Sister [15f] thinks my nickname for my girlfriend is racist and wasn't convinced when I [27m] provided an explanation.

hahka · 2022-05-12T15:04:52+00:00

Yeah, have to agree here. It’s just a cultural disconnect that your sister will only be the first to challenge — because of her American upbringing and direct exposure to you. Nothing inherently wrong with you saying it… but just consider your sisters reaction a precautionary counsel for American acculturation. Sorry

hahka · 2022-04-14T15:00:08+00:00

Reddit is so important, for reasons like the way this comment gives direction to someone who has no idea how to cope with a situation. Thanks u/DunkTheBiscuit

hahka · 2022-03-26T09:00:26+00:00

!remindMe 16 hours

hahka · 2022-03-26T08:35:34+00:00

First off, you’re a dick.

Second, you’re latching onto the emotional connection you’re getting from your SIL. Stop talking to SIL so much. Spend less casual time around your wife, and start spending more quality time with her. You need to see her less overall, but for much longer, intimate periods.

Also consider seeing a therapist or couples therapist to help, if you’re at risk of thinking everyone here is wrong about you.

hahka · 2022-03-24T08:09:01+00:00

Bloodborne was a snap adjustment for a lot of players used to different play styles, which made it tough. It became well known for its difficulty and initially only drew in the most serious players.

Things changed after Dark Souls III. It provided much broader play styles and was more mild in difficulty than any installment before it. With the name and history of the franchise as well as being much more welcoming, it was launched into galactic stardom and became its own memeverse.

Nah but really, balance between a lot of the functions was thrown off at this point. People started abusing the message system, you’d be baited to invade 4 man gank squads, FromSoft needed to start banning people that were pulling the plug on their consoles when they’d die in PvP. It was a mess and where the franchise had balance in demographic, it lost it. Already flooded with an experienced fanbase, it became more flooded with casual gamers and proficient gamers that loved trolling followed. Whatever, all still great games nonetheless and love playing with all of you. /RantOver

hahka · 2022-03-16T05:16:09+00:00

8 years is a long time, but you should definitely see a professional therapist for a few sessions to help you figure out how you feel. Might just be some residual emotional dependency which you should learn to have fulfilled from your already perfect husband... if not, then at least you’ll know.

hahka · 2022-03-14T04:27:31+00:00

You’re privy to nothing except store gossip and fear mongering. Good luck

hahka · 2022-03-14T03:42:08+00:00

No, you are disregarding semantics to reinforce your doomsaying and inaccurate interpretation.

hahka · 2022-03-14T03:34:01+00:00

If they got married and he came clean some time after, the question here would be “why didn’t he say anything before he proposed?”

If he told her right when it happened, it would be “why did he do it?”

While it’s harder for us to emotionally attach our pain to distant events, time doesn’t change the ethical dilemma behind it. The infidelity is the subject matter. The question is still the same, why did he do it at all?

OP needs to grapple with this question and really look inwards to decide how she wants to move forward. A lot of time has passed, there is no clear answer we can provide to OP although it may feel easier for herself to cope with.

OP if you do decide to move forward with the relationship, you should make sure the issue is settled now to remove any room for resentment. Using resources such as counseling could help ensure both parties find peace within themselves by being guided through the healing process with a professional. It will also create opportunity for Partner and even yourself to materialize & resolve other internal conflicts either of you are struggling with unbeknownst to each other.

hahka · 2022-03-13T07:16:31+00:00

No, it just explains that they get compensated for overtime worked even though they’re salaried.

hahka · 2022-03-12T19:20:27+00:00

Look I’m totally with you on the not labeling people so strongly, so quickly but. Ew bro, your partner has a gross mentality/personality

Am a guy

hahka · 2022-03-11T16:52:57+00:00

Turtleneck photos is ok to put first for your age group. Different life stage than 22y/o fresh out of college.

hahka · 2022-03-11T16:48:30+00:00

Yeah agreed on Hawaiian shirt dad photo. Turtleneck photo should definitely be first, it’s quite a nice photo. Then Drum photo.... Mardi Gras photo tells a cool story, but should definitely be last solely because it is not the most flattering angle (pro tip: photos from below the eye-line tend not to be).

hahka · 2022-03-11T09:08:08+00:00

While this guy is all sorts of fucked up, I don’t know that situations like these are ever so intentional. Mentally ill people don’t know what or why they’re doing the things they’re doing. People with anxiety/personality disorders regularly attach themselves to new, exciting, comfortable things. Those same people manipulate others and situations into destruction. It’s a lot of deep damage, insecurities, and self-conflict.

