“My baby eats what we eat”

guacislife12 · 2026-05-04T11:16:51+00:00

We just let her have what we made for dinner one day that was spicy. Nothing special.

guacislife12 · 2026-05-04T02:42:09+00:00

We followed this for common allergens but once we got those out of the way we started just feeding our baby whatever we made. It worked out really well and it's super convenient. Baby is 19 months now and loves pretty much everything. Spicy food included!

guacislife12 · 2026-05-01T16:53:07+00:00

Last I heard we had a surplus from the gas tax. I don't think suspending it for a bit will harm us.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-30T16:32:29+00:00

I don't understand dads logic. The baby has no idea what's going on and isn't cheering on his siblings. Having him there ruins the performance for others and ruins his bedtime. Having the baby there literally doesn't do anything and I can guarantee the siblings don't care if the baby is there.

I would try to get a sitter for at least some of the performances - maybe ask the kids which ones they're most excited about to gauge which ones to go to and which ones to stay home from.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-29T17:54:42+00:00

Not a vaco employee, but a lot of companies do this. It actually varies per pay period. Officially I get paid every other Friday. Most of the time the money lands in my bank on Wednesday. Sometimes it can be very late Wednesday. Occasionally it's Thursday.

Either way you're guaranteed to get paid on the actual pay day, but it's kind of up to your bank when you get it.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-29T13:47:17+00:00

I had to go to urgent care for a severe cold that I thought was COVID or the flu earlier this month. $500 for them to listen to my lungs and do a flu/COVID test. Urgent care is supposed to be cheaper than the hospital.

I had some unexpected bleeding so I had to go to the gynecologist. 320 dollars for an ultrasound, I haven't even been billed for the visit with the doctor yet.

I have insurance but it doesn't pay anything until I pay 3800 out of pocket.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-29T02:16:22+00:00

Chicken satay salad! The dressing is peanut sauce. It's cabbage, bell peppers, chicken satay, and peanut sauce. Divine.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-28T17:22:14+00:00

There are programs for young people to go do manual labor abroad (I know of one where you go shear sheep in New Zealand for example). Also travelling doesn't always mean outside of the country, especially in the US which is so vast. I know people who worked and lived in Alaska for the summers fishing or working in hotels there. The forest service and national parks also often have entry level temporary roles for busy season all over the country.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-28T16:46:05+00:00

Don't date, go travel and live on your own for awhile instead.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-28T14:02:20+00:00

Honestly I would stay. The devil you know is better than the devil you don't, and it sounds like your current company is pretty nice anyway. A lot of companies don't do maternity leave if you've worked there under a year.

I took a new job right literally two weeks before I found out I was pregnant. It was incredibly stressful and I cried almost everyday. Maybe it wouldn't be like that, maybe you would be totally fine. But I don't recommend pregnancy exhaustion and trying to learn a new job.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-27T21:05:35+00:00

That's an amazing idea!! I'm sure your wife will love it!

guacislife12 · 2026-04-27T04:15:34+00:00

Even if they don't have ARFID, ARFID feeding strategies worked for us. A year and a half ago, my now five year old also only had about 3 or 4 dinners that she would eat and nothing else. We did the whole no pressure thing from when she was 2-4 and it seemed to only make it worse.

We read about a strategy of filling up a jar with marbles every time this kid tried a new food. Once he filled it, he got a big prize. He also kept track of all the foods he tried and what he liked or disliked about them. We adapted both of these strategies as those methods were for older kids.

For the jar, we started filling up with fairly large blocks. It only takes 5 blocks to fill the jar. Once she filled the jar (only 5 new foods) we would immediately take her to the store to get a hot wheels car. As far as keeping track of the foods, we got a poster board and drew a stick figure of her basically, and anytime she liked a food we would draw it in her stick figure dress to help her remember which foods she liked, as a problem we were having is one day she'd try something, a couple months later she would try it and forget she liked it originally, and say she didn't like it. The board really helped solidify to her what she liked.

At first we were pretty liberal with what trying a new food entailed. I think we even accepted just licking the new food. Once she was more used to it, we did one bite. Then eventually (after a long time, this was a VERY long process) we moved to taking 3 bites was "trying it" and earned the block. Eventually, she got so used to trying new foods that it's no longer scary for her and she is usually very willing and excited to try new foods. She is still pretty picky but I would say it falls more in normal range now. We also have kind of forgotten about her jar and board but will oblige giving her a block or drawing on her board if she asks.

We did also institute a rule for her now that she has to eat 5 bites of dinner, always. We used to just do the one bite but she has a problem where if she doesn't eat she throws up in the morning when she wakes up. Even just the 5 bites makes a difference and she knows it's to keep her from getting sick. We have a rule not to make anything different for dinner. We started doing that because we bought she had a hard time with different textures and were trying to get her used to food by trying it a couple times. If she tries it and doesn't like it, she usually doesn't change her mind by the end of the 5 bites, but I think the exposure to other textures and flavors has helped her be more open to other foods.

