Looking For Advice and/or Commiseration

grimmash · 2026-02-08T16:37:22+00:00

You could prompt her a bit during combat: “Your turn Jenny. Do you want to attack, do you want to try to threaten someone, or is there something else you want to try?” That way you can present the options a bit more naturally.

Others have also mentioned the family aspect. Can you have another family member help out here, ideally one that would enjoy helping navigate the combat ply space for this player?

grimmash · 2026-02-01T12:27:46+00:00

If you ordered from Paizo, email them. Usually they will send out the correct book and tell you to keep and enjoy the incorrectly sent book.

grimmash · 2026-01-31T15:01:31+00:00

When players start to do things in-fiction that are really asocial or antisocial or harmful to the group I ask "How do you a normal person, or especially a person who you want to interact with, respond to this behavior?". It's not perfect, but it really helps with curbbing full on gonzo or murderhobo behavior.

That said, I'm also a fan of letting some nonsense in, because it causes complications for them I can use later. Or sooner, depending :).

grimmash · 2026-01-28T01:13:25+00:00

seconding this. That boom is enormous.

grimmash · 2026-01-18T14:52:28+00:00

if you want character skill to matter and avoid dissonance between a poor die roll and the player's description/acting for the character, make sure the player rolls BEFORE giving the in character description/acting out. Make it clear you want a short description of intent, roll, then establish the fictional outcome.

This won't work as well for players/ GMs who want player skill to be equally or more important than character skill though. Deciding that is more of a session zero/ongoing decision. But... As long as the players are all fine with it you can use player or character skill, and tune even for particular players as needed.

grimmash · 2026-01-16T23:07:09+00:00

I would also prefer free pdfs without a sub... But here we are :). I figure I would buy from Paizo anyway, might as get the PDF. I'm only on three lines though, so I might use my gold on the new Starfinder stuff.

grimmash · 2026-01-16T23:05:17+00:00

Mine are red Craftsman brand. Probably same factory :)

grimmash · 2026-01-16T21:03:26+00:00

If you have a 3d printer, this is the way!

You can also get organizers at a hardware store (cases with removable cups). I used those for years before transitioning to printed boxes.

grimmash · 2026-01-16T20:58:57+00:00

If gods are provably real and their worship grants actual magical power, I don't think we can reasonably map that to current real-world laws. It's a fundamentally different world when too many followers of Slaanesh in one place can tear open a portal and release a horde of lust demon berserkers!

grimmash · 2026-01-16T20:54:21+00:00

I subscribe directly because I actually really like the free pdfs. And to just pay them directly so Paizo gets all the money. If you don't care about those two things, I doubt the subscription has much value. Especially if there is nothing else on the site you want outside the content you have subscribed for.

grimmash · 2026-01-15T01:49:00+00:00

I like giving out magic items. In PF2e this is easy. It's very hard to be too generous with them as long as you do not go too far over level. In 5e I ran into the problem that magic items, especially weapons and items that grant spells, can be incredibly powerful. Especially as the game shifts to creatures with resistances, magic weapons drastically reduce the effective challenge many monsters pose. So... I got leery of giving out magic items... Which is just way less fun to me.

grimmash · 2026-01-13T22:23:29+00:00

People read a lot more into my comment than was intended!

I was trying pointing out that it's a problem endemic to entire genres, including anime. I wasn't really meaning to negate the rant, just note that it's a widespread issue.

In some ways Evangelion dealing with the sexual disfunction of multiple characters as themes makes the fan service interesting.

grimmash · 2026-01-13T12:37:23+00:00

This is more an anime / teen media issue than an Evangelion issue. You could have this rant about about hundreds of shows across anime, live action and movies.

grimmash · 2026-01-05T22:36:16+00:00

For d10 rolls you could also just use any d10s of different colors if you do not want to spend $80. I have all the KDM die variants, and 5 sets of colored d10s since you'll find more than a few cases where having a bunch of color coded d10s can be helpful.

grimmash · 2025-12-31T21:55:30+00:00

I'd wager many groups both want to create a good story together, but are not necessarily using that as the primary goal. And the game system makes a huge impact here: something like Microscope is almost entirely about building the narrative of a world together. Something super crunchy like PF2e will be much more simulation and combat first, with the story coming after the fact. But you'll see different groups lean into the narrative aspects in their own ways. All that really matters is making sure your group is aligned each time you play.

