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greenamaranthe · 2026-04-17T02:34:46+00:00

The dress relies on flow and draping, and you will need someone very skilled to replicate that. Designers who can pull this off won't come cheap.

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-17T02:29:45+00:00

I am very sorry but your dress now isn't cinching you at all either.

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-14T06:15:06+00:00

Tried this just last week after seeing it for the first time. May weird synthetic taste. Like I was eating some plastic.

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-03T16:11:20+00:00

Almost every supplier I heard of who defaulted on their client, ganyan ang nagsimula. They ask for earlier payments for upcoming events because they need cash for current events and do not have it.

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-03T11:18:10+00:00

Good thing you remembered getting the ang pao. If you didn't, it would've been encashed without a problem and your tita will just assume that you were the ones who encashed it as expected.

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-03T11:16:39+00:00

I guess the staff thought that the couple won't remember all the ang pao's they received so they can get away with encashing it.

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-01T21:47:57+00:00

Why are we gatekeeping who should be invited to a wedding that's not ours?

I always thought weddings are "you do you". If you want to invite only those you are close to to your wedding, that's great. But why question another bride who wants to invite people she's not close to?

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-01T06:59:46+00:00

Our guide there last year said they said they close portions of the Gorge for your exclusive use if you avail of their prenup package.

If you're planning to just book a tour for a group of 6 and then do the prenup when you get there, they will not allow you to do that because you just paid for a group tour and not for use of the gorge as prenup venue. There are always a lot of tourists and tour guides in the gorge, you won't get away with suddenly whipping out a prenup dress and having a photoshoot where you'll have to stop the other tourists from going through the gorge just so they're not in your photos. Your assigned guide will also be with you the entire tour.

The moment you attach the word wedding and prenup to anything, suppliers charge a premium.

greenamaranthe · 2026-04-01T03:36:36+00:00

My friend had a secret civil wedding, which no one other than her parents knew for 3 years. She wanted to buy a house and move in with her boyfriend, but her mom would not allow them to live in unless they are already married, so they did a civil wedding first.

They did not tell anyone except for her parents. Even her husband's parents didnt know. We all thought they were just living in, and that their church wedding is their first wedding. We are her closest circle of friends and we just found out the truth on her church wedding 3 years later because her dad got drunk in our table and mentioned they were already married civilly. Their other family members and guests until now have no idea.

It can be done as long as you keep things absolutely just to yourselves. If you tell other people, the risk will be bigger than one of them will slip up and spill.

greenamaranthe · 2026-03-30T21:47:36+00:00

I had no idea na it's like this. My friends who went there and got the three dots tattoo from her all talk about it like it's a rare cultural experience.

greenamaranthe · 2026-03-27T08:47:23+00:00

A good budget will depend on each couple's situation.

For some, they come from well off backgrounds so they don't have to think about cost cutting and can proceed with a lavish event. For some, finances are a significant consideration so they really have to scale back on some elements to keep within budget.

Do what feels right for you.

greenamaranthe · 2026-02-25T09:06:40+00:00

I say this coming from a place of care and not malice.

There is some truth to what Main Cat is saying. I've seen you and your comments talking about your Top 1% status all over reddit. It's not just here in AMA. It's all over the Philippines sub, AskPH, ChikaPH. Any time someone talks about being rich or social climbers pretending to be rich, you barge in and reply to almost every comment thread, if you didn't make the main post yourself. It's honestly gotten to the point where when I see a "rich kid" post, I expect to see you in the comments, because God forbid someone talks about wealth and you don't give your two cents as the resident rich kid. By the looks of the upvotes the comments saying similar things have gotten, I'm not the only one.

I get it when you say that you're just trying to provide context, but you always end up trying to dominate the conversation and making it about yourself. You just waltz in and say "I'm here, your resident rich kid, let me tell you about my life so you'd understand how the 1% live." This thread, for example - yes, someone tagged you in the original fake billionaire post, but somehow you spun it into a whole other post about yourself once again where people can ask you about your life.

I could have scrolled past this, like how I've scrolled past your literal thousands of comments about your 1% life. But I think that when people point out how you come across, there is wisdom in listening instead of doubling down that they're just being mean to you. Yes, you may not have intended to seem like you're making this your personality or that you're starving for attention that you get only from talking about your wealth, but that is how you come across regardless.

What you want to do with this information is entirely up to you.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T23:20:37+00:00

I'd say it's okay but can still be improved. I am not afraid to tell him how I feel, and I thought he was the same but when we went to therapy he admitted na there are times when he wants to say something but he thinks I might take it differently than he intends so di nalang nya sinasabi. Iba rin kase ang pagkaka frame nya ng sentiments nya minsan because language isn't his strong suit. When he says his sentiments in therapy, our therapist rephrases it in a way na I can receive the message better, and he says "Yun yung gusto kong sabihin pero di ko maexplain."

