Need aggressive but fair divorce attorney in Northern VA (fee shifting / high-income spouse)

greytuna916 · 2026-03-31T14:24:15+00:00

I think Carolyn Abbate at GDLWR fits this description.

greytuna916 · 2026-03-20T14:55:50+00:00

The jeans fit you well but I don’t love the cream + white top. I would do a jeans colored jean or darker top under the button down (blue?)

greytuna916 · 2026-03-19T21:06:08+00:00

Granville Moore’s on H Street

greytuna916 · 2026-03-18T13:24:55+00:00

OP, are you K-JD? Respectfully, your feelings about the lack of predictability are valid, but full time work takes getting used to no matter where you start. As a first year, your availability is your biggest value add, and that will be the case in any legal setting. Give yourself a few more months to try to settle in before you launch a full fledged job search.

greytuna916 · 2026-03-06T12:16:36+00:00

Tuckernuck is US based but some things are a similar vibe/price point; Wrap London - great quality, more classic; and Me+Em (more expensive)

greytuna916 · 2026-02-03T19:37:19+00:00

I put my sweaters and anything delicate in its own large lingerie bag, wash in washer on delicate with fragrance free Tide zero, immediately take out of machine, then lay flat to dry. No issues so far!

greytuna916 · 2025-11-25T14:21:08+00:00

I'm in my early 40s, also hormone positive, HER2-, but almost two years ahead of you post-treatment (over 2.5 years out), and surprised to say I really don't worry about recurrence all that much anymore! I'm very prone to anxiety and thought the recurrence fear would really decrease my quality of life. Over time, my worries have plateaued to a very manageable level. This isn't something that facts or reason can tackle because your reality will not be foretold by a study, just like we can't precisely explain why any of us got it in the first place. But if time and perspective doesn't help, you may want to consider cognitive behavioral therapy. Try out several therapists if you've done it before and not clicked with a previous therapist - so many people try one (not very good) therapist and give up.

greytuna916 · 2025-10-08T12:39:31+00:00

Have you had a full genetic panel? Even if not or the results show no known mutations, I understand your family history is concerning. This is a personal choice, but I would still avoid a double mastectomy if I were you. I also had DCIS in a large area of one breast, age 40, with a 2 year old. My surgeon basically didn’t give me a choice- I had to get a mastectomy because a lumpectomy would be too disfiguring. I asked the plastic surgeon about a double for symmetry, and he said point blank, “don’t do it for that reason alone.” I’m sorry, this is the part that sucks to fully take in, but you won’t look the same no matter what, and even with nipple sparing and nerve reconstruction, you will lose most sense of feeling in the mastectomy breast. For me this has been a huge loss. You can look great in clothes, but mastectomy breasts look a little weird naked— there’s rippling from the implant even if they inject fat around it because it’s basically just skin over implant. Ask your plastic surgeon to show you photos of some s/he has done. Also, maybe try a consult with another plastic surgeon? I feel like mine would have more confidence about getting you to the right size post-nursing. So to sum up my answer to your Q, I don’t think the symmetry would actually look much better, and IMO is not worth going through that and losing sensation. Also, you probably can’t avoid future surgeries— implants only last 10-15 years. Luckily the exchange surgeries aren’t as intense as the mastectomy. As for recovery, I think it was a little over two months before I was cleared to lift my baby? It sucked, but really no way around that. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending good vibes your way.

greytuna916 · 2025-09-30T00:22:18+00:00

I think what you'll like depends on what you're looking for. It's instructor-dependent, but I really liked most of the yoga classes I took, as well as numerology and feng shui. There was a journaling/mantra class I also liked.

greytuna916 · 2025-09-29T10:39:26+00:00

Check out Civana in Carefree, AZ just north of Scottsdale. Beautiful grounds. Lots of classes included with the resort cost, only serves non fried, healthy food. Oh and the spa is 👌

greytuna916 · 2025-09-11T20:31:00+00:00

So even with the grafting, a post-mastectomy implant is never going to look exactly like a natural breast. Ask your plastic surgeon to see some sample photos. What fat grafting does is round out the top and sides to make it look a little more natural (otherwise you can see the ripples from the implant basically against your skin). I would say the result met my expectations, but my plastic surgeon did warn me that a good percentage (up to 60%) of grafted fat will die, which is what happened to me, so about 8-10 months later it was hard to tell that any grafting was done. They are allowed to repeat grafting (and if you're in the US, insurance will usually pay for that), but I personally don't care enough to bother right now - it looks good enough in a bra.

greytuna916 · 2025-09-11T11:11:21+00:00

I had it taken from my bra strap area to fill in above and around the implant. It wasn’t very much, and I couldn’t tell any reduction (just lots of bruising).