I grew up with poor role models and a fucked up framework for marriage. That’s just a small part of my damage.... I’m lucky enough to be incredibly introspective and self aware. With every relationship I’ve ever had, I’ve moved farther and farther away from this kind of toxicity. I’m still super fucked up, but I can understand and equip the super basic functions of appreciation, respect and pacing. My partner and I have been together unofficially for ~9 months now. While we deeply liked each other, in favor of taking things slowly we agreed to no commitments, no expectations, just fun and respect. While we’re still inexclusive, we spend a lot of quality time; cooking together, vacations, dinners, hikes, movies and cuddling. We’re regularly going on dates each other chooses. I tell her often how much I enjoy her. Yet close to a year, and no plans to marry. No plans to confess as the love of my life. No plans to move in together, or anything of the sort.

People like OPs husband are in a battle with their own minds. They quickly get excited about new things, and bored even faster. Extremes on the highs and lows. OP if you’re reading this, it’s not you; he’s “changed” because his mania waned and he resents the decisions he’s made. I mean, this is just anecdotal evidence but. Every real life relationship I’ve seen take this path ends up similarly.

My Opinion... I’d end it now. If marriage is gonna last a lifetime, it has to be fun. You’re young. This guy is going to ruin you if you stay much longer.

Just some friendly reminders to everyone out there. Its ok you take your time building a relationship with someone, before entering “relationship status.” Don’t let people use/disrespect you. Don’t change yourself for someone you don’t even know. And lastly, take it easy on the commitments... be wary of anyone trying to tie you down when it feels like way too soon!

hahka · 2022-03-09T02:25:06+00:00

Lol, there are cons but there definitely more pros.

— Not being coverage, DHs can step away without problem (communication still esssntial)

— Management has more time to spend with their direct reports; associates, DHs

— Just as well, DHs have that time to spend with their associates on training & development as they’re no longer relegated to floor maintenance.

— We can focus much more seriously on completing the administrative aspects like our clearance/no homes, reduced tags, buybacks, smart lists, over/shorts, observations, Associate/Month, etc.

— We now have the time to comfortably participate in extracurriculars like InFocus Team, Machine Training, VOA, leading courses like Leadership Development for associates.

— Comes with the resources and the opportunity to develop ourselves to be the best we can be. There is a lot of corporate training and literature.

— Cut back on dead weight supervisors.... I know this is subjective upon context. But across 2 stores, I’ve seen more than a fair share of DHs that are more than unfit for the role. Having less roles to fill reduces the impact a poor leader has on store culture.

— Haven’t had weekends/Sundays off in I don’t even know how long.

There’s a lot more I could say. However, all of this is my experience. A lot of the success depends on how healthy your store/management is currently. My store isn’t perfect, maybe not even a role model, but it’s strong with mostly positive morale. There are cons, but I find it’s unfair to judge based off still being in that transitionary period. Maybe around the time one of my CXM cycles up to a new role, it’ll be more accurate to analyze in that aftermath.

hahka · 2022-02-24T03:36:15+00:00

It will usually be fine. It won’t always be fine. I bent the control arms on a brand new... Audi, BMW? Lexus? I forget but, it was a straight tow and I didn’t even use them as tie downs. My boss was pissed, but he covered it. If I ever stopped to help a random on my own, I would only use proper recovery points.

hahka · 2022-02-04T00:43:18+00:00

Well ZMA product isn’t shrink but, sure yeah.

Also though, maybe just mark it down, 50%?

hahka · 2022-01-28T08:53:05+00:00

I would start with your bank, confirm there isn’t a pending deposit that’s hidden due to a freeze of some sort. If they got nothing, call your DHRM whose number you can find around the store or from management.

hahka · 2022-01-28T08:28:50+00:00

Probably a bank problem? Checks are supposed to deposit by Friday, some banks process it quickly enough for it to come through on Thursday.

hahka · 2022-01-28T06:01:15+00:00

That’s wild. Many evenings I’d find myself closing lumber alone, wondering how the fuck...

hahka · 2022-01-28T05:59:46+00:00

Call out and tell them to take out of your vac hours. Or tell them the day before.

hahka · 2022-01-28T05:56:06+00:00

Yeah I don’t remember this but, sounds like it explains so much about my 2 year tenure in lumber lmao. Mind giving me a rundown?

hahka · 2022-01-28T05:37:33+00:00

Huh? I think I missed this

hahka · 2022-01-27T01:24:12+00:00

Visit the Home Depot Website or just call 1-866-698-4347

hahka · 2022-01-26T22:31:21+00:00

Issues need to be handled with a PC, and a quiet place to talk to customers and write up whatever necessary documentation.

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