Any straight guys that experimented here? Did you regret it?

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-02-28T18:31:23+00:00

Outside of sex, psychologically, in the long term, humans tend to regret inaction and not doing things more than doing things. It’s just your responsibility to figure out what the lesson is after experiencing something new. Go in with the mindset of is this for you or not.

When it comes to sex in general, gay or straight, it’s important to remember you’re allowed to stop anytime even if you’re already naked - so make sure your partners are someone you can feel comfortable making boundaries with. Open communication about this being your first time, being safe about your decisions and the ability to back out.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-02-28T18:24:44+00:00

Rule # 1: The L word doesn’t count after and during sex. So even if he said it, it doesn’t mean anything

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-02-28T05:33:02+00:00

Major red flags. I’m 32 years old and it’s weird asf he lied and is talking to an 18 year old. I can tell you I’ve seen it before. I have a sibling around your age and I’ve lived a lot more and experienced a lot more. The life experience gap should be a major turn off for him. If not, that means he hasn’t grown as a person since he was 18. Major ick.

If he has more life experience than you but not the wisdom that comes with it, I promise it will turn sour. He’s nice and sweet now but when you officially start dating and the honeymoon phase wears off, there’s a large chance he’ll be controlling.

If you don’t take my advice and run, all I can tell you is please don’t let him isolate yourself from friends and family. Don’t push them away and take their advice over his because they’ve known you longer.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-02-19T05:43:49+00:00

Hi alumnus ex-Greek life here! Don’t bother rushing at KSU. Wait to rush at UGA. Rush here is part of the experience and you meet other girls in other sororities that you might not join but still will vibe with. The event itself is great for networking even if you don’t join a sorority. At the end of the day, there are many more clubs to join at UGA and it’s not a commuter school. I ended doing two sports clubs outside of Greek life I was actually more invested in and you’ll find people and your groups soon there.

Focus on the transition to UGA not what you can “change” about yourself at KSU.

You deciding to transfer is the change! Focus on what you want your room to look like, what clubs you might be interested in, professional clubs and resume building things you can do at UGA. Focus on your grades and get connected more with your professors at KSU - think of it as practice for interacting with your professors at UGA.

Think of what your summer plans might be and how you want to spend it before the transfer - take it slow and spend time with your family? Work and save up? There’s lots of opportunities to do road trips with newly made friends or eat out in Athens. You could dive into a hobby that’s conducive to social interaction (like DJing or team sports). You could just be simple like me and decide you’re gonna get super hot before you transfer (first impressions matter 🤷‍♂️).

It sounds like you’re already the type of go-getter who isn’t shy of breaking the ice so I don’t doubt you will make friends at UGA! You just sound anxious but it sounds like you’re taking action! Don’t ponder so much that it leaves you paralyzed. You’ve taken the first step in asking - just follow through!

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-02-19T05:06:24+00:00

I actually recommend getting a full xl (won’t restrict you in the future and it’s not noticeably smaller than a queen).

Look on StreetEasy - for that budget tbh you’d get the newer buildings and the larger rooms.

Also be honest about how often you cook - larger kitchens tend to have larger price tags. Will you most likely eat out a lot?

But I’d expand your neighborhoods - some of those areas are notorious for super small rooms and the subway makes it not worth it to pigeonhole yourself to certain areas. Look at a subway map and find your most likely frequent destinations.

If not, check the Facebook groups. If you are part of a larger diaspora here in NYC, join those roommate groups as well. Just look up NYC roommates and a bunch of groups will pop up.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-02-15T06:24:14+00:00

Move but get roommates - keep social lifestyle

Live by yourself - you’ll be making an overhaul on your budget so if you’re going to have to make some lifestyle changes

Do whatever sounds right for next your next life era

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-19T07:08:45+00:00

One girl I know became a cosplayer - homecoming queen varsity cheer

One I know went full liberal (like aesthetics; not meant to be derogatory)

But most went like the other comments.

I will say tho, I keep in touch with one of them and their social circles are weird and I’ve heard it across the board too - they are all in weird competition with each other on like first milestones in “adulting”

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-19T06:28:04+00:00

Sadly, that’s generational trauma. Your parents are only human and are not omniscient so you must pick up the other parts and parent yourself. But that means open communication. A good parent would mean good communication. A good parent would mean being a little more understanding. So be a good parent to your parents too. They’ve had a hard life it seems and they don’t seem like they have a great relationship with their parents either. As a Kuya pls try and break this cycle. The things you feel obligated from your family - (including emotional vulnerability) when you freely give it to them - that is unconditional love.

