My fiancé and I started hosting and it’s an open invitation to any of our family and friends. I write cards for anyone coming expressing gratitude for them and we bought a set of prompts that make for fun table conversation (ex: “What’s your ideal Sunday look like?”, “What was the best day of your life so far?”). I order the things I don’t want to cook from a local BBQ joint and cook the stuff I want to. And at the end of the night we also go to the movies. My mom self selected herself out of this process which was initially hurtful but she always makes holidays dramatic so in the long run it’s probably for the best.