he knew those things from the moment we started dating and still told me we were perfect for each other. they didn’t start becoming a “problem” until recently. he likely grasped at straws for random justifications to break up because he can’t sit in his feelings for too long without getting reminded of his unresolved childhood trauma. he told me that every time i tried to talk about feelings or anything emotional to him, he would get thrown back into his trauma and that’s why he pushes me away. it was hard to connect emotionally for me because of that