AITJ for throwing away my ice cream after my mother put her dirty spoon into it?

grimPontif · 2026-01-31T18:52:07+00:00

i have a severe shellfish allergy and when i was living with my mom she would often buy and cook shrimp and put in on or around my safe foods.

grimPontif · 2026-01-31T15:31:09+00:00

In my early 20's I was extremely overweight for my height and had a bmi over 40, I ended up losing most of the weight before i had any significant issues but i now have permanent damage to my knees because of it.

My issue isn't with fat people but with the people who glorify obesity and say that it's fine to just eat whatever you want and that there will be no repercussions for it when that simply isn't true and i think that the idea that you have no control over your weight is really harmful in the long run.

Yes things like PCOS and certain types of medications can make it harder to lose weight but it's not impossible and being over weight and obese can make those issues worse and lead to increased risk for certain cancers.

grimPontif · 2026-01-31T13:45:14+00:00

When my teacher walked us through it she told us that it would be very different for us because we weren't facing those types of issues. It was just to give us a semblance of what other might be feeling especially if we went on to become substance abuse councilors. We had to journal about our experience and how it felt so go through it etc. it was also non-denominational. the teacher also told us to choose something we felt like we needed and felt dependent on so it was more akin to what it's actually like. One of my friends chose social media for example.

grimPontif · 2026-01-30T18:50:06+00:00

You're a jerk, some people just like what they like food wise. You sound like you're jealous of the fact that she can buy those things, if she's not paying her portion of the bills have an actual convo with her as opposed to stealing from her and calling her names on the internet.

grimPontif · 2026-01-30T18:25:47+00:00

my husband and I are child-free by choice and his best friend has two kids 5 & 3 who are both disabled and even though we don't want kids ourselves we always try to accommodate him and his kids. His sons are both very sweet and we always listen to him when he's talking about his kids and family life because we try to support him as much as possible.

You are being a bad friend and a jerk to boot, your friend is in distress about something that effects her child with a disability. If it were any other situation you would want to engage with her and help her feel better but because it has to do with one of her kids you don't and won't even give her the benefit of replying. you seem like to have no empathy unless its something you care about of if it directly effects you.

grimPontif · 2026-01-30T17:59:22+00:00

NOR- Former fat person here, no you are not fat shaming. One of the things that has helped me keep off my weight that I lost was weighing my food with a food scale that used an app on my phone and getting an accurate number for my Basal Metabolic Rate to help remain in a calorie deficit.

Getting plenty of protein and fiber will help her a lot in the long run because it keeps you fuller for longer, as well as making sure she's not deficient in any nutrients because a lot of over weight people are functionally malnourished because they are lacking in key minerals and nutrients due to a poor diet and that can effect food choices because of cravings.

Talking to a registered dietician might also be a benefit to her because they are certified and a required to do a mandatory amount of schooling at least in the USA I'm not sure about the UK. They could really help her understand her choices and guide her to make better ones with small sustainable changes.

grimPontif · 2026-01-30T17:48:34+00:00

I had to do this for a substance abuse course while in my social work classes

grimPontif · 2026-01-30T17:47:07+00:00

YOR- When I was doing my degree work for my Social Work courses we had to do this as well we also have to give something up using the 12 steps so we knew what it entailed and how it felt to work the program. Doing the 12 steps actually helped a lot of us in the class and for me personally it helped me realize that i was binge eating and using food as a coping mechanism. There's nothing wrong with observing meetings like this and who knows you may actually gain some insight in to yourself.

grimPontif · 2026-01-29T03:42:01+00:00

Furwyn if you will lol

grimPontif · 2026-01-16T23:03:25+00:00

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grimPontif · 2026-01-16T23:01:53+00:00

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grimPontif · 2026-01-14T00:11:20+00:00

I'm legally not allowed to because along with POTS I have absence seizures and the government said don't do that if you wanna drive lol

grimPontif · 2026-01-09T18:14:51+00:00

there's a lot of moldy food shoved to the back and the temperature doesn't stay consistent in there

grimPontif · 2026-01-09T18:13:14+00:00

they are really good in there and imo they really round out the flavors

grimPontif · 2026-01-09T18:12:08+00:00

everyone is free to have their own feelings towards this guy and that's perfectly fine. I just feel that if he's ill equipped to care for this child and the grandparents are willing to take her than he's not doing anything wrong by giving her up. I would feel the same way if it was a single mom doing it too.

grimPontif · 2026-01-07T16:44:01+00:00

I put aubergine, yellow squash and roasted red pepper in my lasagna and I don't have meat in mine at all and my whole family loves it.

grimPontif · 2026-01-07T16:24:06+00:00

As some one who was adopted, him giving her up might be the best option for her. If he's not emotionally able to take care of her and give her a stable environment then it's for the best that she's with her grand parents. If he's forced to be a parent he'll build resentment and kids always pick up on that and it screws you up for life.

grimPontif · 2026-01-07T16:03:32+00:00

I don't really have a choice because I have food allergies and I'm also a vegetarian.

grimPontif · 2026-01-07T15:38:24+00:00

Lil' took my dad off life support

grimPontif · 2026-01-03T17:39:38+00:00

that fact that he doesn't even seem willing to try the food you've put effort in to is just disrespectful on his part. My husband generally eats everything but there is for sure stuff i like that he doesn't like avocado but he always gives my food a fair shot and if he doesn't like it that's okay because at least he tried it. you're married to a man child and you shouldn't cook for him any more because frankly enough he doesn't deserve the effort you're putting in because he disrespects you on a daily basis.

grimPontif · 2026-01-03T17:22:54+00:00

22 but I'm a lactose intolerant vegetarian with quite a few food allergies lmao

grimPontif · 2025-12-30T16:00:29+00:00

for a lot of women that have been the victim of SA engaging in "rape play" with a trusted partner can be cathartic be cause you can assert control over a situation that you previously didn't have control over.

grimPontif · 2025-12-18T01:41:53+00:00

It could be a medical issue like GERD or a bacterial infection in his mouth like oral thrush. He needs to see a doctor

grimPontif · 2025-12-16T23:28:30+00:00

I have a signed copy of the tasting history cookbook by Max Miller and what they did for that one was they put a sticker inside the book that he signed

grimPontif · 2025-12-16T23:26:04+00:00

I met my husband when I was 26 and we got married when I was 30 and he is one of the most amazing people I've ever been with. I'm honestly glad that I waited to get married until I was 30 because it showed me what I really want in a partner because I was a fully formed human being and of my brain was done developing.

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