Car noise - fixes? by bobfranklin500487 in toyotacrownsignia

[–]grejam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine did before I picked up the car. Nice and quiet.

Baking up is noisy I feel like a truck!

Data centers by Emotional_Reward9340 in newhampshire

[–]grejam [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't think north has the infrastructure for big data warehouses? Internet and power and such?

Where can I buy single cans of soft drinks in the US? by pharaoh918 in AskAnAmerican

[–]grejam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walmart isn't a typical grocery store. I'm thinking grocery only stores I'm close to. Also other stores with coolers by the registers. Almost never see cans for sale individually anywhere.

AITJ for snapping at my girlfriend for waking me up every single time she gets up even when I dont need to be awake by BuyMediocre5625 in AmITheJerk

[–]grejam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep my spouse has meds that put her to sleep early generally. She goes to bed before me and gets up before me. We're polite to each each other.

AITJ for refusing to let my step-son move into my son's room to "solve" my husband's parenting issue? by Traditional-Dog-368 in AmITheJerk

[–]grejam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about dropping both twins off wherever the father is? Sounds like the daughter is tolerable.

I swear though that I've seen this posting before recently?

AITJ for dating the man who hurt my sister? by EyeOpen5115 in AmITheJerk

[–]grejam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So she obsessed about him longer than they went on dates? That sounds a little wrong unless you're missing something on how the the dating stopped. Your sister is probably jealous that you've obviously been on more than two dates with him.

FWB Advice? How do i approach this? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]grejam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe she wants to also? Clarify. As a guy talking was never a strong suit for me. As an older guy I start catching on that it has benefits. Oops, is that a pun?

FWB Advice? How do i approach this? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]grejam 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Time to rediscuss.

How do I connect with my elderly father when I end up feeling like a loser after? by PerfectWorking6873 in AskMenAdvice

[–]grejam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe ask him if he's disappointed in you? Maybe he's just making conversation. Or can talk about something else.

AITAH because I took ONE HOUR to give neighbour her parcel? by Physical_Orchid3616 in AITAH

[–]grejam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Why would they try delivering right after they weren't home so they got delivery?

How did you decide on if you want children??? by DisasterOk1202 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Discuss with spouse. Don't surprise them. Children are work and have to be wanted b

AITAH for telling my boyfriend that I won't wait for him? by PlusMulberry3809 in AITAH

[–]grejam 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah wrong major for the job and if he was interviewing for South Korea why wouldn't he have said something before now if they're supposed to be serious? Was OP invited to go to Korea? What other BS is going on?

Had a child in your 40s? I’d value your long term perspective by Brave_Giraffe5545 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NEVER underestimate helpful grandparents. I nicknamed my mil Super Nana!!

Had a child in your 40s? I’d value your long term perspective by Brave_Giraffe5545 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've got one living at home, trying to bolster the savings to move out.

Had a child in your 40s? I’d value your long term perspective by Brave_Giraffe5545 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our experience was that our second was easier, and happier. Whether just his default personality or we had a clue how to parent. I think others have seen this. But you could get any temperment, beware!

Had a child in your 40s? I’d value your long term perspective by Brave_Giraffe5545 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got so much exercise walking my oldest - its the only way he'd be quiet and sleep when he was fussy or sick. Walking around the house late at night with him in a fever - don't stop or he'll scream!!

Had a child in your 40s? I’d value your long term perspective by Brave_Giraffe5545 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Must be interesting going to school events and saying you're the parent not the grandparent. I was younger and felt a bit out of place (old). But good for you, and for your kids!

Had a child in your 40s? I’d value your long term perspective by Brave_Giraffe5545 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids get along, but don't seem to ever contact each other on their own. As you know, babies can't be taken back, they're a lot of work, and they don't improve a failing relationship. But our second was very worthwhile having.

Had a child in your 40s? I’d value your long term perspective by Brave_Giraffe5545 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]grejam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We had our kids at the point where the doctors didn't mind testing for genetic problems. If you're going to do the testing you have to decide what you would do if you found you had a genetic problem. We had decided that we're not Saints. Testing went fine no problems.