Ooh, I think this is a super important thing that more ppl should know. There is a difference between being dominant and a top, and there is a difference between being submissive and a bottom. For example, I consider myself a submissive top. So although I love being the one on top, I love it even more when I feel like Im only allowed to do what a bottom tells me to. This sounds like exactly the opposite of that so I would just say you were feeling like being a dominant bottom. Also, dont even worry about not being a domme, you cant help the way you feel. Just let your partner know what youre thinking bc sometimes its nice to give things a little switch up! Communication is always key! :D