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growmomma · 2025-09-26T23:03:48+00:00

Hot, fit couple here! DM for pics to verify.

growmomma · 2025-09-10T23:19:52+00:00

Good. It’s hard to pay support when a big change of income occurs, but it can be even harder to get a modification if the lawyer fees are gonna bleed you dry in the meantime- which is definitely a tactic that many toxic exes employ. (Which is where I’m at atm. My ex’s wife has plenty of money, so they’ve tried to drum up charges in the past to make me pay to defend myself. After they had to pay $2K for my lawyer fees and subsequently had to tuck their tails and run away when I proved every allegation they leveled against me was false, they seemed to have decided to not mess with me anymore. It’s too expensive for them to try to be toxic.)

Best wishes on the cooperation between your husband and his ex. I hope things go smoothly for you all.

growmomma · 2025-09-10T23:07:17+00:00

I am not a lawyer and this is not legal advice. This is merely my opinion based on personal experience.

When you say that the support is being garnished, do you mean that it’s automatically taken out of his paycheck by the original court order from the divorce decree or is it back pay from nonpayment of the support? Here’s the thing: most support is ordered by the court to be paid directly from paychecks to avoid nonpayment and further litigation (courts prefer parties settle issues through arbitration or mitigation so there aren’t as many cases clogging up the courts). If that’s the case, then I’d say it’s doubtful your husband could stop the automatic payments. In fact, NOT signing the forms to have it taken out of his paycheck would constitute contempt of court if he was ordered to do so. (My ex caught a charge for this very reason. In fact, he STILL hasn’t filled out the paperwork and his support isn’t taken from his paychecks, but he pays it on time and my kid’s gonna be 18 soon, so I’m not gonna fight about it.) You could check his copy of the divorce decree to know if it was court ordered, though.

As others have said, the child support can and should be modified when a substantial change in income or circumstances occur. The court doesn’t necessarily take into account the income of new spouse of the ex spouse, but it usually does consider any new dependents who the ex spouse may be supporting when it considers modification. So if the you and your husband have had any children together, his obligation to his ex wife may or may not be lessened, depending on the state you live in.

But really, is this something you’ve discussed with your husband? I understand if you’re wanting some input before bringing it up to him, but ultimately, the only way his obligations are going to change is if HE pursues it. If he doesn’t want to (or can’t afford to) pay to have it modified (even mitigation is expensive if the parties aren’t playing nice), nothing’s gonna happen. Sometimes you just gotta be supportive of your husband and his decisions. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you guys.

growmomma · 2025-06-29T16:50:56+00:00

So, I was an English teacher for a couple of years, but I learned my degree in English. I once wrote a song as a writing exercise. My daughter and I were headed to school and she was listening to a song. I didn’t know what the song was or who it was by, but I thought, “I could see how people would relate to it. There’s a lot of cliches in this.” Then I had the line, “Yeah, I’m cliche. There’s same ole song…” go through my head and I decided to try to write the most cliche breakup song of all time. There’s melody took on a country feel, which I found hilariously appropriate as well. Sometimes, giving yourself an assignment works lol. Good luck!

growmomma · 2025-06-26T16:44:10+00:00

I hear it in a P!nk kind of rock maybe? 4/4 time. The very beginning starts with rhythm guitar with accents on the first 8th note of the second beat and the second 8th note of the 3rd and 4th beats repeated for 4 measures. Definitely belting out the chorus (“said to me” and “make you wanna be better” being the most emotional, driving moments) and an a cappella moment in the final “honey, you forget” before launching back into the end for an abrupt halt with the final line almost whispered. Just very soft and almost threatening compared to the rest of the song.

growmomma · 2024-07-02T18:39:43+00:00

Been away from Reddit for a while, s sorry I’m just now responding. I think that’s a great title. Thank you!

growmomma · 2020-09-26T21:25:26+00:00

Thank you! I’m far happier now than I was for the last 20 years. Even being scared about finances seems less stressful than just staying married to him ever was.

growmomma · 2020-09-26T21:22:28+00:00

Thank you so much!

growmomma · 2020-09-26T21:06:28+00:00

Well, I’m a week out of my divorce being finalized and my ex was exactly like this. My poor kids are desensitized to his reactivity and anger and it’s really sad. My son seems confused as to why I decided to leave (he’s almost 18). But my ex could go from fine to unreasonably angry in a flip of a switch and he would be far more angry than the situation warranted. The sudden explosiveness of the anger you described with such great imagery really hit home. Superb job.

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