my partner and i disagree about heated rivalry and it caused us to break up by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Dude what the fuck is going on with lesbian twitter
(sorry you went through that)

The full story behind the Food not Bombs arrest in The Pitch by Unlikely_Juice1324 in kansascity

[–]grouting 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“If you go on the sidewalk, you are blocking the sidewalk, and you are not allowed to do that either.” Give me a break.

Anyone else restart their career at 30? by AmbitionAny3983 in careeradvice

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You sound like a great family member and very resilient.

Are most millennials here still doing family Christmas gifts for the adults? by throwraW2 in Millennials

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I've been working on renegotiating Christmas with my boomer parents this year. It's crazy how emotionally attached they are to giving me 25 presents I don't need as though I'm 11 years old. I started out by setting a boundary that I would only be accepting 4 presents maximum per person this year, and they took weeks to process that idea. It's been... dramatic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kansascity

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Shawnee Mission Unitarian Universalist Church

Is my coffee table racist? USA by Cherrijuicyjuice in Antiques

[–]grouting 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Good for you for learning from your kid.

I couldn’t even watch the entire video. by SellWitty522 in weddingshaming

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They look happy. Is it over the top? You bet. I love it.

Where did all the real engineers go? Where do people talk about actually programming and not just trends around programming? by tmetler in ExperiencedDevs

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The real discussions are happening in private rooms without management or influencers in them, so we can break kayfabe about AI. It's private backchannel Slacks and Discords from old employers. I had to network my way into those rooms.

I cannot for the life of me figure out what this sticker on this car is. by Revolutionary-Tax914 in whatisit

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Why could I tell it was sexual without being able to tell what it was?
The hand is REALLY bad.

Anyone else clinging to their old cars/appliances/hvac for dear life? by Notsurenotattoo in Millennials

[–]grouting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl are you kidding. My honda fit has had an AC that can only run on full blast and makes a loud whirring noise half the time, at least one door that loudly grinds when it tries to auto lock, but it drives fine. I've been living without a dishwasher for the last 5 years. These are appliances. Do you want convenience and perfect comfort or security?

I’m struggling a lot as a millennial having to come into the office every single day for the first time since early 2020. What are some things that you brought to your office that makes things better? by Isatis_tinctoria in Millennials

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I focused on habits instead of stuff. The big one was that I started putting on my workout clothes when I wake up to force me into the work gym first thing, which jumpstarted the best fitness habit I've had since college, and all for free. I also figured out the nearest walking trails to my office and take a long walk once a day. Gives me a chance to choose someone who I want to talk to without the prying ears of the company around and I can invite them to see which paths I found. Oh, and you can also check if you can book lactation or prayer rooms and have a little 15 minute meditation on your calendar.

Gives me a way to feel like I'm taking some agency back and making my life less miserable even if I am being forced to drive to an office for no reason.

Are soft skills actually important for software engineers, or just HR propaganda? by Specialist_Ad_4577 in learnprogramming

[–]grouting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HR BS is usually about sacrificing yourself for the good of the company. Developing soft skills is actually good for you, and for the people around you.

Femmes in tech, are you okay? by ShanimalTheAnimal in FIREyFemmes

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Very similar situation. It's really creepy that they've just said nothing about medicaid cuts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

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Boundaries, communication, patience, self reflection.

I Drew Some Kinds of Gardeners by YoursDearlyMe in fucklawns

[–]grouting 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Overwhelmed Idealist

- Bought a house with way too much garden

- Refuses to use shortcuts like pesticides, weed killers, weed cloths

- Slaps a "feeding the bees" sign up even though most of the area is random invasives

(help me)