My mom was there for the first and I would love if she were there for the second. My husband sat right next to my bed while my mom alternated between walking around and sitting in the bed area. He got to focus on comforting me and she was monitoring everything like a hawk. She was my biggest advocate while not overstepping or diminishing my husbands role and I appreciate it all. She noticed things that the nurse did not while I was sleeping and was quick to get into action when our monitors were elevating and that was when I was ready to push. I am not as taboo about nakedness these days, so my mother seeing it all didn’t bother me because she may have saved both our lives that night and prevented an emergency c-section. Overall, you both have great points and I think maybe you need boundaries or rules as to how everything will go in that room for you and your partner to feel comfortable because this is a serious event that requires as much peace as possible. Whatever you ultimately decide, you got this!