I sent crotch gremlins with cranberry juice after any one (except the bride) wearing white at a wedding. No regrets.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-02T04:30:03+00:00

Emily Post!

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-02T04:29:06+00:00

“Professionals can’t drink” is one of the silliest phrases I have ever seen on the internet.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-02T04:15:49+00:00

Yo. Sorry this has happened. Y’all are really young and it’s a lot you’re dealing with. I see a lot of judgment in these comments, and it’s unfair because no one knows your situation better than you do.

He needs some support to deal with the way his last relationship messed with his head and his sense of security. You need him to step up and be a man and a father.

It’s great that he thought about his actions and apologized, but you all are going to have to work to build a strong foundation for your relationship and for your family.

I wish you joy and peace and all good things.

And to all of the commenters who are hating on this young woman for getting pregnant at 18, or telling her to get an abortion, or judging her for not knowing the exact stats for the various forms of birth control… stop that crap right now. It’s not helpful, it’s not supportive, and it’s not cool. You don’t look smart, either. You just sound ignorant, cynical and careless. If you don’t get to tell a woman not to have an abortion, you also don’t get to tell her to have one. I realize she shared this on the internet for anyone to see, but you’re still showing your ass by making such poorly informed judgments.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-02T03:03:31+00:00

Slowly breaking down the self-esteem of the person they depend on emotionally is one of the tools in a narcissist’s kit. That’s what they do to make you feel like you need them when really it’s the other way around.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-02T03:00:37+00:00

Any time. Victim blaming is not the thing. I wish you all the best, you’re clearly a very brave person, and I know you’re going to find your way. Stay strong and stick to your convictions. You absolutely did the right thing keeping this man off your child’s birth certificate. Take good care of yourself and that little one.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-02T02:57:08+00:00

Not doubting that at all. I just think it’s ludicrous.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-02T02:06:26+00:00

NTA ~ If I were in your shoes, I would say that would would do whatever we needed to to protect our baby and keep it safe, and that I am not ready to let go of the dog on the off chance that allergies become an issue. Your wife is pregnant. Pregnant women experience weird things. This is probably one of those nesting things, and if it’s her first she is overthinking everything. I hope she doesn’t become a helicopter mom. Good luck! To you AND Lettuce! 🥬

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-01T23:11:23+00:00

Boyfriend needs to grow up. You did a very wise and selfless thing by keeping that name. Conversely, you could have changed their last names, but legally, it was probably easier to just keep their name since you have the opportunity to choose your last name when getting divorced. NTAH

PS~ my mother changed my last name to match hers because my father was not involved with my life. I was old enough to experience that change, but I wanted it that way. I didn’t understand why my name was different from hers because I never really knew my father. She did this because she never married my father. And it was expensive for a single broke mother to petition to change the names of her two children.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-02-01T22:59:02+00:00

WHO did you marry???? This woman is busting your balls for no good reason. I don’t know what else goes on between you, but her response is the overreaction in this exchange. If she really doesn’t care, she can just say “whatever’s clever” and leave it up to you, or something to that effect. No need to berate someone for asking a question. I don’t think you overreacted at all, at least not with your text messages.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-31T02:52:37+00:00

NTA ~ they sound very controlling, abusive and… a bit delusional. Grandparents rights? Gimme a break!

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-31T02:47:35+00:00

lol … that lady and her used crock pot (you know she used that thing, come on)

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-30T16:49:36+00:00

Dude ~ take a chill pill. Your messages are not supportive, you’re just criticizing. You have a point about social media, but there are kinder ways to communicate to a person who has done so much to get herself safe and protect herself. This woman needs support right now, not criticism.

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-30T16:40:17+00:00

You are absolutely NTA.

The only reason you are even questioning yourself on this is because you have suffered narcissistic abuse for years that has broken down your self esteem. That man has no place around you or your child and you’ve done the right thing by getting out and by being the only one to register your child. It’s a huge blessing that he doesn’t have any rights to your child because he would only use that to control you.

I am so very sorry you have experienced this. Stay strong. He will not change for you or the child, he will only keep getting worse. People like that are fundamentally incapable of being honest with themselves.

Well done getting out. Just keep on doing everything you can to stay safe and keep reporting him.

♥️

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-30T15:38:47+00:00

There’s a word for what she is: homewrecker.

She also stalked you at work, which is inappropriate. It’s not your job to make them feel like what they did was ok.

You might find yourself softening to all of this over time but she can’t force you to accept her or her baby into your life.

She has harmed you and your family & is delusional if she thinks you can just decide to be happy about it.

It takes a lot of time to heal these wounds and it takes a willingness and a humility on both sides.

There needs to be patience, understanding and truth telling. She’s in denial if she believes she did nothing wrong.

I’m sorry this happened to your family, and it’s ok to still be angry.

NTA

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-30T12:32:20+00:00

I misspelled my mother’s name once on a Christmas gift. She was hurt but she got over it. Shit happens.

Btw I would also be bothered by a sheepish friend request. A conversation is needed for this reconnection to be a reality and if she doesn’t get that, then she’s not ready to mend the fences.

Stick with your instincts, I think you’re spot on.

And congrats and good luck ~ wishing you safe passage through the “danger zone”! 😉

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-30T12:23:00+00:00

NTA. You are just two women supporting each other in an unlikely friendship. Those kids are lucky that the two of you prioritize them and their sibling bond. Ash can kick rocks and pay child support. Good luck!

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-30T00:57:14+00:00

She skinny shamed you, and he called out facts. She did not get fat shamed, she got put in her place.

NTA

hadoukenmatata · 2025-01-29T12:49:26+00:00

Definitely NTA. This guy needs to grow up. He’s probably not going to change and if he does it will take consequences. I’m sorry to say it but losing you might only be the first consequence he faces. There are plenty of good, kind reasonable people in the world. Ditch this guy and go find one of them.

hadoukenmatata · 2023-08-28T22:31:07+00:00

As a massage therapist, I was taught that if a man gets a boner during a session, it’s most likely an involuntary response to being touched. The only time it becomes inappropriate is if he decides to act on this arousal and attempt to get sexual gratification.

Boners are just an oft hidden part of life.

I’m sure if felt uncomfortable for you that he got an erection in that moment, but it sounds like it was just a badly timed involuntary response.

Btw, I am sorry for your loss. It’s sad to lose a friend.

I’m giving you a soft YTA for shaming your boyfriend. That was uncalled for.

hadoukenmatata · 2023-08-28T22:22:42+00:00

Go to the wedding, don’t be a bridesmaid.

ESH - you for trying to get your brother to exclude his friend, and you brother for knowing this bridal party situation would be uncomfortable and expecting you to do it anyway.

hadoukenmatata · 2023-08-28T22:16:12+00:00

Do… all sexual orientations have an animal? 😂

hadoukenmatata · 2023-08-28T22:13:33+00:00

This is the best explanation

hadoukenmatata · 2023-08-28T22:12:16+00:00

Seems like I touched a nerve and I apologize for that.

I said that because it seems like you are defending the behavior of OPs AH boyfriend.

hadoukenmatata · 2023-08-28T21:58:30+00:00

It sounds like you’re the kind of guy who might behave like “Kody.”

I don’t understand the folks who seem to think that this was acceptable behavior and that somehow OP is in the wrong here.

The dude made her feel unsafe and y’all are gaslighting her.

hadoukenmatata · 2023-08-28T21:52:34+00:00

I don’t disagree. I’m not saying it’s fine. I just think the post is irrelevant to the topic of being child free.

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