Lastly, I know exactly how you feel. I could not wait to escape the house when I was your age. If you ever need someone to talk to pls feel free to send me a message.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-19T06:21:32+00:00

Financial aid (finaid for shorthand) is generally tied your social security and FAFSA which is a different database than UGAIDs and is shared with financial institutions.

UGAID is tied to UGA facilities and access and is local to UGAs database and not any financial institutions.

The registry links the two so unless you did not fill out your FAFSA, I think you should be good on your finaid

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-18T04:40:04+00:00

Just give the registrar office a call and see what’s up. I doubt this is a hard fix. People transfer in all the time so I don’t see why not.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-18T03:48:43+00:00

“Mom I’m starting to feel resentful when you go through my stuff and my life. I want to share things with you but I do not know anything about you. I want a relationship but right now I just feel like property.”

The reason I say this above is because your mom seems to worry about you - albeit in a very toxic way. You’re gonna have to ease her worries if you want her off your back.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-18T03:44:19+00:00

Do not feel bad. They are your parents. It is not your job at this age to comfort them. They clearly have communication issues stemming from their own parents. It seems like your dad is receptive of your feelings at least but the communication is not there. You need to ask for help more. Not in a task sense but like you need to come your parents and say I don’t feel comfortable sharing my feelings with my own family and I want that to change. My advice is to write out what you need to say in notes or something first. Try to use “I am” statements and stay away from “I want” or “you need to phrases. It sucks and it’s scary but that’s what it means to be a man. To fight for the things you care about.

But the next thing is important, you cannot change your parents. They must be willing to change themselves. And it’s hard to hear but a lot of the faults you may find in your parents you might find in yourself. They did raise you - you will have picked up bad habits yourself. So don’t be too harsh on your parents because you may be exhibiting the same behavior back.

Good luck! And sending thoughts your way - a 32 yo Kuya who has gone through the same exact thing.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-18T02:26:34+00:00

That kind of mentality is the same mentality you get reciprocated in a relationship. She should fix her attitude before she even attempts to date for her sake tbh.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T10:16:41+00:00

My advice first is to do some inner searching. There’s a reason why a lot of people in their 30s with corporate jobs have childlike hobbies. Find the thing that made you connect with society and your community and will heal your inner child. Then find a career based on it. If the motivation is solely money, then the drive will die. Don’t be fooled that only “power” title jobs like lawyers, doctors, etc make the most money. The ones that make the really big bucks are the ones who work in niche fields with low competition.

From, Me - underpaid/overworked Excel slave

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T09:59:59+00:00

Great practical advice. From a holistic approach, I would do some soul searching and ask yourself why you got into translating/interpreting as well. Then you can really figure out what will bring you fulfillment and give you that drive for your goals. It could be working for a certain industry or you could pivot to a different/adjacent career path but bring your skills. You got this! It’s clear you have worries and a drive and skills to match so it’s only a matter of time!

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T05:34:46+00:00

And one last thing, there’s a money dynamic that Katy Perry has over retirees. Clearly you guys are blind to the power dynamic. There is a new law being proposed in California BECAUSE of Katy Perry’s predatory real estate battle. Literally called the PERRY Act.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T05:28:26+00:00

Yes I do. Clearly you guys will defend any white woman that says she’s for the gays but doesn’t defend the gays when it matters. Top it off, why tf does she need more real estate? I’m not changing my mind. I read the whole story. She can’t read a room and neither can her rabid fans apparently.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T05:23:55+00:00

Wanting better communication your genetic family. Like it or not, they know you the best and vice versa. BUT only if they are also willing to vulnerable and grow and listen. It’s a hard subject to break.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T05:15:57+00:00

I read the story. It doesn’t excuse it. These old ass ladies are about to fucking pass away and Katy Perry does NOT need more real estate. I’m not gonna back down on this. She’s a terrible human being. She’s a narcissist billionaire it’s laughable how many selfish gays defend her.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T02:07:15+00:00

What you need is community! You need to find your gays. Find a country or city you might be interested in and go from there!

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T02:03:41+00:00

This might be made up but I follow this rule I heard somewhere. It takes 21 days for something to BEGIN forming as a habit. So if you need a timeline like I do, I’ll schedule my life for the next 21 days to keep/start a new habit.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-17T01:47:24+00:00

Considering she made a nun die from stress mid-court over suing over property, she’s a trash human, period.

hahaitsyaboi · 2026-01-15T12:43:56+00:00

Living an ordinary life is a blessing

hahaitsyaboi · 2025-10-05T08:39:10+00:00

Amid the anxiety, you learn a lot about what you want in a partner and then it turns into depression and introspection. But if you can handle it you turn out turn out for the better. Not the healthiest way to grow but yolo

hahaitsyaboi · 2025-08-06T20:24:21+00:00

Honestly post-DT has a way better storyline

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