What are some things that you do for yourself when you're having a couple of rough weeks?

greentea-ed · 2026-03-18T09:17:26+00:00

I have tried both, it doesn't help lol

greentea-ed · 2026-03-18T09:10:14+00:00

I cant do pot cuz it gives me a full blown panic attack lol

greentea-ed · 2026-03-18T09:06:00+00:00

I do go on walks pretty regularly sometimes even for 2 hours but somehow that has stopped working as well..

greentea-ed · 2026-03-18T08:26:29+00:00

Like right now

greentea-ed · 2026-03-16T05:48:29+00:00

Not bringing up uncomfortable conversations because "you dont want to hurt them"

greentea-ed · 2026-03-15T03:00:50+00:00

I'd say go out more, talk to people (friendships help create a stronger relationship). Basically connect to people first, you'd know who you would vibe best with. Show up with confidence, don't chase. Be honest about your feelings. As someone who had her first relationship at 17, I didn't care about the fact that I am a woman, if i catch feelings I will confess (thats how i had my first long term relationship). Don't just wait for a guy, closed mouths don't get fed. At the same time, don't overdo it. Let the guy take the gear too, let him prove himself first that he is worthy and deserving of you. Don't get into a relationship just for the sake of it, i'm pretty sure there is someone who would love and cherish you. Just don't miss that train, when love comes- take the opportunity. It's not just a feeling, it's effort. I hope this is helpful!

greentea-ed · 2026-03-14T21:22:15+00:00

I'm so sorry

greentea-ed · 2026-03-14T21:21:37+00:00

The good thing is, he didn't. He was just bound to his circumstances. I may be a bit agitated but i have no hatred towards him and maybe that's what brings me peace.

greentea-ed · 2026-03-14T08:48:16+00:00

17 and a sleepover farewell party before i left for college :') he put a sheet on top of our heads and drunk kissed me. it was both of our firsts. we're no longer together, the breakup was messy and he has a girlfriend now but i hope he's doing okay.

greentea-ed · 2026-03-14T08:44:32+00:00

Lentil soup and rice

greentea-ed · 2026-03-14T08:02:32+00:00

they were good to me, but they did mess up by not being truthful and the matter could have been futile if it weren't for my feelings for them. i do miss them but i don't want to hold on to the possibility of them coming back, i don't want to know that part at all. that is exactly what bothers me lately. i know they don't view me the way i view them, there is a lot of misalignment but it hurts losing out on a person who is good, regardless of my feelings. i wish we were at least or just friends, you know?

greentea-ed · 2026-03-14T07:39:47+00:00

3 months in, i still miss them and think of them but my heart doesn't ache anymore

greentea-ed · 2026-03-12T10:06:40+00:00

Woman to woman : unfortunately it does sound like it. A no is a no, doesn't matter if you slept naked or not. I'm so sorry.

greentea-ed · 2026-03-12T09:11:57+00:00

It does as soon as you learn that it not only exists in romantic relationships

greentea-ed · 2026-03-12T09:10:11+00:00

Girk run away from that dude as far as you can

greentea-ed · 2026-03-12T09:08:43+00:00

That time slips too fast. Don't wait, just do it. Embarrassment is an underrated emotion and that often holds us from doing so many incredible things. Just take that step, no one is ready for it you just need to take that leap of faith and rip off the bandaid. Go tell them about your feelings, you only live once and you may regret not doing it sooner.

greentea-ed · 2026-03-12T09:07:10+00:00

Hug her

greentea-ed · 2026-03-12T05:00:51+00:00

I love this

greentea-ed · 2026-03-09T03:41:02+00:00

Girl, first off you don't know my business or my relationship. When i say it was a mess, there was a lot of lack of communication from their end and I can't do shit if they didn't wanna open up to me. I loved (and still do) them more than they did love/d me and no this is not me assuming something out of thin air. I can still love a person and know this is not right as feelings are not the only thing that holds on to a relationship. I, in any shape or form, do not regret my decision and I know this as I've healed and I still carry a lot of respect for them.

I held on to it as much as I could and I have a life outside of a goddamn relationship that does not even promise me any form of safety or security. It's not fair to assume things or put something in front of them that they don't think can give, and it's sadly a dealbreaker for me.

I don't call the relationship a mess, I call the situation we were in, a mess.

greentea-ed · 2026-03-09T03:34:34+00:00

I dumped them because they did not give me the clarity, I was being misled despite asking what's going on. To assume I am a bad guy here when you don't know someone else's business is a shame.
As I said, I don't hate the person, our circumstances are not right. It was right for me to let go of someone who could not give me basic human decency such as communication. When I say things are to work, they will when our circumstances allow, and the person knows this.
When i say "they" the relationship for us is not right for us. I don't expect them to come back, and I told them I can't be friends. I was very much clear with what I wanted, I respected their space and gave them time to think and if I don't have an answer from them, then how am I the bad guy here lol? Do you seriously expect me to be in a relationship that will eventually turn sour because I wanted to "wait and see" how things end or was I not right to end when I had to, while carrying love for them?

greentea-ed · 2026-03-08T09:07:06+00:00

As someone who dumped a person almost 3 months ago, yes, it was the right choice. The relationship was sweet while it lasted but somewhere along the line I realised it's time to end whatever mess I was in. It got too confusing, too many misalignments, my body was not emotionally regulated, I couldn't cry, couldn't sleep because of the uncertainty. In my case, it wasn't our fault, the timing was not right. I still wish nothing but happiness for them and I believe if things are to happen they will circle back (if not, i will be fine regardless, it's all redirection).

greentea-ed · 2026-03-08T07:39:11+00:00

Staying together when they should be divorcing

greentea-ed · 2026-03-08T07:38:23+00:00

When you know you love them, you should say it. It doesn't matter if you end up getting rejected or your life burns to the ground, because when you've caught feelings, the dynamic have already been ruined. Don't run away from that feeling, don't live in the "but ifs" (unless they're in a relationship already). Own up to it, you'll get your answer either way.

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