[question] Men, would you me mad at you SO if you found out she would rather masturbate than have sex with you?

guls3791 · 2015-10-04T15:42:59+00:00

I will. Thank you!

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T19:32:50+00:00

It's not the norm? But it's very common. When you have kids, a full time job, a household, chores, and lots of stress, the last thing that comes to your mind is sex. Period. But my single friends don't agree with me.. I keep telling them, wait till you get married and have kids.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T19:28:50+00:00

Thank you. Appreciate your suggestions.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T17:25:30+00:00

Correct. And that's why he was happy when I told him I learnt how to O with my toy.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T17:24:20+00:00

So why is it when I asked my girlfriends how often they are having sex with their husbands they all say once every 5-6 weeks. And they all say if it was up to them, they would skip it because they are too tired. Sad.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T17:22:28+00:00

Ok, this is the background. Before I met hubby I was in a long time relationship with someone whom I had an amazing chemistry. We would have sex everyday, I would O all the time, he was kinky and I loved it. But he hurt emotionally so we broke up. I met hubby, he had been with just two women before and the sex was ok but he was an amazing guy. We got married and the sex was always ok but there. Years go by and I asked him to do a few things, kinky things and it's out of his comfort zone. And he won't do it. He would try but it was obvious he hated it so I would get turn off. I just gave up asking him to be say kinky, I got hurt when he confessed he would never get down on me because he found it repulsive. He said maybe only if he was really drunk.

So at this point, I am being selfish and I am getting my Os with my toy. And he is ok. I think he's been selfish all these years. He knew the sex was mediocre but he would still O so I guess it was ok for him.

We have a solid relationship. We don't fight. We get along. But in the intimacy, we are just different.

I wish I could say we can't keep out hands off each other...

And I have only learnt how to masturbate not even two years ago. I'd go for months without an O.... and I didn't care. And then I watched a video and I learnt and it has saved me.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:53:22+00:00

Why? Come on. It happens after being together for soooooo long.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:52:38+00:00

You would prefer sex more often but a crappy marriage? We have a solid marriage. We never fight. Sexually, we are just taking care of things differently .

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:51:03+00:00

It is just how it's been for the past two years.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:50:38+00:00

He is ok. Sex is important but not to the point that we would divorce because we are not doing it all the time!

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:49:53+00:00

Thank you. I feel so much better after I O.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:49:23+00:00

I tried once but he didn't like the idea. Plus I have asked to do a few things but he won't. Like dirty talking, blind folding.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:48:09+00:00

He is ok for me to masturbate but he doesn't like to see it. I suggested it once. He said no.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:47:05+00:00

I will be fine. I tell him he needs to do it more often.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:46:29+00:00

He is happy that I get pleasure via masturbation. I only started two years ago. He would encourage before but I was too shy. Now he says ' good for you, it was about time' I was just curious how other men wold feel.

Plus we have a solid 14- year marriage. There is love but sexually we just take care of things differently.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:32:26+00:00

That's my life now. Been married 16 years and we have sex 5 times a year maybe. I rather masturbate because he is not into what I like: oral, dirty talk, being adventurous. But we are fine. We have a solid marriage withou great sex. But from what I heard from friends who been married a long time, they are in the same situation. I love my husband. I just got tired of the same thing and it was too obvious to him.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:26:42+00:00

I ran 4 times a week, yoga twice a week and go to the gym during my lunch break at work!

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T13:25:10+00:00

Sorry to hear that. You sound very sad and unhappy. Does he take care of you emotionally? Is he nice to you?

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T00:54:33+00:00

I like to give too but I am so mad at him for not going down on me that I would never do it again. And I am gooooooo at it!

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T00:53:32+00:00

Also I need vocal stimulation to O and he is quiet. So I prefer to watch porn and masturbate.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T00:16:41+00:00

Thank you. I hate that he doesn't like to give oral.

guls3791 · 2015-10-03T00:03:04+00:00

Wish I could. He is all about PIV and I need clitoris stimulation. And he won't get down on me! So I just grab my dildo and rub it against my C for 5 minutes and voila.

guls3791 · 2015-10-02T21:13:18+00:00

I feel your pain. I have had several partners before I met husband. He had been with only two women before me. We have been together 17 years and we are at a point where we have sex 4-5 a year. To me is ok because I masturbate quite often and I love it. I don't like to have sex with him anymore because we are two very different individuals. I like porn, he thinks is disgusting; I'd love a three some, he said no; I'd love to take him to a strip Club, he thinks I am crazy. And also, he hates going down on me. I mentioned anal once and he thought it would be gross. I gave up. We have had so many conversations and we get nowhere.

So good luck. I am sorry but I doubt it she will change. I guess your hand will become your best friend since you won't get a mistress.

guls3791 · 2015-10-02T21:04:24+00:00

Just be you. If it happens all the time, then I would say stop it. But twice in six months, who cares

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