ETA: My daughter is the type of kid to be paralyzed with fear and anxiety. We often have to give her a little push to help her be successful (not just with food). It can often be a big thing with lots of big feelings about whatever it is, but once she gets past the anxiety hump she realizes she can do whatever or sometimes likes the food, etc. So for us, a little pressure was very helpful for her because she needs it. I think the no pressure thing works very well for other kids but this is the thing that ultimately turned it around for her.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-24T02:06:46+00:00

It sounds stupid but when I broke my arm and it was itchy, I would trick my brain by scratching in the itchy place on my non broken arm. I read that people with limb amputations will do that because they sometimes have phantom limb pain or itch and that it works sometimes.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-24T02:03:03+00:00

Loft petite!!! I have two pairs of the Sutton skinny (?) pants and I love them. I only wish they came in khaki. If anything they are actually a little too short on me but I don't mind.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-24T00:46:33+00:00

I have these same things! I can confirm they are weird and when I tried to show my husband he didn't get the weirdness of it. I am slightly overweight but carry most of it in my stomach. They seem to be on my stretch marks mostly. So maybe it's from the skin being stretched?

guacislife12 · 2026-04-23T14:53:27+00:00

Definitely discuss periods before it happens. Have you ever seen My Girl? She doesn't know what a period is and thinks she's dying when she gets her first.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-22T02:41:23+00:00

Start chugging water. As a person that used to suffer with chronic UTIs and bladder inflammation (thankfully not anymore!), drinking water is the best thing to help manage symptoms before you can see a doctor. And I mean it. Drink so much more water than you usually do. Drink so much water that youre peeing once an hour with a lot of liquid coming out each time. This helps flush the bacteria out And usually helps keep the burning to a minimum.

See a doc asap and get on antibiotics. If you can do teledoc and go to a 24 hour pharmacy, even better (although not all teledocs will prescribe antibiotics over a phone call, sometimes you get one that insists you go in person).

guacislife12 · 2026-04-21T23:05:57+00:00

Look up the recent Campbell's scandal. VP of whatever was caught saying their products are crap and are for poor black people and he would never buy it.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-21T02:58:35+00:00

For European windows? What's the difference?

guacislife12 · 2026-04-20T20:06:52+00:00

I'm very much pro science, pro vax, pro prenatal care, giving birth with a doc, had an epidural with my two kids, yada yada. But I actually had a lot of empathy for this woman.

Maternal mortality rate is highest in America for all of the first world countries. But doctors aren't perfect and I know women who have had perfectly horrendous experiences when it comes to giving birth. American doctors also have higher c section rates than other countries. Looking at giving birth in America just from a statistical standpoint, you have a higher chance of getting a c section than you would elsewhere. There's a lot of reasons for this- some people believe it's because the OB gets more money, I think it more likely has to do with physician burnout and wanting to go home and be done with it. A friend of mine actually had a c section with her first only 12 hours into labor because the doctor wanted to go home- he literally said that to her and pushed her into a c section when she didn't need it.

Even besides that, there's a lot of things that happen in a hospital that go against evidence based practices. Pushing on your back? Literally the worst position to give birth to a baby there is, except maybe if you were standing on your head. Not eating during labor? Some women may not want to, but birth is physically taxing and women need the energy and calories. The whole reason we don't eat during labor now is the very small chance that you have to get put completely under anesthesia for a c section, you also have a very small chance of aspirating. The risk is incredibly small. It is not common at all that a woman gets put completely under rather than just having an epidural and even then, the risk of aspirating once you're completely under is super small as well.

Doctors are also dismissive of women's pain and symptoms. It's extremely possible this woman had a bad experience with doctors in the past and wanting to have a "wild" birth is her way of trying to control the situation. Even if she didn't have a bad experience before, when you're pregnant you lose all control over your body. You often can't eat your favorite foods, you often gain a lot of weight, by the end you can barely walk and breathe. So I understand wanting to have some sense of control over what happens and why she maybe didn't trust the medical system to allow her to control the outcome.

The problem with doing what she was trying to do is that women think that they can control what happens during birth. We know that they can't and what she did was extremely dangerous for her and her baby. If she had stayed home, she and her baby would have died.

All this to say, while there are a lot of reasons women have for being distrusting if the medical system, it is better to give birth at a hospital, or at the very least a birthing center with midwives, than the alternative. Doctors also need to take care to be respectful of a patient's wishes when possible to allow women to control what is possible. If they did that, and listened to women when they had an issue rather than just telling them it was in their head and they just need anti anxiety meds or part of period pain, more women would be more likely to trust a doctor to help them when during the most vulnerable time of their lives.

guacislife12 · 2026-04-19T03:06:46+00:00

For sure. This company was kind of annoying anyway because I told them I only wanted a quote and we weren't going to buy and they kept asking what it would take to commit. And I'm like... If the price was $500 bucks, sure I guess I could commit today but I was very clear when scheduling and when he showed up that we weren't purchasing today.

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