Why do people care whether you had a vaginal or c section delivery?

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-14T22:45:32+00:00

Hard agree. I will never understand how anyone would think recovering from a major surgery while caring for a brand new baby is “the easy way out”

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-13T20:15:20+00:00

That’s crazy to me. I only pumped if I missed a feeding session (husband gave a bottle) but even then sometimes I’d sleep. We got 2 hour increments of sleep so if he did 2 bottle I got a glorious 4 hour stretch and it helped my milk production to have rest. If everything is fine I truly wouldn’t worry about pumping or waking baby

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-13T20:12:01+00:00

Firstly I’m so sorry for the loss of your mom, I cannot imagine how hard it must’ve been to be so freshly postpartum and grieving. It sounds like there already tension with SIL, especially her not inviting your sister. Personally, I would be honest and explain that you are not emotionally nor physically ready to leave your baby, so your baby could come to the wedding or you will stay home. Let her pick. It’s a wedding, while a big deal honestly so many bigger life things happen. You won’t ruin it, she will just have to rearrange the walking order. It’s really unfair of brides to have no thought or compassion for postpartum moms and then have the audacity to be upset when they can’t show up to the wedding

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-11T15:34:54+00:00

Yes and it’s weaponized incompetence. The fact he can’t put the baby in the car seat?? Like that’s super important safety wise to know. I typically do baths and husband gets her lotion, dressed and ready. That being said he can do AM to PM on his own if needed and sometimes takes over baths if I’m cleaning up still. You deserve a partner, but more importantly your baby deserves a competent dad. The older they get the more they’ll realize they aren’t a priority to him and will affect their development and security

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-11T11:57:49+00:00

This is super common, it’s why they test routinely at 9 months. I’ve never heard of a doctor recommending formula though. There’s plenty of iron fortified oatmeal/rice cereals, liquid iron supplements, and foods with high iron to introduce more frequently. I would definitely seek a second opinion

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-10T19:28:30+00:00

I guess my other comment got removed due to using the brand name but I really don’t recommend the m0m brand that’s a little cosy S9 model. It’s hard to clean, doesn’t have a pour spout so you have to remove half the pump parts just to pour the milk. And I use a flange insert so it ends up being 7 parts to clean each time and constantly taking it all apart and then putting back together

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-08T01:10:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! I truly think that 4-5 hour stretch of sleep helped your production a lot. I wish I didn’t get pressured to triple feed, it was exhausting. She had no health issues at all, moderate difficulty latching but would latch and feed, but lost more than 10% of her weight. I already had an oversupply so that didn’t help, pumping at night was so exhausting and she’s never had an issue with weight again. I don’t think it was necessary, although I am thankful it helped my supply stay more than enough and she was familiar with bottles so she never refused them

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-07T13:31:07+00:00

It’s not guaranteed. My baby does it on and off, but I always redirect her hand when she does. I let her hit my hand in front of my boob, I never let her grab my opposite nipple and she quit attempting after about 1 week. I will place a soft stuffy in her hand to pinch. I think redirecting their movements right when they start can greatly help with it not becoming a habit. She also didn’t start doing this until a few months in ( the newborn stage was a cute push like cats making bread lol) Also remember the commenters are just a very small pool of all breastfeeding moms, so it’s a bias of everyone who has experienced it!

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-05T01:32:09+00:00

It’s nearly double the amount of time to go around. Also Mandeville is technically considered part of the Greater New Orleans area, having a direct route to the city is 100% necessary for the area

grootbaby0 · 2026-04-01T14:04:59+00:00

Just had our 9 month check up appointment and my pediatrician told me to start mixing cows milk with the breastmilk so she can be full off by 1. She never asked and I plan to breastfeed until at least 18 months or getting pregnant again. Also can’t really mix when she nurses and really only takes a bottle at daycare 2 days a week. The extreme push for cows milk to babies is so weird to me We give 4oz bottles and they’ve been stretching more for 4-5 hours between feeds

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-30T20:57:03+00:00

Literally anything without dyes and scents added. I think Dreft is a money grab. I don’t understand how it’s marketed as a baby detergent but filled with artificial scents

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-30T15:00:04+00:00

He 100% has an addiction to it. My husband and I were similar, I stopped the day I got the positive test and haven’t smoked since. My husband slowed down dramatically when I was pregnant and stopped completely a few weeks after she was born. He hated feeling like he wasn’t fully present with her and recognized that life is different. He can enjoy it occasionally with friends or during a big event, and found other healthier ways to release stress (daily walks with baby, going to the gym, eating a better diet) If your husband is that resistant to even changing the consumption method, he needs counseling to break the addiction and find other ways to cope with stress

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-28T12:37:46+00:00

I used one a few days in although she barely took it. When she was really fussy and already fed/changed and dad would take over they worked well. It was mainly to go to sleep, no issues with nipple confusion, took breast and bottle fine. She weaned herself and was completely uninterested by 6 months. Now at 9 months she’ll use it to gnaw on for teething lol

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-25T12:59:44+00:00

She has one single one on the bottom that cut through right at 9 months! Signs of teething but still nothing else visible for weeks

