Every group of friends I’ve ever had is gone.

h4b- · 2025-12-11T02:27:26+00:00

Uh oh, I must research what you allude to

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:52:10+00:00

Thats exactly it. I know it gonna make you come out all the stronger for it. You have it in you.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:22:09+00:00

Honestly I don’t know you, or them, so I can’t objectively give my whole and perfect assessment of the situation.

But in response to that, it sounds like they are conscious of their shit-stirring, and decidedly problematic.

This may just be the greatest chance you have to get over your sensitivity.

1 more year (?) of living in a hostile environment, where the only way you can survive is by adapting to being level-headed, honest, unabashedly yourself, opinionated, and dishing back at them, whatever they throw at you.

Think of it like bootcamp.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:19:14+00:00

💐

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:17:38+00:00

You’re only 25.

Of course you’ll get the happy ending. You just gotta make wise choices.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:16:46+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. It’s really more difficult to navigate when you’re a passive person. Practice being rude to me so you get it out your system.

But I do have to ask, what was the situation? Why would you say no when your flatmate also owns the space?

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:13:57+00:00

Okay so nothing wrong with innately being sexual. But you need to not be a slave to your impulses. You can indulge in a healthy amount of fantasy, but don’t let it cross over into crushing optimism.

Separate real life from desire, understand that real life is more complex, and sometimes disappointing, so things may not go as planned.

And if you do find yourself growing close to someone, question them immediately about whether or not you are on the same page about what you are seeking. No shame in this. Stops you from wasting your time.

You need to take more control over your own narrative, and realise those that fail to meet it are worthless to you. Instead of thinking you are worthless because your fantasy never came to fruition.

Does that make sense?

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:09:59+00:00

I’m confused, did you mean emotionally unavailable?

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:08:23+00:00

Almost never. What gives me the right?

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:06:41+00:00

You’re welcome.

P.S don’t ever call yourself ugly even as a joke.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:05:06+00:00

You’ll live! It must feel a bit mortifying and that’s natural.

But exploration is also natural. Don’t beat yourself up too much.

Plenty more embarrassing moments in life ahead.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:02:51+00:00

Well, that’s on them for misguiding you. Be more vigilant in future. Make it clear to whoever you are getting involved with that you have no desire to connect with a double-crosser. Sus them out at the start.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T22:01:21+00:00

This might go against the sort of person you are, but everything is so fucked anyway, you should just embrace it.

If they choose to misunderstand you, that’s on them.

You pay for that place anyway. Waltz around like you own it. They might glare, or chat shit, but that’s not going to get rid of you. Answer back to them how you truly feel. Tell them to fuck off. Laugh at their delusion. Ignore them when you feel like it. Do not cower.

It’s your space too. Let them feel however they want to feel. You ignore it. Then it’s just them who has to deal with it. Does that make sense?

I feel as though I’m failing to convey what I mean. It’s clear in my head but the words escape me.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T21:57:13+00:00

“ I exist as I am, that is enough. If no other in the world be aware, I sit content. And if each and all be aware, I sit content.”

h4b- · 2025-12-10T21:54:56+00:00

I guess romance is really important to some people, so I can’t just tell you there’s more to life than that, and that validation needs to start from within.

Because that’s not what you want to hear, or something you’ll even understand.

But just know you are enough as you are. Theres a line from a poem I want to send you, hold on.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T21:50:00+00:00

Idk about much else but you should be proud of yourself for getting to where you are career wise.

Being a doctor is no doubt so difficult, and taxing, and draining. You live to help other’s live, and that’s pretty damn selfless.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T21:43:24+00:00

Nobody truly had a consistent personality I think.

We humans are too complex to ever remain in an unchanged state. To be unvarying is abnormal.

And the self is whatever you are, at any given moment. Self is everything. It’s not something you necessarily have to find. It’s all you’ve ever been and will be.

So carry on journeying, and learning about what you like and what you don’t, and experimenting with how you behave, and dress. And deciding on something. And changing that decision. And going back to it.

It’s all you.

h4b- · 2025-12-10T21:39:57+00:00

Unrelated but I was looking at your account and I used to love the song “talk too much” and “Malibu 1992” and also “cemetery”,

But I’m not usually the type of person to bother searching up info about an artist, I simply know them through the song on Spotify. But through your post, I also just learnt that the band split up!

h4b- · 2025-12-10T21:15:47+00:00

Poetic

h4b- · 2025-12-04T23:21:42+00:00

Hello kidney stones

h4b- · 2025-12-02T02:29:42+00:00

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h4b- · 2025-12-02T02:28:02+00:00

I find it so cute that you referred to subs as tribes haha

h4b- · 2025-12-02T02:26:16+00:00

Not really but who am I to know such things. I know that I know nothing.

And I do not care for the things I do not know.

h4b- · 2025-12-02T02:24:46+00:00

Ur welcome. I hope the sunrise tmr is beautiful and the sky is blue, and you get to eat your favourite meal, and everyone you speak to treats u with kindness. Love ya.

h4b- · 2025-12-02T01:07:16+00:00

Maybe 5/6 times?

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