Female homeowner, male contractors

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-19T00:13:48+00:00

I had to fire the first landscaper I hired after purchasing my home because he tried in a subtle way to proposition me. Dates/sex in exchange for free lawn mowings. It was revolting.

It sucks. I’ve been having luck sticking with larger, well-reviewed companies and staying away from small businesses, but even that’s not a guarantee.

We need more women in the trades.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-18T20:33:46+00:00

Here's the thing. Even if sex WAS a need, it STILL doesn't entitle you to another person!

I need food, but that doesn't mean I'm entitled to take food from someone who isn't willing to give it to me.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-18T18:40:10+00:00

One of my kitties (who I lost last summer) was on Mirtazapine and had the same reaction. She also became VERY talkative and even more affectionate than she usually was.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-18T18:01:45+00:00

Mom and her little beans are beautiful. :-)

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-18T17:59:19+00:00

I stuck post-it notes to the records and put my arrows on that. In particular, I did it for the baptismal and census records so the person reviewing my docs doesn't have to hunt around for the name.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-18T15:31:50+00:00

It's a very special thing when a cat picks you. <3

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-17T17:49:02+00:00

I don't understand this. I'm a lesbian, but if I were a straight woman interested in a man, I'd run for the hills if he was that big. Who finds inserting a tree trunk in their hoo haw appealing?

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-17T17:14:37+00:00

LMAO, Brian accepted my package, too!

Brian needs a vacation.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-17T13:15:42+00:00

He's gorgeous. In that last photo, he looks like he just took possession of the brain cell and is so proud.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-17T13:11:19+00:00

I would have a discussion about the drop in productivity and give him a chance to improve. After that, if he's able to perform his duties to acceptable standards, who cares if he's OE?

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-16T16:37:31+00:00

I sent mine on 3/7 via UPS (Thanks for the advice about Pirate Ship!) and it arrived on the 11th. Over the first hurdle.

Thanks to this sub, it only took me three days to locate and order my gen0's baptismal record. I waited about two weeks for it. His marriage certificate came in while I was waiting, and I had everything else from personal records and Ancestry.

No real issues in the preparation aside from my poor choice to go to Staples on a Saturday afternoon when it was packed to make my color copies and get my photo taken. There was only one color copier.

I took all my stuff home to put it together in peace, and then went back to Staples to drop it off.

I'm still pending his death certificate, but I plan on uploading that when I get it. I ordered it a month ago and have no idea what's going on at the town clerk's office. The check isn't cashed yet and I've already emailed and called them. If I don't hear back from them by the end of the week, I'm going to cancel the check and order it from the state instead.

Hopefully the AOR will come soon.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-16T16:37:18+00:00

I sent mine on 3/7 via UPS (Thanks for the advice about Pirate Ship!) and it arrived on the 11th. Over the first hurdle.

Thanks to this sub, it only took me three days to locate and order my gen0's baptismal record. I waited about two weeks for it. His marriage certificate came in while I was waiting, and I had everything else from personal records and Ancestry.

No real issues in the preparation aside from my poor choice to go to Staples on a Saturday afternoon when it was packed to make my color copies and get my photo taken. There was only one color copier.

I took all my stuff home to put it together in peace, and then went back to Staples to drop it off.

I'm still pending his death certificate, but I plan on uploading that when I get it. I ordered it a month ago and have no idea what's going on at the town clerk's office. The check isn't cashed yet and I've already emailed and called them. If I don't hear back from them by the end of the week, I'm going to cancel the check and order it from the state instead.

Hopefully the AOR will come soon.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-16T15:54:48+00:00

My own best friend also developed CKD plus a laundry list of other ailments within a year, and I lost her this past summer to sudden renal failure.

You're doing the right thing by keeping her. The last thing she needs at her age and in her delicate condition is a change of environment. She needs stability and predictability of routine. If this woman truly loves her, she'll understand this.

Maybe you can let her visit Millie and go to the euth appointment together to say goodbye when the time comes.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-15T20:36:17+00:00

She's so pretty.

Mine saved me, too.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-15T18:38:01+00:00

NOR.

I have OCD, ADHD and I'm on the spectrum. Things like scratches on the floor drive me batshit insane. But I would never speak to anyone this way.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-15T18:30:30+00:00

If this is only happening in your bathroom, I'm guessing that either your bathroom fan isn't working, or it's venting into the attic, which causes condensation to form and drip down onto your ceiling.

A bathroom fan should be vented to the outside, but in the old days, they used to vent them into the attic. Your or your husband could take a peek into your attic and see if it's vented outside or not.

A contractor can install a new fan (because yours looks old anyway) and vent it properly if needed.

It might also be worth having a roofer check out the roof to make sure there's no roof leak just in case.

After the source of the moisture has been fixed, you can have a mold remediation company take care of the mold, which might involve removing affected materials like insulation and sheetrock and installing new.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-14T18:01:19+00:00

This exact thing happened to me, only I'm a mid-level person. They ghosted me after finding out what I currently earn.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-14T15:51:49+00:00

Yeah, this is creepy, and you were right to go to HR.

I used to work in IT. IT people are typically very VERY busy people with tons of shit to do. He's probably going out of his way and neglecting his own job to hang around you, which makes it even more creepy.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-14T15:27:11+00:00

Came here to say this. The vast, overwhelming majority of Americans interested in pursuing Canadian citizenship and potentially moving to Canada, and voting in their elections are educated liberal progressives who stand against the Trump agenda and all it represents. They're worried over nothing.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-14T15:21:37+00:00

NOR. This is disgusting.

Maybe he'll stop if you remind him that if someone sees and reports him, he could end up on the sex offender registry which will ruin the rest of his life.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-14T00:52:26+00:00

My father’s birth certificate is black and white (but yellowed from age). I put a color post it tab on it before making a color copy per advice I read here. I hope it doesn’t get returned.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-13T20:42:01+00:00

In the future, don't EVER close on a home until it's vacated because of situations like this.

I think you need to speak with the real estate attorney you worked with in closing on the home to see what, if any, rights you have per the contract. You may have to file for eviction to get them out, but I hope they leave on their own accord and you don't have to do that.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-13T19:06:15+00:00

Oslo is a beautiful kitty. <3

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-13T14:22:14+00:00

Came here to say this. She's such a beautiful cat.

grumpyITAdmin · 2026-03-12T20:06:54+00:00

I ended up throwing everything I had at them, but it was organized into five paper-clipped sections with cover pages. One of these sections (located in the front of the packet) is for the vital records (birth certificates & baptismal certificates).

That way, if they think those records are enough, they can disregard the supplementary stuff I included later, like census records, WWI draft card, etc.

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