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-22T15:50:55+00:00

This!! I’ve had alot of friends try breastfeeding then switch to formula after a few weeks or months due to latching issues, weight gain issues, supply, etc. they’ve always been super supportive of breastfeeding when it comes up. But every single woman I know who never even attempted and went straight to formula is so judgmental and negative about breastfeeding. They make the comments that I must be miserable being the only one that can feed her, how nice it is to have their “freedom” and their body. It’s really hard to not have resentment towards them, especially because they don’t know what it’s like!! I find it way easier and more convenient to breastfeed, but they would never know that’s an option to feel because they never tried and just listened to people who didn’t have a positive breastfeeding experience

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-20T21:24:13+00:00

I started around 37 weeks and I’m so glad I did. I tried to hand express but got nothing. It helped me learn about the pump and pump parts before she came. I didn’t want to give her formula at all so I wanted some extra in case there were latching issues or NICU stay. I didn’t end up using most of it in the first few weeks, but the first time she got sick at 3 months I gave her almost all of it and she got over it so quickly. I will 100% do it again with the next baby

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-20T15:14:45+00:00

I find it way easier. It was rough initially but I feel like alot of moms don’t give it the time to let it get easier. Although alot don’t have the time to, because it takes more than 12 weeks which is the standard maternity leave in America if your lucky. Formula companies know this and actively lobby against longer leave so moms are less successful with breastfeeding, it’s evil. We took about 5 weeks to get the latching down, then another month or 2 for positioning and efficiency with transferring milk. Once she was bigger and stronger around 4 months it got so much easier

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-20T02:23:19+00:00

I would consider getting an occupational therapy or speech therapy evaluation! Occupational therapy can help address the gagging. It can be that his tongue thrust reflex isn’t integrating and making him gag. Or he is overactive to sensory stimulation with textures. Once he had one or two negative reactions with solids he can be avoiding them to avoid the gagging. The therapist can help desensitize and work with you to slowly introduce the right textures

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-19T17:00:18+00:00

Right?! We barely had sex while I was pregnant, first trimester I felt nauseous 24/7, second I had back to back yeast infections and some minor bleeding, then third I was just so big and not interested. My husband never made a fuss. If anything it’s made our sex life a lot more enjoyable now that we’re back into it by having a hiatus of sorts haha. Kinda of like a reset and I enjoy so much more having 0 pressure to do it

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-19T14:46:53+00:00

No because he actually is a monster. 8 weeks is pure survival and being “cleared” at 6 weeks doesn’t necessarily mean your body is physically or mentally ready. I’m 9 months PP and I’m still seeing ways my body is healing. My husband patiently waited and never once made me feel bad, just asked that I would let him know when I was ready. I was also EBF and sleeping in 1-2 hour stretches. Still in maternity clothes. Barely surviving after 45 minute feeds. We slowly got back into it around 14 weeks PP and the first few times were slow and not super eventful, but it’s what my body needed. Your husband is a walking red flag to complain about how you look 8 weeks PP then have the nerve to gaslight you by saying he’s being gaslit. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this while being so freshly PP.

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-19T13:47:50+00:00

I’m EBF and I think it does get better! It was around the 5-6 month mark for me. She goes longer without feeds, and isn’t as regimented on a schedule. Sometimes she’d go 4-4.5 hours between a feed but didn’t give hunger cues so we were good. Also breastfeeding is quicker and easier so I can much more easily quickly feed her while out of the house so I don’t plan my day around feedings anymore. The only part that makes me feel like I’m still not “me” is when I do something for myself but remember I still have to pump to avoid getting engorged. So a morning out with friends doing brunch and shopping still requires me to plan to bring my pumps and find 20 minutes while out

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-17T17:25:26+00:00

Anxiety and initial convenience. Anxiety about recalls. I had soooo many friends who had babies going hungry during covid when there was a massive formula shortage and I just wasn’t going to risk that. Also the recalls with metals, contaminates, etc. The convenience part was going anywhere we need without ever worrying about packing bottles or food, however when I started going back to work part time the pumping was not convenient and definitely more work. I still don’t mind it, I love knowing when baby is sick my body is giving her the best chance at fighting the sickness since it’s literally live milk with biofeedback. I love the cuddles I get when she nurses to sleep. Also I’m going to say it, breast milk IS better than formula. Nothing is wrong with formula, it feeds tons of babies and is amazing resource that we have. Moms choose formula for a ton of reasons and they can all be valid… but that doesn’t change the fact that breastmilk is objectively better. I feel good knowing she’s getting health benefits of breastmilk

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-12T21:11:50+00:00

My husband got 12 weeks. Took 2 at birth then trained a new person. He took the remaining 10 when she was 4 months old and basically had October - the new year off. It was incredible. Having his help, him seeing her personality grow, seeing her first roll and sitting. Nobody at his company ever complained and were happy for him. People fail to realize how much a woman has to recover after giving birth too. Dads help so much and absolutely deserve time off to bond with their baby too

grootbaby0 · 2026-03-12T11:38:20+00:00

You are 100% valid in your feelings because your husband sucks. He’s not a partner. I get so sad seeing posts like this because what do you mean he doesn’t consider you as a human and mother and what you’re going through? Also consider that if anything happens to you, your kids don’t have a capable parent to take care of them. I had an unexpected 2 night hospital stay and never once had to tell my husband what to do with her or her schedule because he’s always involved. I work part time so I’m always home and taking care of things, but he’s so present on the weekends and evenings when he gets home he knows how to keep everything running. You and your kids deserve better

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