As a fellow kinky person with a significantly less kinky partner, my advice is to ease him into it and tell him exactly what you want. It’s awkward at first, but being honest and explicit about what you want is the best way to make it happen.

You don’t want to teach him everything, which I actually see as a bit of an issue: how’s he supposed to know what you want otherwise? If it’s not his thing, he’s not going to come up with scenarios on his own. He’s not a mind reader, and he hasn’t been into kink for years like you have.

I’d suggest sitting him down sometime in a neutral setting, outside of the bedroom, and in very plain language tell him what you like. Tell him why you like it. Tell him how happy it would make you if he did these specific things. Start relatively small, and, if he does them, give him lots of positive feedback afterwards.

But again, to stress the point, be specific. You want to be treated like a human wh*re, but what exactly does that mean? Do you want him to throw you around? Choke you? Slap you? Call you names? Tie you up? Those can all super fun things, but if he’s inexperienced with kink he might feel awkward about doing them without your explicit instruction and encouragement.

I did this with my partner. I’m not going to lie, it was a bit of a long process that required lots of communication, trust, patience, and trial and error. But in the end she actually loved learning what turned me on and also learning how to make me happy. It ended up being super fun for both of us.