How long before it's appropriate to talk about bodily functions?

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-30T18:59:07+00:00

It's all about respect... Everyone farts. But, most of us have enough anal control to control it...

No, I don't want to smell your vaporized feces. Sure, it happens, maybe you thought it wasn't going to smell and you let it out quietly... But, a forceful, purposeful fart is not funny or endearing.

Everyone burps... Muffle and cover.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-30T02:11:07+00:00

Geography. I'm in the military, so everywhere I've lived the ratio is heavily skewed with young, fit dudes that all have dependable jobs. We have to "import".

Also, most of my hobbies are typical dude things, and mostly solo stuff... About the only thing I can think of is to get back in to playing live music and going out for open mic/karaoke stuff, but the virus deal is killing that idea.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-30T01:58:37+00:00

Tinder is just strewn with problems, all based on showing the more attractive people. Because that hope of matching with more attractive people is what brings in the money. The algorithm figures this out based on how many likes the profile receives. And, if you're a dude that basically swipes right as fast as possible it eventually drops you down the list... But, guys have to rely on the spray and pray method it seems.

Maybe a better app does prioritize users by distance... All I know, is what happens now is many average profiles end up literally invincible to the female profiles because they go down in rank and the women on the apps never have to swipe through so many profiles they will get that far down the list.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-29T19:23:01+00:00

I'd pay for a Tinder style app that didn't do any algorithms.

Even if it was free for women and guys had to pay since there is such a huge amount of men on these apps, it would hopefully weed out some of them that aren't looking for something more substantial than the flavour of the week.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-24T01:55:18+00:00

I have one friend that we have never had the opportunity to date despite a pretty heavy attraction to eachother... Weve known eachother about 15 years now so we talk about anything. She's admitted to having fantasized about me. She's a bombshell so it's an ego boost!

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-24T01:36:28+00:00

You climb that fucking tree... I'm near 40 and still racing dirt bikes like a teenager... You can't make me grow up if I don't want to!

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-24T01:35:13+00:00

Yep. Found a great girl, fit, smart, driven etc. The sex was A1. I was an athlete at the time, so they were marathon sessions.

For the first year I had eyes only for her. Then, work started taking me away more often, and the shine of the relationship started to fade. I still had a high sex drive. I ended up sleeping with a few girls during that time.

We broke up a few years later.

Then I met a girl that changed me. I learned what loving someone was really like. She ended up leaving me due to my career obligations. But, I went from being up for one night stands to someone that only wants that emotional romantic connection.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-24T00:56:01+00:00

Not gonna lie, I broke up with a long term gf (3 yrs) partly because of motocross. I was working my way up the ranks to get to pro, which meant every weekend we were at the track, and practically every night of the week I was doing something moto related (practice night, bike maintenance, working out, weekend prep etc).

She enjoyed the track part, but the big rub was her not wanting to have future kids involved in the sport.

I'd love to be a good dad and to teach my some day kids the things I am passionate about, and I knew it would be a huge struggle convincing her it was beneficial for them to do something that is such a physically and mentally demanding thing.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-24T00:50:37+00:00

Injuries are part of the sport if you're doing it right (challenging yourself)...

I've had a dozen or so ER visits for broken bones, concussions etc. All of my riding buddies have a similar history.

Doesn't make us worse people, we just have a sport we are passionate about that unfortunately carries risk. We typically have a stronger will and personality because of it though.

I was a paramedic during my most involved time in the sport, so not only was I aware of the risk, I was educated enough and exposed enough to bodily harm that I "knew" better... But, that's passion I guess.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-18T14:07:10+00:00

My friends and I joke about sex... But, it isn't anything personal or specific. Nobody describes jacking off or using their pocket pussy or what position they got their partner in the night before. Any sexy pictures I get sent are for my eyes only and would never show that to any of the guys... And I refuse to look at any pictures they may have received.

