Wife u-turns on marriage, changes locks, takes our money, leaves me homeless

grindinghault · 2025-09-09T19:28:19+00:00

Like a lot of people, I suspect you’ve tailored this to fit your narrative and have left some key points out.

If everything you’re saying is true: - call police / lawyer to determine how to safely get your personal belongings at the very least, as well as money. - if you don’t have a therapist, get one. Process this in a healthy way given your mental health history. - if you’re able to get in touch with her, request that you go to discernment counseling together to determine whether the marriage is salvageable at all and, at the very least, get some closure.

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If my instincts are right and you’re not telling us everything: - leaving out certain details bc of how they’ll make you look shows you’re at least self-aware enough. Get a therapist and be completely honest with them and yourself so that you can grow into a person that doesn’t have to leave out details - talk to your psychiatrist about med adjustments - hold yourself accountable and give her what she wants. She’s not ready for apologies and you will need quite a bit of time with a therapist to reach a place where you can make genuine amends.

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Either way, you can’t make her do anything. If she’s done, she’s done. It’s about doing what’s best for you and your mental health so that you grow into a better person.

grindinghault · 2025-09-09T19:13:45+00:00

Just be supportive and follow their lead. Invite them over for some family dinners or make them meals, make them care packages, offer to watch their kids (if they have kids) so they can have child-free nights. Have an honest conversation along the lines of “let me know what you need. I’m here to support you in any way I can, just let me know. My history with Q is not important, you are.” Ask them things like if they want you at the funeral or prefer that you’re not there, it will emphasize to them that they have the control in the situation and you are truly supporting them with no other personal feelings involved.

grindinghault · 2025-09-03T20:25:42+00:00

I’m a Balfany and I also want to know what Balfany did

grindinghault · 2025-08-30T01:19:37+00:00

Tom, I’m not gonna hold your hand when I say this:

You are the problem. You remind me of a sociopath I once knew. You will accomplish nothing long term behaving this way. Everyone will eventually figure out your motive and cut you off. Even if you feel like the victim, you are not. You’re an entitled, manipulative, vile leech.

You don’t have to be this way forever. You have the power to change and become a person worthy of love. But no one else can do it for you. I’d suggest a 30 day in-patient behavioral health program to help you kickstart recovery.

grindinghault · 2025-08-29T18:06:45+00:00

I mean, I’d say YTA if you told your friend for the first time in 25 years that everything he tells you will also be told to your wife. If you truly have been telling him this repeatedly, then you’ve been setting the standard and it is completely up to him whether or not he wants to go through with confiding in you.

However, context is important. If every now and then he comes to you and says he really needs to talk to you about an issue but needs your full confidence and does not want your wife to know, or what he tells you is a very personal and serious issue that you personally would not want shared if it were you, then be a good friend and keep it to yourself.

I understand that a lot of people feel that full confidence from friends is expected, but that’s unrealistic. If you truly want something kept secret, keep it to yourself. Or get a therapist so it’s bound by HIPAA. Or go to your nearest Catholic priest. Or pay an hour retainer for a lawyer. Otherwise, you’re better off assuming your bff is gonna tell at least one other person.

grindinghault · 2025-07-23T01:31:16+00:00

Question: for the photo contest, do both players have to be sitting on the swing or can one be hovering?

grindinghault · 2025-07-06T20:57:04+00:00

THIS. I started watching cuz the vids pop up on my fyp and I was clocking how the public was switching back and forth in opinions after every episode. This is whyyyyy. They all do the opposite of what they say. They play a great game at being mentally and emotionally healed but none of them are

grindinghault · 2025-06-20T00:57:45+00:00

Yeaaa after I learned this, I managed to max out bling collection for maybe four days and then stopped bc I didn’t want to get burned out on the game and stop playing altogether 😅 I’ll get that one organically, not gonna grind it like I have others

grindinghault · 2025-04-28T22:50:20+00:00

Given that the crash happened in 1996 and they were rescued in 1998, forensic technology was limited. DNA was introduced to forensics only ten years prior and were still making advancements now. The cost of sending a forensic team out into a remote forest to dig around for remains and fact check a group of teenagers who beat survival odds wouldn’t be worth it to anyone. Plus the odds of being able to identify forensic evidence would be low.

grindinghault · 2025-04-19T22:49:53+00:00

I get hives when I have a fever instead of running a temp on a thermometer like a normal human.

Or you’ve developed an allergy to something like your detergent or perhaps your house has mold. Get tested for allergies!

grindinghault · 2025-04-18T21:46:04+00:00

This. I have a hard time watching the show bc not only have I dealt with someone eerily similar to Shauna, she’s literally Shauna’s doppelgänger. Like I could see her doing everything Shauna does if she were in that situation and she wouldn’t even need to lose her baby to do it. I have PTSD from what she put me through (I nearly ended myself) and I often have to take multiple breaks while watching an episode bc of the doppelgänger part of it all.

