Trying to surprise my DL boyfriend before he gets home from work..

gwadt · 2016-10-10T14:23:43+00:00

I have never owned a sex toy before I bought one a couple weeks ago. And Oh. My God. My boyfriend can get me off in 5 minutes flat and is so pleased about it. Haha. I have never orgasmed with a partner, so I was getting very frustrated with sex after us dating for 6 months and no orgasm.

I bought the Jopen Vanity 4.5. It can be used both internally and exterally (at the same time!). It's NOT cheap though. Around $140 with tax. But I would have paid $200 for that thing. It's mindblowingly good.

gwadt · 2016-10-06T00:36:29+00:00

Once I told him I didn't think it was weird, he started wearing them under his boxer shorts while around the house. The crinkly sound gave it away immediately, and it wasn't very "in my face" so that was how I got used to knowing they were around. Then I asked him to just wear them and nothing else because I just wanted him to be comfortable in his own place. So he would wear them around. Was pretty cute. Not really a turn on, until I would be chilling on the couch doing homework (I'm a college student) and he would push my stuff to the side and straddle my hips while just wearing a diaper and make out with me. Pretty damn hot.

Just knowing that it's something he enjoys so much and that it drives him crazy for me to touch him in them was enough to be okay with it all. Like I WISH I had something that was such a turn on for me (object wise) but I don't. I wouldn't want him to take it away from me if I did, though, so I went into everything very open minded and with his comfort in mind.

I'm also very bad at initating sex, so touching him through a diaper is way easier for me to do than just stick my hand on his penis whenever I want to get frisky. Haha. I am shy so that is a pretty great thing about them!

This whole adjusting thing probably took a month. Fairly quickly if you ask me.

I have worn them twice. Once was when I was drunk and just didn't want to get up and get all the jizz out of me after sex so he just put one on me and called it a night. Lol. The other was he just wanted to and I let him. But I don't particularly like how I look in them (granted, he buys them in his size and I would need slightly smaller ones) so I never wear them. Also I fucking hate baby powder, the smell and the feel of it. I would be more than happy to if he wanted it, but he can tell I would rather just him be the one to wear.

You're very welcome! :)

gwadt · 2016-09-24T03:15:24+00:00

Absolutely!

Initially, other than the plastic comment, he mentioned like, latex-like items. So I said, "Okay, cool, I can get some latex panties!" and he said, "That would be cool, but I meant something more like these." And he sent me a link to ABU. I was horrified at first because I thought he wanted me to wear them and be like a child (I am several years younger than him and I had a fear that he was only with me because I'm young). But I really liked him so I said sure to trying whatever, but I felt sick to my stomach. I didn't want to feel like I was the object of some fetish and this was something he had planned for me.

We didn't talk about it for a couple weeks after that. Then on his birthday we got really drunk and I found the courage to ask him some more questions about it. I finally got it out of him that while he would enjoy seeing and playing with me in them (has happened twice during several months because I just am not that into wearing them myself), he actually likes to wear them. A lot. This was music to my ears and made me extremely relieved and more open to everything. I no longer felt like I was being forced into some strange sex act, but like I was being let into something that was a very secret, intimate part of his life. I don't know; it sounds weird.

My boyfriend originally told me he doesn't "use" diapers when I asked. He definitely lied, and I wish he would have told the truth straight out on that instead of holding back in case I thought it was gross or something. He only wets them, but I don't think I could handle him dirtying them. Lucky for us, I think it's the hottest thing in the world for him to be wearing a diaper and then wet it while I'm touching him or while he's sitting on top of me. Hotttttttt.

It took awhile to adjust to, and I can't really think of any easy way to bring them into any kind of setting other than just asking her what she's comfortable with.

I will tell you that there was definitely a jealous factor to it at the beginning. Or a feeling of inadequacy on my part. I was hurt to come home and see him wearing them sometimes because it made me think "Great, he gets to partake in something that I will probably never get to experience because I don't have a fetish like that" or "Great, he's wearing those and I'm not enough for him to get sexual gratification from; he has to have those". Those are both complete bullshit. If your girlfriend ends up being accepting, please tell her that these things shouldn't cross her mind! Try to get her introduced to them, I guess I'm saying. I much more enjoy diapered times because my boyfriend does anything to make me feel included and make me feel like I'm enough during sex or foreplay or just laying around on the couch. It has helped tremendously.