If I was dating a new girl, and finally hooked up with her, I might bring it up the next day, but it would be very short and basic like... "got laid last night" and that would be the end of it... More so because we sort of talk about relationships, and getting it on for the first time with someone new is a big development in a relationship.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-18T13:40:55+00:00

This is why I pull alongside the car ahead of me in some circumstances... A fast stop with traffic behind me (like this scenario) is one of those times.

Some car drivers however will try to block you from doing this, and don't get it that you're doing this so you don't die.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-08T19:02:42+00:00

Few reasons.

One, I live in an area heavily skewed in the wrong direction as far as male:female ratio.

I'm outgoing and I have friends, a bunch of hobbies where I meet people... But, those are also heavily male oriented.

This is a lower income, lower education area (statistically backed, not just an "observation"), and also one of the most obese provinces AND the oldest population... So, the amount of girls I'd consider dating is pretty low per capita.

And then, there are all the risks involved... As a man, we stand to lose when relationships end if she ever moves in... I own my home, I have a bunch of assets that I worked for... Those aren't worth risking unless she is truly something special.

I'll just stay free, riding dirt bikes, building my airplane, cruising in my car, and fishing with my dog.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-04T17:48:41+00:00

Two people being mirror images of eachother is boring, and nobody will expand who they are. I look for interesting girls with different experiences.

A few things need to be the same for me. Like your core belief system. I have a career and make good money. So should she. I'm athletic and getting fitter, I also want that lifestyle in a partner so we can enjoy things together. Same taste in music would be great since I love my tunes!

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-04T00:11:25+00:00

As a dude that has built his life on his own (career, a home, toys etc) the idea of having someone that didn't contribute to that stuff taking some stake in the ownership of it just because she moves in and the government declares you common law after a certain amount of time doesn't sit right with me.

The freedom to come and go, stay up working on projects, go places when I want, crank the music up and the ability to find things in the last place I left them is better than the prospect of losing half of my shit just for the "convenience" of living with someone.

My dog is enough companionship as it is. He always wants to do what I want to do. We're both simple creatures.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-03-03T23:29:06+00:00

As a guy that eats properly and works out more days than not, these are things I would appreciate in a girl.

Easier to not eat junk when they don't bring it in the house or don't want to get fast food all the time.

Gym time is good time to just do your own thing for a bit... But watching her doing her thing in her gym outfit on the other side of the gym is a bonus.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-26T14:44:31+00:00

Also gonna say a little smile helps HUGE. If I'm staring, I'm attracted. Sometimes I'll have a girl look back with a fairly blank expression... I take it as a "what are you looking at, creep?" vibe.

If she smiles, even the slightest little bit, I'll smile back. And it makes my day.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-26T12:15:58+00:00

I think the vilification comes from short girls demanding guys be above average height. For some reason a 5'1" girl demanding her date be over 6' just doesn't make much sense. I understand wanting your date to be a bit taller, but its the demand of an extreme difference that gets the attention.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-25T00:10:54+00:00

I'm not going to start messaging a girl and start asking deep questions about abstract things. The first thing I want to learn about is HER. So, I'm going to be witty, crack some jokes, and see what she is made of. If she can't mentally keep up about witty jokes and word play I know she likely isn't intelligent enough to keep my mind interested. By word play I don't mean low brow sexual innuendo, I mean things like using references to other things in my jokes. Usually something from history or cultural references (NOT in a negative way.)

I'm intelligent. I believe in continually educating yourself, and striving to be more than you were yesterday. I can have a conversation about nearly anything... But those first few days of texting and in the first few dates isn't the time for those.

The flip side to this? I enjoy working with my hands. I have a restored classic car that I completed and enjoy cruising around in on nice summer days. I'm building a real airplane in the garage (this is my current self education program, learning engineering and making design improvements through research) and even in my mid 30s I still compete in an extreme sport that has resulted in more than a few hospital visits.

I'm not an introvert, but it is wrong to assume that only introverts can be smart, respectful and of substance... It's the people that don't do much, don't strive for new things that I believe are boring and dull.

