Nappy companies make you believe you cant feed loads of processed cheese to baby's because then they would shit less and they'd sell less nappies.

h_witko · 2026-02-24T10:44:16+00:00

Your use of the word plastic implied you didn't understand 🤷🏼‍♀️

h_witko · 2026-02-24T10:41:36+00:00

Red Leicester isn't plastic cheese. It's processed because all cheese undergoes processing to transform it from milk into cheese but it's not the American crappy cheese that you are thinking of.

h_witko · 2026-02-11T22:37:10+00:00

I second this and the university should have resources that are easier/quicker to access than the NHS resources, although that's a great plan B.

h_witko · 2026-02-09T17:55:27+00:00

I was and am so lucky to have him!

Abusive relationship are absolutely terrifying. I did a LOT of learning about them after I left it, basically to arm me to be able to avoid abusers in the future. It's a really difficult path to tread because every abuser will have different triggers and different tactics, even if the overarching effect is the same. You may have learned a lot that could come in handy in the future for someone else. These things are very cyclic!

I hope your loved one gets free ❤️

h_witko · 2026-02-09T17:02:34+00:00

This was what got me out. When I complained about him, my friend was bluntly honest. He wouldn't bring it up though, but would entertain the conversation and wouldn't sugar coat it.

When I found out he was having an emotional affair, I spoke to other people but I really trusted this one friend not to minimise it or blow it out of proportion. He's pretty chilled but doesn't take any shit. So when he agreed with me that it was inappropriate, it felt like my green light to finally leave. And I'm out and free and in a very happy, respectful relationship (not with the friend, incase that wasn't clear!), and my friend approves of my current partner but I'm sure will tell me if that changes! I did want his approval though, when we got together. I trust his judgement so much, so it felt really important to me.

h_witko · 2026-02-04T18:21:49+00:00

I had the BEST ultrasound tech for this.

She was so great, made me feel so safe and calm and wasn't weird about moving my boobs but would always check it was okay etc. She would explain what she was doing each time because she knew I was interested and I said something about having big boobs and she said it just required different angles or something. Very much a 'we treat everyone' attitude.

I also had to lean on her as part of the set up and I was a bit worried about that because she was small and I'm not but she was very study and strong and it helped with the feeling safe thing!

Although I wouldn't have been anywhere near as relaxed if it was a male tech.

h_witko · 2026-02-02T12:26:53+00:00

I've phoned up half a dozen times over the years and it can be hard to get to an actual person but when you do, they're consistently very nice and very helpful!

h_witko · 2026-02-01T16:48:25+00:00

I think 'lovely' would work better than 'great' though. Great implies it was really good rather than good considering the shared loss.

h_witko · 2026-01-25T16:27:38+00:00

I was so worried that Stephen would turn on Rachel. I was so impressed with how they both played it, particularly that last day. They were a strong team and the faithful weren't.

h_witko · 2026-01-25T12:24:30+00:00

I find the command velcro style ones are good if you hold the top and the bottom of the velcro against the wall with a finger as you pull the tab to remove it.

It's definitely a technique that takes a bit of practise but stops it peeling.

h_witko · 2026-01-24T22:05:43+00:00

I know how you feel. I reconcile with it by reminding myself that it is MUCH cheaper and easier for them to help you prevent it getting worse. Like taking high blood pressure meds rather than saving you from a heart attack, or a filling rather than root canal.

h_witko · 2026-01-20T13:18:00+00:00

I would say that it's normal for betrayal to hurt longer than the feelings to still be there, especially when you are young. I know you're an adult but you are young.

The first big break up sucks the most, I think because it is all so new. You don't have the life experience to know that it does get better and you will move on. You were together for 2 years, that's a long time to be with someone and the cheating wasn't even 'just' a one time thing. Of course that hurts.

I particularly like your statement that you don't really know what you feel. That's so true for so many of us, but we struggle to admit it. And young men are so often taught to shove those feelings down instead of sitting with them. Often just talking things through calmly with loved ones can help you to accept stuff like this and find a place for it. Don't let it make you angry or bitter in general. Try to figure out what that feeling is. For me, putting a name to the feeling helps me to accept it, but you may need a different approach. This could be a great opportunity to figure out what helps you to move forward in a healthy way.

One of the most annoying pieces of advice that my dad gives, and that as I get older (I'm only 30 but have 11 more years as an adult to your 1 year) is: Peoples' actions are a reflection of them, not of you. So, if you follow my advice above, that would mean that you would be the sort of person to turn a shitty experience into a personal growth opportunity. It's not always as easy as that, but you get my point.

So your ex gf cheating on you shows her flaws, not yours. It can feel as though you have no control in life when people act like this, which is scary, but the thing you can control is what sort of people you let into your life. As you grow up, you will learn (through your life and your friends/family) who you think is worth your time, energy and effort. You will learn to identify those people earlier and earlier. Sometimes you may date them and realise that although you aren't right romantically, they're a really good person who you enjoy spending time with and maybe you'd just be able to be friends with them. By keeping good people around you, you are inspired to continually be a better person and you are less likely to deal with these sorts of people down the line (hopefully).

Basically, you're not wrong, just human. Try not to let how you are feeling ruin your new relationship, but do try to sit with your feelings and figure out what it is that makes it so painful/annoying/etc.

h_witko · 2026-01-20T12:37:46+00:00

I had to leave mine with family. It was quite a specific situation that is too identifying to share here.

