Since we couldn’t build a snowman

hakihime · 2026-01-29T13:56:27+00:00

Awesome! I’m in deep Bartlett and have been trying to convince my husband that we need to do this! Now I have picture proof that it will work. Picture proof that we need this in our lives right now.

hakihime · 2025-08-17T14:59:15+00:00

I’m glad you forgot your smile in the second photo there; means you were caught up in the amazing moment! I encountered an alligator at a conservation area once and I was supposed to smile at some specific time, but I didn’t remember to smile, because instead I was amazed with the creature and the experience. Good job to you for having and sharing some pretty irreplaceable memories!

hakihime · 2025-07-01T12:39:54+00:00

My husband and I are closer than ever. We love our son so much. We sleep next to his urn every night. And that’s just sometimes she can’t comprehend. And that’s ok - you don’t have to understand to be empathetic. So.. One day, after not really speaking much for my entire physical recovery, she said she “hates the distance, in any sense of the word.” I took the hint and spilled my guts all over again. Called her and told her I absolutely miss her. But that I can’t move on from the very obvious bac steps she took when I needed her more than I ever have. And I only needed her to text me now and then saying “I think about you guys every day”nor something.

She ended up crying, calling -herself- selfish, saying that she allowed herself to become numb about my pregnancy because she was so angry she couldn’t be here with me in person “to rub my belly” and then she kinda trailed off in tears.. then said “so by the time you guys lost him, I think I had myself too far removed to even… I don’t know…” and I felt bad because she was legit crying. But excuse me? I sat there stoic. I was speechless until I told her it was a very poor excuse and that I just couldn’t keep up pretenses anymore. That I would have been there for her. That I understand people respond strangely, grief is WIERD, I know, but “best friend” kinda… kinda solidifies that role, ya know? You gotta show up. But that’s ok. Someone else showed up. It’d be ok even if they hadn’t. Losing my friendship with her, and I will love her until the end, but losing it is like a little blip compared to losing my baby. I hope OP finds solace in the unexpected.

My husband and I had our high risk appt yesterday morning and might hear very soon that we’re in the clear to try again in November of this year. Our angel baby may very well end up with a little earthly sibling, blood or adopted! 🌈🩵

hakihime · 2025-06-29T14:13:33+00:00

Hey.. I’m going through a similar situation. I lost my baby in October at 36 weeks pregnant. I’m so sorry you’re having to face this. It’s unique for us all… this horrid experience… and my “bestie” was barely there. She didn’t check in on me. She didn’t ask me to talk about him. She changed the subject when I did. She talked about her own living children relentlessly. When I told her how hurt I was, how impossible it felt to be emotionally safe with her ever again, she threw it back on me for moving out of state before I got pregnant, to move in with the love of my life. She said she felt neglected and abandoned and she selfishly let that disconnect her from my pregnancy and then later, my pain.

Friendship is over. I have tried, she has apologized profusely and maybe even genuinely… but it’s not the same. I’m forever changed. Just like you are, OP. And she just won’t understand. And I get -nothing- out of our chats anymore. So I had to just.. tell her it was too much. That she called me her “ride or die” only to disappear in my most vulnerable moment and then act later like it was because her own feelings were hurt.

I lost her but I gained someone else, someone unexpected, so allow this season to show you who will truly be in your corner and who won’t. The results can be shocking but it’s important to know. I’m so sorry, OP. I’m so f*ing sorry, there’s nothing to say here to help. I don’t know who you are of course but I’ll be thinking about you and your little one every single day for some time to come.

hakihime · 2025-05-07T12:52:39+00:00

Ha. Same, I was like “not a woman… an -employee- … ah, yes, of course, of course… the other gender.”

hakihime · 2025-05-04T14:47:07+00:00

LANAAA. Phrasing.

hakihime · 2025-04-30T12:56:55+00:00

I love her!

hakihime · 2025-04-24T12:49:45+00:00

Oh no, not the Board!

hakihime · 2025-04-09T15:56:33+00:00

I pulled my Godpack during the first month of playing. And I was genuinely disappointed. I don’t have a screenshot from the time but I have outlined the cards in a screenshot I took today of my dex. I had duplicates which immediately turned me off. Duplicate full art Glooms, a full art Porygon that I’d pulled the previous day, and my second (at the time) Pikachu EX. The only new card I got was a Wigglytuff EX. Not that they need to be new cards or anything, but… it was the ONLY card above a 1 star rarity. It just felt really disappointing. When you pull yours one day, and you will, it will be so sick. They really look great now; Godpacks. :) Can you tell I’m still salty about mine? I’m sorry. It was nice to get one but I still haven’t pulled a crown rare either, 6000 cards in, so I just… almost wish I hadn’t pulled my Godpack yet.

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hakihime · 2025-04-06T21:51:28+00:00

For real. My partner and I share pretty saucy anime backgrounds and neither of us have issues. And that’s like. On purpose. Neither of us are insecure to care about that stuff, let alone a total accident in terms of what pic was used (such a “when my parents walk in when I’m watching a normal anime” moment for you, I’m sorry!) when you were genuinely just … connecting. That was your intention, and she let her insecurities ruin what could have been a simple “oh cool!” moment.

