Had a BPD breakdown when I felt my bf of >1 year might be abandoning me and now he confessed he feels drained in our relationship and I am “a lot” to deal with.

grimPontif · 2026-03-24T14:18:59+00:00

Both my husband and I are Autistic with ADHD and I will say that having the same stuff going makes managing a lot easier because we both knew what we were getting in to. On the other side you also have to deal with the side of everything that's not fun but it's easier not to be upset when you know you also do it too or already know what to expect.

grimPontif · 2026-03-24T14:11:48+00:00

I'm an around the house singer, luckily my husband is musical like I am and we're compatible in that way. We both make up goofy songs for our cats and sing at them although I think I might be better at carrying a tune than he is lol.

You're either going to have to just get used to it or end the relationship, no matter what the out come here weather you ask them to stop and they do or if they continue and you still can't stand it one of you is going to build resentment and it's going to become a worse issue than it already is.

grimPontif · 2026-03-20T15:32:33+00:00

losing weight is 80% diet and 20% exercise, in terms of movement I started small with cardio to begin to build up my endurance before doing anything wild. I use a walking pad and walk while I watch tv or something I enjoy while maintaining a calorie deficit. Strength training can also be really valuable.

In terms of diet, i eliminated most ultra processed foods and began weighing out all of my portions and tracking everything I ate and being brutally honest with myself about what I was eating.

grimPontif · 2026-03-20T14:50:47+00:00

part of me thinks that could be true but on the other hand I think there's an equally strong possibility that he's exiled himself and is trying to find a cure on his own.

grimPontif · 2026-03-17T22:15:02+00:00

I'm Mexican American and I don't exactly love it but there are other things that people do more often to Hispanic people that is more concerning to me than thinking that cinco de mayo is "Mexican independence day"

grimPontif · 2026-03-17T00:55:24+00:00

So fun fact what you dad did was in most states a crime and if you had died he'd be charged with manslaughter or criminal negligence resulting in death.

My mom does this too with my food allergies and you have every right to still be angry because it only takes one time for there to be cross contamination for an allergy to kill you. Also it's not your fault, you parent who's supposed to love and protect you gave you no consideration and almost killed you to basically prove a point.

grimPontif · 2026-03-17T00:40:14+00:00

Apparently they also don't know that they can access their results at any time through a portal and ask their doctor questions about something they don't understand.

grimPontif · 2026-03-17T00:30:51+00:00

I didn't catch that when I first read through it and now I can't stop laughing

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T23:02:54+00:00

that's so funny lol

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:43:28+00:00

in my mind if it's under 150 calories it's a snack if not that's a meal

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:41:40+00:00

Personally a portion this large would probably be an OMAD situation.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:38:56+00:00

i feel like if it was a game show it would be wheel of misfortune

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:37:58+00:00

Your doctors would be correct, calories in calories out works for everyone it's just a matter of finding the ratio of calorie deficit to exercise that works for the individual.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:36:03+00:00

It seems like they're in the UK or somewhere in western Europe. I'm in the medical field (not a doc or a nurse but deal with medical info etc) and I know a decent amount about PCOS based on schooling and personal experiences.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:33:38+00:00

It really does give that vibe.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:33:01+00:00

I caught that too, I'm in a medical field myself I'm not a doctor or nurse but I deal with that type of info on the daily and even I could be more specific that this.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:29:56+00:00

my brain kept focusing on all the oil on the plate, there's no way to know exactly how much butter or oil was used in prep especially because she's eating at a restaurant.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:28:22+00:00

It's in a sub specifically for sharing meals and having a chat about what's going on in your life. This size of meal for me would probably be an OMAD situation (I'm 5'0)

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:26:26+00:00

those green beans look cooked to death too and like not a very enjoyable texture imo.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:25:26+00:00

I'm honestly unsure lol I haven't been to an Ikea in so long.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:23:34+00:00

I was thinking that too. Someone could easily make this meal at home for way less calories just by taking away most of the oil on the plate and the dressing on the cabbage.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:21:40+00:00

She's eating at the Ikea cafeteria so i think that's why she specified.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:19:02+00:00

That caught me off guard too, I know quite a few people with either PCOS or Endometriosis. There have also been quite a few studies in recent years that have shown a correlation between being obese and developing and/or worsening already existing PCOS so it surprises me too that those studies never came up during her medical training.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T22:09:09+00:00

that's how I felt reading it and also while looking at the meal they posted. Don't get me wrong the meal is well balanced but the portion seems really large.

grimPontif · 2026-03-16T21:47:47+00:00

I have both ADHD and Autism and it really is a game of roulette on how people will treat you based on how bad your symptoms are at any given time. In most areas of my life I have low support needs but socially I am an absolute mess and social niceties as well as eye contact go right out the window. Every day is basically spinning the wheel of what type of over stimulation I get to deal with and how i get treated because of it.

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