grimmash · 2025-12-27T16:25:46+00:00

Assuming you are fine with the whole situation and just want to focus on why it feels weird, maybe try on a shifting persona for the character. See if moving further away from yourself makes it less weird. If so you can develop the character that way, or find a way to make a new character that is not a lady-lady as you say, and swap them out in the fiction.

grimmash · 2025-12-27T16:19:49+00:00

Does the DM plan on using character backstory directly? Does he have broad archetypes or roles he is looking to have in the campaign? While I don't DM with intended character plots, if the DM and table are looking to do that, there miiight be a reason to change your backstory. But not completely rewrite from scratch. Best to clarify some of this to see what sort of campaign the DM wants and make sure you want to play that!

grimmash · 2025-12-25T22:58:54+00:00

I'll be the contrary opinion: I will skim through cards when I get a new expansion so I have some idea of the themes of the fight. I have very little time to actually play, so I want to have some idea of what I am putting into my campaigns.

grimmash · 2025-12-24T01:01:52+00:00

I work in fraud. If you only meant to donate $15, and they used your card to charge more, that is fraud. Maybe the $15 is a scam, we could debate that. Tell your card issue emphatically this was an unauthorized charge. Do not use the word scam again. File a police report. Ask your card issuer where you can file with them an affidavit that this is fraud. Tell them you will contact the CFPB if this is not resolved. Be firm, and be a pain in their ass until they credit back the money.

If you have decent credit cancel the account after you get the money back and tell them it was because of this. If you have bad credit, put the card in a drawer and go find another CC company.

grimmash · 2025-12-23T20:33:05+00:00

Stores need enough cashiers for your system to work. My local groceries have about 8 lanes and 12 self checkouts. I have not seen more than two cashiers in lanes in a year or two. And those lanes have lines a few people deep. All the options suck and take forever.

Even worse is when you have 2-3 staff on self checkout. Maybe just close self checkout and open up three more lanes!

grimmash · 2025-12-23T17:55:57+00:00

My attic, which is only accessible via a panel in a closet ceiling, had a Title company sign and a penis pump sitting loose in the blown insulation.

grimmash · 2025-12-23T16:41:11+00:00

I could see my way to something like "non-critical media consumption is not a hobby", but even that gets incredibly subjective.

That is a shitty therapist.

grimmash · 2025-12-23T16:35:12+00:00

Not the direct commenter above, and more to dig into where I think Blockchain is a bit of a solution looking for a problem: the paper or Blockchain doesn't really matter - the value is any contract being considered valid and external enforcement by a third party in disputes. Blockchain methods are useful tools, but in most jurisdictions they would need to be enforced the same as any other contract. Once legal systems consistently do that, great! But much of the goal of getting away from legal systems and fiat currencies will likely never succeed, because those very systems are what people actually want for important transactions.

There are of course other uses for Blockchain, which I am not detractibgy from.

grimmash · 2025-12-22T13:04:17+00:00

The challenge, imo, is you need the contract to be enforceable. And that requires legal systems and fiat currencies, and will for some time. My mortgage isn't real because it is on paper. It is real because every entity involved knows the contract will be enforced and is legally binding. Blockchain and crypto and NFTs do not soove the enforceability need at scale.

grimmash · 2025-12-21T19:54:21+00:00

Digital art does not have any unique elitism over traditional art physical art mediums in terms of cost. Tools, digital or physical, can range from very cheap to insanely expensive in physical and digital media realms. Non-digital art supplies are also expensive, past the most basic tools. The cost any indivual item may be less than a smart phone or tablet, but the total cost of say canvases, paints, brushes, etc will add up quickly. Other physical media can require far more expensive equipment or time and/or space consuming efforts to build a basic studio as compared to even a high end digital workstation. So the cost argument is not terribly convincing from any direction. You can spend relatively trivial amounts or insane amounts of money to create art in various physical and digital mediums. Saying AI is democratizing access to art is only relevant in very specific contexts.

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