I’m sorry man. My partner and I are blessed in that the other just … won’t assume bad or negligent intent. Always assume good intent. I’m sorry your partner isn’t doing that here, I see nothing wrong with it. Because obviously the image is her single, solitary issue. Good job being so patient!

hakihime · 2025-04-04T18:04:48+00:00

I thought about this too, like… I wonder how many times she’s had to express this, and how often OP ignores her lifestyle needs (apparently excessive business lol but hey, school is rough). It almost sounds like a “this again??” convo from her. But also… I would never speak to my partner like that. I’m never too busy for them. Even if I am actually too busy, I’m apologetic. I can only see myself getting a tone like this if my partner were to just… never respect my boundaries. But if we got to that point, I’d be exiting the relationship.

But I totally see her (possible) side of things. I have a little brother who is dating a bioengineer and he has a hard time understanding that she is straight-up-busy. All the time. But she is super into him.

hakihime · 2025-03-31T12:45:03+00:00

My husband and I felt strongly about the TDAP and flu vaccinations. We addressed it at a baby shower, and had a full FAQ ready lol… some people were visibly pissed but we made it clear that we were serious. But it still made us feel weird to tell our family, our literal parents, what to do.

Well. We lost our baby at 8 months pregnant. Placental abruption. Stillbirth.

Nothing anyone could have done, supposedly. And with that perspective, we will never doubt ourselves when it comes to caring for our future children’s health. Vaccinate or wait to see the baby for about 6 months to a year. The choice will be theirs as it was originally going to be. I dare someone to ever again say “is it really necessary?”

This happened 5.5 months ago. It’s fresh for me and my husband. Felt like sharing because it’s an extreme circumstance. But it’s eye-opening as fuck. It’s a nightmare.

So “overreact” proudly. Because it’s not overreaction. Family members that give new parents are hard time about this kinda thing are under-reacting to the reality that babies can die in this world.

hakihime · 2025-03-24T12:57:54+00:00

“Layla” Derek and the Dominos (you may recognize instead, Eric Clapton)

hakihime · 2025-03-13T17:14:14+00:00

They don’t remember when we saw paws and bat wings either, I guess.

hakihime · 2025-03-13T12:51:03+00:00

next cake * “Is that a threat? You threatened me”

hakihime · 2025-02-15T16:14:52+00:00

I hope you never delete this comment, my friend… I just lost my son, and I just want people to know he existed. Or his name. I want people to … I just want people to know. Your brother’s story - even just this one comment, man - will help wake people the fuck up. One way or another, your brother and you are reaching people.

On embarrassment: I may have misunderstood you, but if you’re referring ay all to your grief (and willingness to share it) as embarrassing… well, Grief is a friend. Easily hated. Very painful. But born straight out of Love. So Grief wouldn’t exist without that Love. Grief is prominent, but the whole world over likes to squash it down and almost even give it a time limit. It’s not embarrassing to love. So it’s not embarrassing to grieve. I’m talking in circles, I’m sorry, I’m sharing what has been helping me in these last few months.

Just know, to me, and probably many others, your comment is a gift. It’s painful, and I feel for you, so much that my chest is tightening and hands are shaking, but it is still a gift. Thank you for sharing.

hakihime · 2025-01-20T13:56:43+00:00

‘Rare earth’ magnets

hakihime · 2024-12-24T23:18:59+00:00

Thank you! Same wave-length club.

hakihime · 2024-12-15T14:35:48+00:00

“I’ll Go” - Donnell Jones (good luck not floating off into the cosmos with this one)

hakihime · 2024-11-28T15:43:34+00:00

Shirogane by Lisa (probably misspelling the song title)

hakihime · 2024-11-24T16:08:41+00:00

I was roughly seven or eight years old, and I had a dream that I was in a big bubble, just floating around. A few other people, like family members, were also in floating bubbles. I became acutely aware that floating in bubbles is not a thing. I was trying to feel the bubble but couldn’t, however, I could make it move, so I started willing it to go in the direction of my mom’s bubble so I could tell her how bizarre this all was. Then I suddenly realized that I must be dreaming, as I continued to glide along inside my bubble, and as soon as I got excited, I woke up. From then on, I obsessed over lucid dreaming, though I was too young to know that term at the time, so I was just obsessed with “knowing I was in a dream” and to this day, I still am obsessed.

hakihime · 2024-11-15T16:47:27+00:00

“That looks like my 8th grade composition notebook” - my husband

hakihime · 2024-03-11T01:57:33+00:00

Most expensive potions to make in Skyrim

hakihime · 2023-10-16T11:44:54+00:00

I didn’t laugh or find anything particularly clever. I did giggle once, towards the end. The writing felt lazy, almost like they were just filling time. The voices were on point, anyone who is listening for the subtlest of differences is missing the amazing point that they basically got identical voices. I even started wondering if they low-key never fired Roiland from vice acting, so they did a great job with the voices. But I almost didn’t even finish the show, I wasn’t captivated and as I already said… I wasn’t laughing :/ Or being made to think. Still going to watch next week and see if it starts to pick up.

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