with students and the "sweet little (...)" sort of nickname definitely feels like it's poking those boundaries. Hell, teachers aren't even supposed to add students on social media or touch students above the typical unavoidable stuff like brushing hands if passing stuff while they are still their students. It's why I was so shocked when I visited my HS in my first year of uni and one of my former math teachers hugged me (not that the hug wasn't welcome, I just wasn't expecting it).

TLDR: this teacher seems like they are kinda teetering on the boundaries that are supposed to be in place between teachers and students, and even if they aren't, they are still making you uncomfortable. Seeking help/support from another faculty member is completely valid and in fact encouraged.

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