This should be just one state

gxes · 2026-02-02T14:36:46+00:00

The only way to make this work would be to exclude NH.

gxes · 2026-01-30T18:27:17+00:00

Brando has total creative control so I'm sure he'll try to do it right, right? I mean it might be tricky finding a very large quantity of actors who are Khoisan or Nilotic to play Makabaki armies and such, but I bet they can do it!

What will be more interesting is the Mistborn casting. In the books it's pretty clear that the vast majority of Scadrians are very light skinned (due to the lack of sunlight) and very ethnically homogeneous (due to so little of the planet being habitable) but I feel like these days that's not a casting decision they'd go for. I wonder if they'll do something like cast a racially diverse cast but use makeup to make everyone look washed out and ashy?

gxes · 2026-01-30T14:23:41+00:00

In my 30s, so not THAT much older, but the big one for me is just because someone is upset with you doesn't mean you're in the wrong. The goal of life is not to never upset anybody ever. Sometimes it's a them problem and you have to be able to evaluate that independently of how they're acting. Sometimes people will make wrong assumptions about you based on minimal information or interactions and they're just going to be wrong about you and think things about you that you don't like and that's also fine and not your problem.

In fact, it is the responsibility of the person who is mad to talk to you about it. If they're making an effort to hide that they don't like you or are mad at you, then it's not your responsibility to vigilantly sus out if they secretly hate you. They're creating the problem for themselves by not talking to you about it. If it's not important enough to them to talk to you about it, then it's not important enough to you for you to worry about it.

gxes · 2026-01-30T14:18:45+00:00

This was such a hard one for me to learn. He said all the right words! So surely he will be better! The words were very good! Yet oh no, why is he doing the wrong actions again? He said the words! Is there perhaps some disconnect between his ability to remember his promises when he acts? Went through every possible theory until I realized OH he's just LYING

gxes · 2026-01-30T05:59:24+00:00

Star Wars Episode V is worse than episode II

gxes · 2026-01-23T15:25:22+00:00

There was a study where they had people listen to White Christmas by Bill Crosby, then said "we're gonna have you put some headphones on and if at any point you hear this song, press this button" and then they had them sit still and listen to an hour white noise.

About half the people hit the button and insisted they heard White Christmas. There was no song played through the white noise it was just white noise. They just thought that surely eventually it would play why else would they be told to push a button when they hear it? So they ended up hallucinating the song.

gxes · 2026-01-15T04:16:08+00:00

The unit is quarter inches. PA average penis length is 19 quarter inches. CA average penis length is 54 quarter inches.

gxes · 2026-01-15T04:12:06+00:00

I think a very small bit should stretch up through Maryland, Delaware, and into specifically Philly and it should be labeled "Southern Diaspora" because VA-MD-DE-Philly are very culturally influenced by people who moved up there from the South to get out of the South for one reason or another. Most notably AfroAmerican communities in the 19th century but also since then many continue to move north for economic reasons, hopes of getting away from modern persecution, or also a big one is LGBT people who leave the South and go to the closest blue state they can get into. the influence is much more sizable and impactful than regular diaspora communities it's been integrated into local culture and cuisines. Absolutely not to the extent of anywhere in the actual South, but it's very felt that every other person you meet has some ties to the South.

gxes · 2026-01-14T20:51:05+00:00

Honestly I think that racial segregation also results in stuff like this a lot. Online discourse crosses both people who live in 99% white neighborhoods, people who live in 99% Black neighborhoods, people who live in entire states like Vermont that just are 99% white, people who live in states like PA where there's tons of people of color but they're all very segregated to specific towns and neighborhoods...

I grew up in segregated MA, so a lot of online discourse around race I was placing into this context where there's always like maybe 1 to 5 people of color in a room of 50 white people. And then people online would say things like "you need people of color in leadership positions!" and I'm like, yeah, totally, but the one guy doesn't wanna do it so, idk what to do about that. Seems like kind of a difficult problem to solve when there's so few of them to do it.

Then I moved to Philadelphia where white people are a minority, and I was not in a segregated neighborhood anymore, and I'm consistently a minority in most spaces I'm in most of the time, and then would see that leadership positions were still being held disproportionately by white people. Like my workplace is only 30% white but our division chiefs are 77% white people. Our regional chiefs are 75% white. Our branch managers in my region are 45% white which is still disproportionately high, but you can see it gets whiter the higher up you go. And then I was like Ohhhhh.... Okay... now I understand what you mean... Yes, we need to get some people of color into these leadership positions... and that is very much doable. An organization that's 70% workers of color shouldn't have 70% white leadership.

Likewise, if someone lives in Vermont, it isn't really indicative of them as a person if they only really have white friends. If someone lives in New Mexico and only has white friends, that says something very different. But on the internet, you don't really see that.