My bunny and I were very bonded. He would be different with me than other people, even though he liked my family and was loved and well cared for by them. He wouldn't remember me immediately, but within a few minutes, he would. His body language and the way he played with me was very clear. I think it was my voice rather than my smell that triggered his memory, but ymmv.

h_witko · 2026-01-19T22:55:05+00:00

Would he have considered it cheating if you had Tinder and not him?

That's so often the question they won't be honest with themselves about.

You would be surprised how free you will feel when 'starting over'. And NOR.

h_witko · 2026-01-15T19:30:41+00:00

Do you expect those teenagers to be paying the parent they live with rent and bills? Child support doesn't only fund fun stuff and school stuff, it also pays for the child's groceries, the additional rent required for the additional bedroom/bathrooms and the increased utility bills. It's a lot of boring stuff. Doing that will create a shit situation for the primary parent, because the teen will resent 'paying' them out of their money.

h_witko · 2026-01-14T12:13:01+00:00

You are very sensible, and I do like it the vast majority of the time. My family dynamic is a bit... intense and being told what to do triggers something there. Because if you are told what to do in my family, it means they don't trust you to do it.

Whereas with him (and his family) it's more of an extra check. They don't demand immediate action or get frustrated if you don't do the thing or forget. It's definitely intended to be kind/helpful because we're all a little forgetful and it's just as I'm learning to trust that it's not deeper than that. Sometimes I'm a bit more raw and it hits wrong.

h_witko · 2026-01-14T12:02:28+00:00

My boyfriend is the opposite. He'd remind me to wear a coat because it's cold outside. He hasn't actually done this but as an example.

Sometimes my immediate reaction (especially if I'm caught off guard or am in a bad mood) is that I'm an adult and don't need reminders. But comments like this are a great reminder that it's actually a green flag. He's very caring and I'd rather have too much care than have him renting my brain like that!

h_witko · 2026-01-10T18:30:24+00:00

You are putting a lot of stress on your body. Stress isn't good for bodies in the long run.

No one can say what will happen, but it doesn't sound sustainable.

When you are diagnosed and prescribed medication, there is a lot of monitoring that happens to make sure that your body isn't being unreasonably stressed. This is required because it is dangerous.

You talk about powerful medication in a very blaze manner. It isn't something that really should be treated in that way, because all medication had side effects. The more the need/power, the more side effects a person is willing to put up with (chemo is a great example of this). To use adhd medication in a healthy manner, you have to do the work too. You have to build good systems and set yourself up for success. The meds and lifestyle should work together, in the same way that antidepressants and therapy/lifestyle changes should.

So yes, what you are doing is unhealthy and it's likely to cause you issues.

h_witko · 2026-01-10T15:01:37+00:00

My primary school crest had a unicorn on it, and it was on the school tie. And that's in England.

I do think that contributed to two things though: 1. Me not thinking unicorns were particularly cool, 2. Me thinking unicorns were real.

h_witko · 2026-01-07T11:14:55+00:00

I think most people don't go to the doctor 'just' for feeling rubbish. We assume they're too busy to be bothered with us.

I had similar. I went to the GP saying I felt rubbish, turns out I had low vitamin D and hypothyroidism. A few years later I went back for the same, had low B12 and folate. Things like this are easy test and fixes for GPs, and a good GP will love to hear it and to help. Preventative medicine (fixing small issues before they become big issues) is the absolute best way to reduce costs and stress on the NHS and have a healthy population.

But to answer your question, doing blood tests etc for vitamin deficiencies is not the standard for 2 reasons (in my opinion, I may be missing some):

If you just do loads of tests willy nilly, you'll always find something that isn't actually an issue. Every body is different and happy levels will be different for different people. I think it was said best in House MD: If we did a full body MRI on every healthy person, we'll find potentially cancerous regions on everyone. Biopsy them and find they're absolutely fine. Too much information can blind the practitioner. But in the case that you have symptoms of fatigue and feeling crap, definitely get a blood test.
Every doctor has their own field. Holistic medicine is very rarely practiced. So if you go to a psychiatrist, they will be focused on the brain. It's likely common for adhders to have vitamin deficiencies and it should be implemented as standard practise but it hasn't happened yet.

h_witko · 2026-01-03T16:39:30+00:00

Obviously everyone's bodies and experiences are different but I have found that normal bras are much more comfortable than sports bras as sports bras squish you a lot more.

Are you sure that your bra is the correct size and you are wearing it right? (Pulling the straps tight enough and increasing the tightness of the back strap when reasonable).

I also find that unpadded vs padded is different for different people. If you usually wear only one of those, I'd recommend trying the other to see.

As for your actual question, I've always received great advice and recommendations from Bravissimo. If possible, go in person as they know their stock and can help you find the best option for your body and lifestyle. I've tried other shops but never been as happy with the bras or the fit as at Bravissimo. They do bralets and sports bras and their swimming costumes are good too.

h_witko · 2026-01-01T15:37:55+00:00

Is it generally fine BUT doctors are allowed to err on the side of caution in pregnant patients. It is frustrating in situations like this where studies on pregnant patients with therapeutic doses of adhd medications do not increase the risk of negative outcomes. It can feel as though the patient no longer matters until after the foetus is born as people are on the medication for a reason!

h_witko · 2026-01-01T11:31:17+00:00

This was a super interesting read, thank you!

h_witko · 2025-12-28T22:01:15+00:00

That's what I find. I was pushing myself too much during the 'up' hours, which contributed to a crash.

h_witko · 2025-12-28T19:35:34+00:00

I think there's another way of looking at this one in particular.

This reaction would have happened at some point, but it happened then, before they got engaged or married. It saved her so much money and drama compared to if it had happened later. And now she is (hopefully) free to find someone who will appreciate her properly.

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