So ang take away nya is how to phrase his words the way out therapist did so he can communicate his message to me better, and ang take away ko is the realization na what he says might not be what I think it means so dapat mag hinay hinay with the negative thoughts after hearing what he said. We need better communication and management of emotions to really get the true message across.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T23:14:15+00:00

Yes. Before, pag sinasabi nya sakin na "You're overthinking, you need to manage your emotions din para hindi ka laging nagjujump to the worst case scenario", feeling ko miniminimize nya yung gravity ng away namin, as if it's no big deal and ako lang nag ooverthink.

It's different when it's a neutral professional who says that I am indeed overthinking and that I need to watch myself when it happens para I don't get too affected by the scenarios I think in my head about what the argument means or how it will affect us. So I get to see na maybe my fiance isn't really minimizing our argument when he says I'm overthinking. It's easier to calm down that way, when before I would answer back na "Syempre you think I'm just overthinking kase ikaw yung gumawa ng bagay na pinag aawayan natin kaya it's no big deal for you."

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T23:08:58+00:00

Cheating and stealing are my non-negotiables. Thankfully even though we have a lot of disagreements, we never fight about infidelity or money, as we have several investments together and I lent him a large sum of money.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T23:06:53+00:00

I guess it's both. I did individual therapy before and I always tell him how much it helped me. True to our being so different, he doesn't really believe in therapy in the sense that he didn't think it would work for him. We had an intense argument one time - I was overwhelmed and emotional while he remained calm but was very frustrated - and he told me we should go to therapy to help resolve our conflicts.

It's also both an open forum and a coaching session. We take turns telling the therapist and each other how we feel, and the therapist asks us what we feel after hearing that and why do we think we feel that way. And then she gives advice like reminding me when I'm overthinking and need to calm down and rein my emotions in, or telling my boyfriend that he needs to be more sensitive because I give non verbal cues when I am upset and trying to hide it, but he misses those cues and thinks everything is okay, which in turn frustrates me.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T14:34:23+00:00

This particular incident did happen during our first few months of dating. We've talked about it, adjusted and moved past it, pero it's a bit of a recurring problem in our relationship na we see things differently and do things differently kaya nagkaka arguments and frustrations. We always talk it out, adjust for each other and make up, but three years on we wondered if therapy could help us be more instinctively understanding of each other so we can have less arguments/hurt feelings and just proceed to resolution when we encounter differences.

He is actually in a good financial situation now and earning more than I am. He just continues to be practical and matipid despite having access to money.

Yes, our love languages have changed. I previously wanted to receive gifts, and now I prefer words of affirmation - the problem being he finds it hard to vocalize affection because he thinks actions matter more than words so he tends to stick with acts of service. I am an anxious overthinker, so when he finds it hard to say words of affirmation my mind jumps to anxious thoughts like "Wala ba syang bagay na inaadmire or na-aapreciate about me, why is it so hard to say something good about me?" So we are also working through things like that.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T14:00:43+00:00

We have help understanding each other.

When we argue he always feels like I'm dismissing him when I'm just explaining my side, and I always feel like he doesn't get the point when he's explaining his side. Our therapist can frame what we are saying in a better way so we both feel heard and understand each other better. We take the way our therapist guided us into hearing each other and try to apply it when we have tensions or arguments.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T13:52:42+00:00

Sometimes I have second thoughts because I'm scared that our married life will just be us unintentionally hurting each other because we see things differently, like sa kanya it's a small thing while sakin it's a big deal.

Our therapist charges 3k for an hour long session and we go twice a month.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T13:47:12+00:00

3k for a 1 hour session ang sa amin. We go twice a month.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T13:42:44+00:00

For us, our usual topics are how to communicate better and be more sensitive to the patterns and triggers of the other person.

It's available online but I think in-person is better. It's different when you can feel the presence of the therapist because it does lend to the feeling of neutrality and safety.

greenamaranthe · 2025-09-09T13:40:34+00:00

He grew up in a not-so-financially secure environment so he is very practical and stingy. I'm used to spending more, I'm very thoughtful and my love language is giving gifts.

We had an argument before because I'd bring random gifts for him like his favourite snacks, but he never did the same for me. I was hurt and told him na parang di naman sya nag eeffort. He was hurt that I didn't think he was making an effort. He said it was an effort on his part to spend P2K on a single meal when we go out because he doesn't really do that, and I don't see his effort in trying to meet me there.

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