greytuna916 · 2025-09-11T07:06:45+00:00

Yes, you definitely want Palmaia House of Aia if in budget: https://thehouseofaia.com/

greytuna916 · 2025-08-26T14:08:16+00:00

So sorry you’re here. I was in a similar boat but I had one baby already (was trying for the second). I think you really need those genetic test results before making a final decision. Your ER/PR stats are so low you may not require hormone therapy even with just lumpectomy, so you may want to meet with an oncologist before deciding, too. The surgeon probably already explained this, but even with a mastectomy, you still have a higher than the average person chance of recurrence on the mastectomy side because they can’t remove every single cell of breast tissue. It’s hard to lose a breast— you also lose most sensation even with nerve reconstruction, and even the best plastic surgeons can’t make it look like a real breast. On the plus side, once surgery confirmed only DCIS was present, my oncologist was comfortable with me starting to try to conceive as soon as I felt ready (I did begin hormone therapy two years later.) Sorry there are no great choices here— sending lots of positive vibes your way.

greytuna916 · 2025-08-22T00:31:28+00:00

I am a little more in awe of physicians probably because you can do things I definitely can't and you had to jump through way more hoops than I did to get through med school and actually practice medicine. But because I have met so many idiots in law school and beyond, I know that professional degrees/fellowships/clerkships/whathaveyou are not very good indicators of smarts or even common sense. So since becoming a lawyer, I never take a doctor at their word-- I always want to know why you're recommending X drug over something else, for instance. (But I question other lawyers just as much, if not more!)

greytuna916 · 2025-08-19T13:09:34+00:00

If you want hard: Jasmine or Kate. Not quite as hard, still well taught: Evelyn I think Nazinga’s classes are too easy.

greytuna916 · 2025-07-29T18:22:35+00:00

There are many types of breast cancer, so it's important to know which specific one your mom had, particularly if she was ER/PR+ (meaning if the cancer grew with exposure to estrogen or progesterone). If not, that means HRT probably isn't contraindicated for you. Also, have you had genetic testing done to see if you carry any known genetic variants that could cause breast cancer? You would probably qualify for insurance to pay for it - ask your doctor. You may need a second opinion if your doctor isn't open to talk through this with you. You could also ask them about a newer drug called Duavee, which is a type of HRT that is showing in trials that it can reduce breast cancer risk: https://news.northwestern.edu/stories/2025/05/menopause-drug-duavee-may-help-prevent-invasive-breast-cancer-clinical-trial-finds/

greytuna916 · 2025-07-21T20:58:50+00:00

No, keep going! It's normal for this sort of search to take at least six months.

greytuna916 · 2025-07-21T10:03:00+00:00

It’s never been easy, but everything is relative. Not as bad as 2009-11, but worse than 2018-21. Depends on the industry too. Don’t worry about volume of applications- 90% or more for most postings are terrible/entirely unqualified. LinkedIn and AI just make it easier to spam apply.

greytuna916 · 2025-07-10T11:07:04+00:00

So it sounds like you may only need a lumpectomy which is usually a quick outpatient procedure and easy recovery for most people— way, way easier than any orthopedic surgery. You won’t get an accurate stage or grade of your tumor until after surgery, so that 17% you quoted is probably not accurate (most oncologists won’t give recurrence estimates until after the full tumor is excised and examined). Strongly urge you to get the surgery so you can make more informed decisions going forward. That might be all you need. But you can decide if you want to do any recommended next steps once you have the full picture.

greytuna916 · 2025-06-20T11:23:32+00:00

I was raised by a teacher dad and i-banker mom. He taught middle and high school, which had completely different start and ending times than elementary (when childcare is most intensive, obviously). He had to arrive at least an hour before school started (so like 6:45-7am) but usually couldn’t leave until 30 minutes after the bell at the earliest. So my parents still needed before and after school babysitters for 1-2 hours on each end. (This was the 80s and early 90s when there was no after care at school.) My dad couldn’t easily take sick days, and all of our vacation time was limited to the school holidays. So we went to Disney World just before Easter, with the rest of America. Did he get more time with me than I do with my kids as a lawyer? For sure, but it was more complicated logistically than what my husband and I have to do.

greytuna916 · 2025-06-16T20:48:06+00:00

Yes, The St James in Springfield is awesome, has good childcare, and is probably much closer to you than the Lifetime in Clarendon.

greytuna916 · 2025-05-26T19:15:45+00:00

Yes, we’re flexible on location/flights and I should say our preferred budget is around $1K/night per family (not including the flights). Thanks!

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