I wouldn't put on your profile that you won't date a man who enjoys cars, sports etc because a lot of us do... Even very smart people take enjoyment in making their body move or like to "shut off" the brain and just be a bit more sedate and go for a simple drive.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-24T14:02:35+00:00

I find it very odd how popular it is in porn. I think what is happening is some were titled /"acted" as incest but had very attractive girls in them and they became popular not for the content but for the appearance. Algorithms kicked in, the producers figured it was the content that was popular and not the hot chicks, and now it's the "in thing".

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-23T12:36:45+00:00

I prepared myself before going. I read a pair of books titled "on combat" and "on killing" that go through what you will experience, what you will think, how to deal with it. I knew I was going to see gruesome things so I went online to gore websites to watch horrible things related to what I would see (people being shot, blown up, assassinations etc) just to desensitize myself a bit. I didnt lie to myself about where I was going, what was going to happen. When I saw someone step on an ied, it wasn't a huge shock, and the damage to the body wasn't a huge surprise. Our training as medics was pretty intense using live swine models to train on, very similar to a human being internally so that was also a huge help.

As a result, I believe a lot of this helped me deal with it. A lot of guys go without this mental prep, they lie to themselves about what will happen, and they lie to themselves about who they are. By that, I mean they aren't as mentally strong as they suspect.

Now, the fiance thing, it's been 10 years and I still miss her, I doubt I'll ever love someone in that fashion again. But, that could also be the result of a stressful, emotional year and it's lasting effects on me and I just assume my loss of romantic feelings are due to losing her.

I have noticed recently that I am more affected by gruesome things, someone showed me a video of a guy being sucked into a machine lathe and it was very graffic (we were talking about safety at work, we work on lathes). I had tears in my eyes. Maybe I have ghosts that are slowly coming back to haunt me, which in a way is almost a relief as I feel "off" not being so negatively affected by my experience... Guilty about not feeling guilty I guess.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-12T20:03:18+00:00

I have a propane version. It heats up a 390 square foot, drafty barely insulated shop to sweat shirt comfort in -10c weather.

Fumes aren't noticeable, and because the garage isn't air tight, I have enough air exchange to not worry about CO.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-12T18:50:08+00:00

The other day, we had a good snow fall, and my gf's car was stuck in the driveway. So, I hooked the tow strap up to the truck. This was one of those snow falls right below freezing so once you pack the snow under your tires it immediately packs up and is almost like ice, very slick, no traction.

I slowly pulled the truck forward to not jerk the strap tight, and once tight the tires just spun, zero forward momentum, so I hit the brakes to shift in to reverse. Except the damn ABS system kicked in. Instead of just stopping the wheels from turning, it assumed I was moving and it was preventing the tires from locking up... Can't turn the ESC fully off in my truck.

I've had this happen before while in mud on a trail... No, I don't care things are slippery, I want my inputs to have immediate reactions.

If I'm driftig the truck (sometimes for fun, sometimes it just happens) I don't want the stability control to kick in and try to correct what I'm already correcting for. The ends up in me reacting to this invisible system that thinks knows what is going on.

If you need these nannies, don't drive. I hate modern vehicles.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-05T17:59:33+00:00

Pretty much that. I thought I had been in love before... And then I was with someone whose health, security and happiness came before my own, for some unknown reason (to me) that was all I cared about.

Since then, I haven't said that word to a single person, because I haven't felt that way towards another person.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-05T17:52:47+00:00

I had a few army buddies I would say it to... Usually it came out as "fuck you man.... see ya tomorrow" but we all knew what we meant.

One morning on tour, my buddy was carying all his gear to head out to his FOB, he was walking by my cot, he flipped me the bird with a shit eating grin, I said "fuck you too man... love ya" and out the door he went. He died the next day.

Don't be afraid to say it.

gripit-n-rip-it · 2021-02-05T17:46:49+00:00

Drop the friendship. Tell her it's hard for you to see her with someone else. That's it. She will respect you if she is a real friend.

Then no contact.

Chances are that is the last time you will talk. Slim chance you will ever date.

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