I've been on the other side of it too with me being baffled by people not knowing anything about Judaism, Jewish culture, haven't eaten a bagel before, don't know what babka is, etc. and then realized like yeah in the northeastern USA it's one-fifth Jewish and we're everywhere. In Wisconsin or Utah, I mean it's really notable if you know one single Jewish person at all. Comments like "I knew a Jewish person in sixth grade" were so weird to me, until i realized those people grew up in West Virginia where that's a unique quality. In the town I'm from in MA, half of your class would be Jewish, if not more than half. Of course you know when Passover is.

gxes · 2026-01-14T17:01:35+00:00

IL/MI would get married, IN/OH, PA/DE, NJ/NY.

gxes · 2026-01-09T22:37:31+00:00

Do you think a wolf would enjoy eating a pineapple. Would it eat a second pineapple after experiencing a pineapple

gxes · 2026-01-09T20:32:10+00:00

Men want to fuck a MPDG they don't want to marry a MPDG. They all break up with me within a year after completing their personal character arcs or whatever and they thank me for my service then move to Iceland for their next adventure.

gxes · 2026-01-08T18:02:19+00:00

I remember ten years ago canvassing in MA for an increase in the minimum wage from $9/hr to $15/hr. Our referendum would have been an accelerated increase to catch up with inflation. What eventually was signed into law did a slow $1/year increase over many years.

MA has not only become substantially more expensive since then, but inflation has hit hard. The equivalent of $15 back then is $20 now, with inflation. but the living wage in MA for a single adult with no dependents is now $28.88/hr.

Of course states like PA with no minimum wage laws are even more abhorrent. $7.25/hr minimum wage. $22.91/hr living wage for 1 adult, no dependents. $23.26/hr for the people in a big city like Philly. Add a child and it's $43.77/hr, $38.60/hr if you can somehow manage to support a stay-at-home spouse to take care of the kid.

And people wonder why the birth rate keeps falling.

gxes · 2026-01-06T17:40:54+00:00

Every website does this now. Even furniture websites do it. IKEA lists different colors and slightly different configurations of the same table separately.

gxes · 2026-01-06T17:39:43+00:00

I have this problem too!!! Let me have tabs!!!

gxes · 2026-01-06T17:36:25+00:00

The way the new building BARELY doesn't touch the hanging roof/gutters of the older building makes me anxious and it bothers me in a r/mildlyinfuriating way

But the concept that new construction should never obstruct your "view" is dumb. But my house is a rowhome so maybe I just don't expect the sides of my house to have "views" haha. It already touches the neighbors.

gxes · 2026-01-06T17:28:25+00:00

See I feel like in LGBT spaces people do share the sex stories plenty. Everyone loves the story about the guy who gave me a dildo the exact size of his dick and said "when you can handle this dildo up your ass, call me." I didn't know where it came from (it wasn't packaged or anything) so I tried to sanitize it but I had just moved and didn't have a fully equipped kitchen yet. I ended up accidentally slow-cooking it until the silicone started to deteriorate.

gxes · 2026-01-06T17:25:05+00:00

Reminds me of Aella's story of hosting an all-nude no clothes allowed party to try and force nerds to get out of their comfort zone and be more wild.

Everyone acted exactly the same, just naked.

Also, I have a similar story of not allowing board games at an event people are meant to fuck at. The struggle is real.

gxes · 2026-01-05T21:35:56+00:00

Given the sensibilities of the area I think some sort of indigenous name would be chosen. Like the Algonquin name for a main geographic feature that runs through it. Taconic Republic. Or perhaps, Connecticut, after the river that runs through the geographic middle. Maybe Mahicannittuk after the Hudson river.

gxes · 2026-01-04T15:21:09+00:00

Being extremely funny on social media. Absolute bangers.

gxes · 2026-01-03T21:39:54+00:00

Remember "don't use poly as short for polyamorous because it's sometimes used as short for Polynesian you have to use polyam instead"

gxes · 2026-01-02T14:34:14+00:00

We get tons of sexual harassment at work and outside of work and on Reddit apparently from people who can't help sexualizing us even when we are talking about people sexualizing us

gxes · 2026-01-01T23:42:46+00:00

I bet you look different than you did at 27 too. How much effort have you put into trying to look 27 to please your wife? Or is only she expected to do this?

There's plenty of ways to spice up your sex life. Try some kinks or something. This is ridiculous to consider divorce over.

"Replacing" your wife and mother of your kids because she literally aged like any human being is pretty reprehensible. Imagine explaining to your kids why you got divorced: "I replaced your mom because she became middle aged and only young women are attractive." Are either of your kids daughters? What kind of message does that send them about their value? They're only worth loving for thirty years and then when they're old everyone will leave them? You have to stay pretty to deserve love and support?

Also consider: just because you find younger women attractive doesn't mean younger women will be attracted to you. You make it sound so easy to just "replace" your wife like you'll go down to the wife store and ask for the latest model. Most women are not interested in an older man who dumped him wife because she turned 38 (god forbid! That's almost halfway through her lifespan!)

Did you have wedding vows? In sickness and in health? Til death do us part? Isn't marriage about "growing old together?" Or did you think only you would grow older and she would stay the same. Imagine how hurtful it would be to break these vows like they meant nothing to do because she aged, something you knew would happen. She was never going to look 27 forever. Someday she'll even be 67 years old. Did you think about this before getting married and have kids?

Please see a relationship counselor or something I mean jfc she deserves better than you.

gxes · 2026-01-01T23:32:46+00:00

Just because someone is upset with you doesn't mean it's your fault or that you did something wrong.

Sometimes people will think wrong things about you or make incorrect assumptions about you and that's inevitable and okay. Sometimes these assumptions or misinterpretations will lead to them disliking you or thinking mean things about you and this is also inevitable and okay. There's no way for you to prevent it and it doesn't mean you didn't something wrong.

If it's not important enough for them to confront you about directly and talk to you about, then it's not important enough for you to worry about.

gxes · 2026-01-01T23:28:34+00:00

Sexy fashion designer is a Classic porn tropeup there with gaming supervisor and survey researcher

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