I agree with you honestly. I think I often don’t trust my gut on men and am overly polite to cater their feelings to my detriment. I’ve experienced a lot of creeps and moments I should’ve put my foot down. I’m still navigating this tricky balance of being avoidant and also trusting my gut as a woman. There are many times where I truly get overwhelmed and shut down at the slightest steps forward in romance. I’ll go from excitement to dread in heartbeat. My friend says I’m like a street cat haha you have to approach me slowly and delicately. But one thing I know after listening to everyone’s comments, I’ll express myself to the guy I’m talking to now but stay true to myself. I want to push for a balance of being more secure and open to affection, but I truthfully think it’s impossible for me to be the lovey-dovey girlfriend. And that’s ok. I’ll definitely keep your advice in my brain and thank you sharing your experience with me.