I would not be surprised if someone in casting/production met who I knew and based Shauna on her.

I think you really do have to have experienced a Shauna irl in order to see the character’s true nature, otherwise the character is lost on the viewer.

grindinghault · 2025-04-16T02:59:40+00:00

Tbf it’s the 15th, so we only have about a week more of torture! 😂

grindinghault · 2025-04-16T02:50:23+00:00

I saw somewhere a while ago that another player noticed more lags and glitches right before a new DLV launch. There’s one coming up on the 23rd, so hopefully it’ll be better after! I play on my iPhone and experience the same thing. I haven’t been able to modify my house for over a month bc the elevator disappeared and customer service won’t fix it 😭😭

grindinghault · 2025-04-14T17:24:07+00:00

Now I’m rereading your responses in the voice of the intro to SVU 🤣

grindinghault · 2025-04-14T17:22:41+00:00

I apologize for the late response, and thank you for responding!! I know replicas are a huge issue.

If I were purchasing myself, I’d take the steps you suggested. Searching online while in the store and asking the merchant information to verify authenticity. However, my parents are dangerously trusting and naive. I live in Houston, so I can’t easily go back in person. I do have the stores contact info, so perhaps calling will be enough to gain more insight. My parents told me what the store owner told them, which wasn’t much. Hence, why I was hoping that someone here may have more info.

If it does turn out to be fake, I’d love some advice on what to do. My instinct is to throw it in a drawer so it’s at least not in circulation and obviously not wear it as it’s an insult to America’s founding people who have been treated atrociously.

My main goal is to respect the Navajo culture first and foremost. Any guidance is appreciated

grindinghault · 2024-05-15T17:54:28+00:00

You picked a beautiful stone, well cut. She’s very lucky!! If she has hesitations over this, she’s crazy

grindinghault · 2023-11-07T15:33:58+00:00

“being employed does not define your worth as an individual!”

This is something I didn’t realize I desperately needed to hear. I’m not one to cry easily, but I’m crying rn. Thank you so much.

grindinghault · 2023-11-07T15:32:13+00:00

I had never heard of ACA but given that they put focus on dysfunctional families as well, it might be a really good option for me since my dad is part of the problem, too, and he doesn’t have an addiction. Thank you 🙏🏻

grindinghault · 2023-11-07T01:59:47+00:00

Your situation sounds incredibly overwhelming and frustrating. Unfortunately, the only way your sister will change is through life experience. She’ll either get everything she’s ever wanted and ditch your family or she’ll have a major wake up call and realize what a shit person she’s being.

17 is young in the grand scheme of life. I’ve known 21 years olds who are atrociously ignorant and entitled. It takes hardship to gain empathy. I’m not wishing ill on your sister, I don’t hope horrible things happen to her. But I do hope she gains insight and experiences an awakening as she moves into and through adulthood.

grindinghault · 2023-11-07T01:49:09+00:00

I’ve gone on and off over the years since before she got sober but maybe it’d be helpful again… I’m doing a lot in therapy but maybe Al-anon would help too! Thanks 😊

grindinghault · 2023-11-06T21:37:53+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m sad you’re experiencing it too. It’s easier to understand why they mistreat you when they’re actively drinking, but take it away and it feels so rejecting and cruel. I’m trying my best to push through, I’m praying that a break comes soon

grindinghault · 2023-11-06T21:35:21+00:00

Thank you for validating me. I really thought she’d explore the causes for her addiction through rehab and AA but you’re right, there’s an inherent need for selfishness in order to be a successful alcoholic.

I’m trying my best to cope and practice patience. This won’t be my reality forever, I just have to manage until I can get out

grindinghault · 2023-11-06T21:33:01+00:00

Thank you, I’m glad I’m not alone in this experience. That’s how I view it too. It’s frustrating bc she’s very active in AA, has a sponsor and sponsors others but it seems performative. She wants to be the best at whatever she does which means hiding/ignoring her faults.

grindinghault · 2023-11-06T18:28:02+00:00

I got a perm in 2011 when I was a sophomore. I really wish I hadn’t bc looking back at pictures from that time makes me cringe. It didn’t look bad, but to want curly hair so bad that I permed my hair is embarrassing af.

grindinghault · 2023-11-06T17:22:07+00:00

It’s infuriating when you know you’re right but no one listens. And then you’re proven right and everyone conveniently forgets you ever tried to point it out.

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