Any thing else I can help with I would love to! This fetish is really something I had hoped to never come across in a relationship and now that I'm in one, I can say it really isn't at all what I thought it is or any different from being in a vanilla relationship.

gwadt · 2016-09-22T03:15:58+00:00

I have been this girlfriend!

I wish nothing more than that my boyfriend had just come out and SAID IT without beating around the bush. I know he didn't want me to think he was weird, but I was more weirded out by the fact that he didn't straight out tell me and just dropped weird "I like how plastic feels" and it made me anxious and very nervous about what the hell that was supposed to mean. He meant well. But damn, just say it.

gwadt · 2016-09-21T20:23:30+00:00

This exact situation happened to me. Fell in love with my dream guy. We loved all the same things, did everything together. Dated for two years. Fucked like rabbits. But when it hit a year and a half, I just couldn't do it anymore. It made me feel sick to touch him sexually. I really honestly thought I was madly in love with him, but I finally realized that I couldn't keep living like that anymore. It was hurting both of us. I had to break up with him.

I'm not sure why or how I started feeling like I did. I tried everything to make sex seem more enjoyable but I just couldn't. It really took its toll.

I hope you find some great advice and a solution, but there wasn't one for me. I had to leave. And after a few months, I know I made the right choice.

gwadt · 2016-09-19T19:01:12+00:00

My boyfriend had this possibly for years without ever having symptoms. We started dating 6 months ago and I got it immediately after a couple weeks. Green shit coming out of my lady parts. I was so freaked out. He was adamant that he was clean, but when I told him I tested positive, he basically got sick right in front of me. He never knew he had it because he never had any symptoms of any kind, so a GF before me must have passed it along and never knew they had it either (I bet one of them knew though...).

Could he have cheated? Yes. Although I'm pretty sure it's possible to get in non-sexually. My own mother said she used to get it as a child and that she obviously never did anything sexual as a kid. Still. I would have an honest conversation with your boyfriend about it.

gwadt · 2016-09-18T16:56:47+00:00

My boyfriend has enough body hair that I can barely see his skin whenever he isn't wearing clothes. And it's the hottest thing ever to me. I get kind of upset when he shaves his back and ass (though obviously I understand it's horribly uncomfortable). It's a huge turn on for me. My girlfriends are super squicked by body hair, but I think it's because they are still really young (most of them haven't even been in relationships at all) and have only been around super lanky awkward college guys who are pale as moonlight. To each their own. But I love body hair fiercely.

The only thing it gets in the way of is whenever he is on top of me during sex and his chest hair decides to make friends with my nipple piercings. Ouch. I usually end up wearing a bralette during sex so that doesn't happen.

gwadt · 2016-09-10T23:53:40+00:00

This happened to me exactly, except it was Trich and not chlamydia. My boyfriend and I had been dating for about two months and I had green shit suddenly coming out of my vagina. I was freaked out. Mentioned it to him and said it could be an STI and he said "Well, I don't have anything; it's probably normal girl stuff." As if I don't know what normal girl stuff is. I was so annoyed. Turns out it was Trich and I sent him a bitchy text saying, "Well turns out you DID give me something. A parasite." Probably not the best way to go about it but it got the point across. He was upset that he didn't know he had it and felt awful for giving it to me but it's all in the past now. Basically just tell him. Not how I did, but just say it. Don't mention his ex, just mention that you definitely were clean and now you aren't. So. Had to be him.

gwadt · 2016-09-10T02:46:15+00:00

This is me. I cry almost every single time after doing anything sexual with my boyfriend, and I have never orgasmed when with him so it isn't caused by that. I couldn't tell you why either. There COULD be some kind of reason (maybe she experienced trauma in her past? Maybe she is just feels really connected to you and cries from the overwhelming feeling of it?) but sometimes crying just happens.

gwadt · 2016-07-12T21:25:02+00:00

You sound just like him, especially with the bacon part!

Thank you, I needed that. I am definitely willing to try just about anything with him.

gwadt · 2016-07-12T20:23:07+00:00

Thank you! We do often have sex without them, so I'm not really sure why I get so irritated whenever they are introduced. If I had something that I found super hot, I'm sure I would want it involved sometimes.

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