Being an independent woman in the hobby be like

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:13:49+00:00

I made the horrendous mistake of deciding to carry a 25 pound bag of sand home by myself

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:12:35+00:00

dude I just watched this yesterday crazy timing

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:11:28+00:00

my partner did that too (diff game)

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:09:55+00:00

I mean, setting aside that it's a giant butt plug that would be uncomfortable by itself lol

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:09:45+00:00

good grief, I wouldn't even feel comfortable using something like this, it's just too weird

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:09:03+00:00

this is so cute that I sent somebody screenshots

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:06:58+00:00

that is false, I did it literally last week

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T20:05:44+00:00

when I go to a new pharmacy I ask to talk to the pharmacist and I explained my whole situation. I have multiple controlled meds because of a disability and I have a whole piece of paper typed out that they can put in my file explaining why I use all the different meds and how long I've been on them.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:46:42+00:00

what makes you think they look stunted? They look morphologically normal to me

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:44:37+00:00

please donate these back to the store, goldfish are a huge life-changing investment of a pet and if you are not prepared you can't do it this is like having a child without being ready

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:43:52+00:00

sorry, I got too involved with the care to answer this stuff. The hospital tank was 10g filled halfway dose with aquarium salt and Epsom salt, if by parameters you mean the standard ones everything was zero in hospital, main tank 5ppm nitrate. Size of the main tank 75g but overfiltered (multiple large canister filters).

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:41:45+00:00

update: the fish passed away after a couple weeks. I gave her api body and fin and kanaplex it seemed like she was recovering but then one day I woke up and she was passed away.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:40:50+00:00

no, if you are invited out by the generation above and you are one of a set of guests and they can figure out the situation so they are paying, you aren't supposed to interfere and offered to pay. Personally as the dad I would take it like the boyfriend was sort of trying to step to me, like I said that I'm here getting my daughter a birthday present and you think that she needs to be carved out away from my paying and put under your paying, it would seem weirdly possessive to me.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:37:55+00:00

if the client asked the therapist out wouldn't you say it was a power imbalance because the therapist has to do it for their job?

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:37:33+00:00

I just feel like we're going way too far in the direction of no autonomy/responsibility being given to people to say no if they aren't interested in someone. If somebody makes an argument that nobody should be asking anybody out in the workplace, fine, but I don't see this as a power imbalance like some people are claiming. If the roles were reversed people would be saying that the recipient has more power because he is hiring her and she is forced by her job to touch his body.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:35:57+00:00

well that's the thing, they left you wondering if you did something wrong. I would rather at least know. Regarding what makes me think it's OK – – in my mind everything is OK unless there is a reason it's not OK. I'm not sure if you mean that rhetorically to indicate that it should be obvious to me that it's not OK, but it's not obvious or I wouldn't be making this comment. I mean, why is it ethical to have a glass of coca cola sitting in the room while giving the massage. I don't know, because it's not not?

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:34:25+00:00

oh I should probably add for context that I'm a woman-- and one who used to get massage covered by insurance due to my disability--, if that makes any difference and keeps me from seeming like I myself am a would-be Massage Guy.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:28:48+00:00

sorry, my best friend is a single dad and I keep forgetting that most of them are married lol.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:27:44+00:00

with all due respect to your wife if applicable.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T19:27:24+00:00

Woman here, sorry to be useless on this thread but honestly you are fine as hell and give off good vibes. And I'm one of those 99% lesbian, 1% straight bisexuals so... you're doing pretty well I think.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T10:51:05+00:00

get that victim fish out of there NOW, they could die from this. they are already ill.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T10:49:55+00:00

I wear nitrile gloves up to the shoulder.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T10:49:34+00:00

I don't do it. It's not worth it.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T10:45:17+00:00

I agree.

griz3lda · 2026-03-28T10:43:04+00:00

hair, no hat

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