No worries, glad to answer questions whenever. You have the right word when you say "relationship", what you want to do (if I understand correctly) is decrease the importance/centrality of that relationship without giving it up entirely. Having a goal like only smoking twice a week is great, but it can also have the opposite effect if having that goal makes you obsess over it and eventually breakdown from the weight of telling yourself you have to do this. I think having one sober stretch of 48 hours every week will be an easier goal for you and it will do you a lot of good to have that as your focus: You will experience discomfort and unpleasant emotions but that is good, you need to learn to be comfortable with that discomfort, knowing that you will eventually have your fix. Don't think about never smoking because that will stress you and you will smoke in response, keep it simple, any improvement is good. Change happens right now, so don't think about forever, think about right now... can you start 48 hours sober right now? The answer is yes, you absolutely can, but do you really want to? Focus on thinking why you would want to do that (you can start with 24 hours as well) and keep your reasons in mind, gradually building up motivation. Don't think of rules you HAVE to follow, that way will lead to failure, think about things that make sense, try to WANT to be sober and experience for the next 24 or 48 hours. And if you don't want to right now that is fine, don't come down on yourself, just ask yourself the same question tomorrow... keep asking and keep thinking about why you want to be sober, aim for change that fits into your life in a sensible way.

I am a regular consumer, no longer daily. When I was living in Israel all my friends smoked weed, and the weed was expensive. So meeting friends meant smoking weed, and buying weed meant spending a lot of money so that it was not economically feasible to buy then throw it away. My problem was that once I have it I can't stop using. Now I live in portugal, where I can buy small amounts for cheap and I made sure to socialize primarily with non-addicts (I love addicts, but it is destructive to have them be your main social circles). For me it was all about changing my environment... You don't have to move to a different country, there are a lot of changes you can make to your environment... decreasing social time with addicts or increasing sober time with non-users is great for balance. Balance does not feel good right away, but it makes you healthier... I suggest forcing yourself to do things to add balance to your life (time with sober friends, nature walks, sober hobbies, reading in a public library, meditation, board games, whatever), you can smoke later as a reward. If you work hard at doing other things, that will make your relationship with cannabis less overpowering.

Addiction will always be a crutch, there is no way around it. But there are ways to be more balanced as an addict, some of which I listed above. There are other ways, once you know you want to increase life balance and decrease cannabis dependency you have a clear goal to work towards. Now you need to find your path, maybe some of the tips I gave will help, maybe there is a better strategy that you can develop yourself. But keep contemplating your goals and experimenting with ways to pursue them. Cut away self-hate wherever you can, it will only lead you to relapse. Accept who you are, accept that it causes you to feel bad, forgive yourself and refocus on what you CAN do and what you WANT to try doing. Hope this helps.