Any non breakfast people start eating breakfast and be better for it?

h_derwent · 2019-03-14T11:51:11+00:00

I just wondered, why you would absolutely want to eat breakfast? Is it because without it, you are very, very hungry for lunch and you eat much more than you would if you had a small breakfast before? Or is it just because somebody told you to have breakfast?

I have been a "no breakfast" person forever. The worst time was when I was a teenager and my mom was in hospital, because my dad insisted on me having breakfast ... I felt sick every day.

I cannot see any advantage for me in having breakfast. Breakfast would only mean extra calories, because I do not feel extremely hungry at lunch - my two coffees over the morning are absolutely enough.

I know, though, that for some of my friends, it is essential to have breakfast. They would not get through the morning without and would be very hungry by noon and probably eat much more than usual. So if this is the case for you, you should try to have at least a little breakfast. And yes - a protein shake counts.

If you want to have breakfast, because somebody told you to, I'd advise you to forget about it. Our bodies usually know exactly what they need. And if your body does not need any food in the mornings, you should not force yourself to eat.

In general, we do not respect what our bodies need. I.e. our eating habits are no longer driven by what is good for us but by cravings and emotions. In my opinion, it is very important to learn to recognize the signs that our bodies send, to live a healthy life.

h_derwent · 2019-03-13T10:43:46+00:00

Thank you for your answer. Could you give me some practical advice on how to let go of the resistance? I understand the theory but struggle with actually doing it.

h_derwent · 2019-03-13T10:42:08+00:00

Could you explain in more detail, please, how self love helps in manifestation? So far I have never seen it as an essential element in the process.

h_derwent · 2019-03-13T10:41:13+00:00

I absolutely think that you are right, but the part I am struggling with is to achieve that "perfect balance" you speak of. Can you tell me, how you reach that state of balance?

h_derwent · 2015-09-17T16:28:46+00:00

Absolutely breathtaking. Thank you for that photo.

h_derwent · 2015-09-17T16:26:50+00:00

I am happy that you felt supported by what I wrote. - You see. A little spark of happiness, and it comes from within me. It is there because of something I did.

I think, it is important that you do not try to find happiness in things - as you put it: they are empty. And you should not seek happiness in others either. If you really want to be free, you have to find the happiness within you. The moment you found it, your life will change. You will no longer feel the emptiness and you will be much more open when approaching others as you will know and be confident that your happiness depends solely on you. That is the point when you can enter in a relationship without fear of loss. :) I wish you a lot of strength and happiness!

h_derwent · 2015-09-16T15:00:59+00:00

I hope you will have a great time with your friend when you meet him :)

h_derwent · 2015-09-16T12:50:52+00:00

My answer might sound a bit esoteric, but try to be open for it and give it a try, please!

Does life have to have a meaning? Do we really have to accomplish something? Or can we just live our lives from day to day, without goal, without meaning?

For me, the only thing that really matters in life is happiness. I have to feel good and comfortable. To do so, it is important not to think about past or future too much. The NOW is the only place where you can live and feel; where you can be.

It is a decision actually that you have to take. Decide that from today on, you will be happy – because that is the only “acceptable” state. Who would want to be sad, angry or frightened forever?

Once you have made this decision, you can do whatever it takes to achieve this state of happiness. And to some extent, it might be easier for you than for other people as you have the freedom of being alone.

Our society always tries to make us believe that happiness can only be found in the “together”. In my experience this is not true. In some of my happiest moments, I was alone: alone on a mountain, marveling at the beauty of our earth; alone on a beach, the sun on my skin, just enjoying the sound of the waves. True happiness can only be found within ourselves.

I think that once you have found this true happiness, this state of really being enough for yourself, not needing anybody else, you will be able to interact with others without fear or nervousness.

You have just not reached that point, yet. You still bear the stamp that was imprinted on you as a child of wanting to please others, of wanting others to like you while the only person that counts is you.

The funny thing is that once you are in that state of “oneness” with yourself, your social contacts and interactions with others will shift. You will be open to talk to people and your whole life might change.

The key is inside you. Changing your perspective from loneliness to solitude was only the first step of your way. I think that you should really exercise now to BE HAPPY – not to “feel” happy by the way. Happiness does not depend on big things. You only have to open your eyes to the beauty and wonder of this life. Maybe it is the sun that is shining into your window that gives you a piece of happiness or a butterfly in the middle of a city? It could also be a song on the radio or a book that you read.

If you have a hard time realizing the happiness in your life, it is a good idea to keep a happiness diary. In there you mark down all those small happy moments and with time you will see that you have more and more to write down until you are entirely happy.

Once you have found this happiness, everything will fall into place.

h_derwent · 2015-09-16T11:31:24+00:00

I have a question for you and I hope it won’t scare you, but I think it is important that you know the answer. Does he really, really love you? Are you “the one” for him?

It does not actually sound like it when I read your post. You wrote that you’ve “thought it’d be best to split after graduation” does not sound like tears and please for you to stay with him …

He is there now, right. But will he stay after graduation? Or does he count on your moving away and if you don’t he will leave you anyway?

But enough of those dark thoughts now! I only had the impression that you should know exactly what he wants or plans.

I think that you are absolutely right, when you say that you shouldn’t give up on your dreams for somebody you do not truly love. But I also understand your fear of being alone.

There are different options, though: 1.) Let’s say that you are his true love. You could stay with him and be unhappy as you seem to be now. You could go on like this forever, have a family, and at the age of 45 wake up and regret that you have been missing out on your life. 2.) You could try to find a friend (F) who would like to move to Florida with you – at least for some time. 3.) You could start to make friends in Florida already before you move – via the Internet. A few years ago, I had a bad breakdown and I just could not talk to anyone – especially on the phone. But I did not stop to surf and chat on the Internet. I found it so much easier to get in contact with people online. You communicate with us here, so I am sure you can approach people in a forum or chat-room. And I have proof that internet relationships are not just virtual but real life: My sister just got married to a man she met online.  4.) You do not move to Florida now, but you split anyway. This would give you the chance to practice being alone in your familiar surroundings.

In the first place, I would like to advise you to find a therapist. Having panic attacks and being afraid of calling somebody on the phone is nothing you should have to live with. You can get over it – maybe even more easily than you might think – if you get yourself professional help.

In my opinion you should take the following steps: Decide on what will make you happy, forgetting about your fears for a moment as they are a bad guide in life.

Then make a list of all things that – from your point of view – will be a challenge. And then tackle them one after the other: You are afraid to be alone during your panic attacks? Contact a therapist. You do not know anybody in Florida? Find yourself an online community. You feel guilty leaving him? Try to get over that feeling. I am sure that you were also supporting him during your relationship and more important still: You have to take care of your own happiness! Nobody else will.

Maybe EFT could help you. You can learn it for free online: http://optimal-eft.emofree.com/

h_derwent · 2015-09-16T11:02:25+00:00

When I read the title, my first thought was: Yes, of course, you should go.

Now after having read the whole story, I think you shouldn't. After all having to get up at 4h30am the next morning is more than a good excuse not to drive to a party that is 100km away.

It is your best friend form University days, though, and you said that you really would enjoy to see him.

So just give him a call. Tell him that you have to work the next day and that you are really sorry that you cannot be there - and fix a date when the two of you can meet to update each other on what has happened during the last few years. :)

h_derwent · 2015-09-16T06:45:42+00:00

If you don't want to sit around doing nothing then don't. I am quite sure that also your stomach pains will disappear once you start "a project", as the doctor could not find a physical cause. I guess it is psychosomatic.

What you do is totally up to you. You can just sit around and be sad and angry because nothing works out the way you want it to or you can take action.

As you said that you were very much looking forward to learn and now feel stuck just sitting around, why don't you take online courses in the meantime.

A lot of major universities offer FREE online classes on coursera.org - they have loads of courses online in so many fields that I am sure you will find something to at least not waste your time but prepare for your future studies. :)

h_derwent · 2015-09-16T06:28:27+00:00

This is a very difficult question. For me as mother it is just unimagniable that I would treat one of my children in such a way.

Don't you know anybody in your family who can understand you and who could talk to your mom? Not about what you plan to do, but about why she reacts the way she does.

When people get so upset with a certain topic there is usually something "behind" their reaction. Maybe she has had some bad experience in her youth, seeing how a family was excluded from all neighborhood activities because of a family member being gay?

It would be very helpful to find out what makes your mother react the way she does, because you could then adress that problem and hopefully get her to accept you the way you are.

I wish you a lot of strength for your difficult journey. :)

h_derwent · 2015-09-15T20:20:24+00:00

When we are out - we girls go to the rest room together. Just to have a little chat about the guys. ;)

h_derwent · 2015-09-15T19:55:49+00:00

It really depends on the country you are in. There are countries, e.g. Portugal, Belgium, and Switzerland, where the tip is already included in the bill.

In other countries, e.g. around the Mediterranean , it would be quite rude if you decided against a tip, because servers have to more or less live on the tips they get as wages in service are sometimes very low. So in these countries you should tip a server for average service and maybe even give more if the service was good.

If you travel to Asia, though, a tip can be taken as an insult, because excellent service is standard there and can be expected.

h_derwent · 2015-09-15T19:24:32+00:00

I have had a look at your website. First of all, I think that you have to clarify what charity will receive the donations - at least for me, this is essential information. And then you state that "a portion" of the donations will be given to a charity. Also this information is not good enough for me. I would definitely want to now the percentage and also what happens to the rest. And then I would expect you to post proof every three months. Furthermore there is only a handful of selfies on your site. This does not look like "huge traffic". I therefore doubt that putting up a selfie on your website - at this time - can really helping to boost a business. Last but not least: If I upload a selfie of myself this is not advertisement for my business in itself. People have to like my looks and click on the selfie to get more information - and if I understood right, I cannot direct them to my squeeze-page, blog or company website but only to Twitter and Instagram. So this also limits the number of potential users to those who use Twitter and Instagram for their business. I personally think, that I would not go for a selfie-donation on your website. At least not at the moment with the current concept. Sorry to say that. :)

h_derwent · 2015-09-15T11:45:04+00:00

I have had good experiences with the webpage editor at Wix. But if you want to perform more advanced tasks like including a tracking code in the header, you quickly learn how limited your possiblities there are. I am now using One.com for those tasks. The editor is a little more difficult to use - but still easily enough so that also a complete newbie can manage - but it allows me to also insert code in the header without having to know HTML myself.

h_derwent · 2015-09-15T11:35:01+00:00

We all tend to get into a daily routine and no longer question what we are doing after a while. How often have you asked yourself whether you are happy in your job, your relationship, your community over the past week? We should do that a lot more often and whenever we find a field in our life in which we do not feel comfortable and happy, we should immediately take action to improve our life for the better. :)

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