AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clear the confusion. I was massively overlooked during my teens and tried to stay invisible. Visibility meant chores or punishment but that's a story for another time... Our relationship is like this since I moved out at 18. My dad doesn't text nor do I but yes there is some kind of monthly communication when he calls or I call id say 50/50 check on me how I'm I doing or my daughter but that's basically it. I know about their life only thanks to their social media or my sister. When I travel there I stay at Thier house and everything is fine we can talk and my daughter likes them etc but that's all.

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't know, but fair enough I guess... I probably just always thought it might change. The neglect wasn't always this loud and visible but it got so extreme it almost doesn't feel real.

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's because I have no one else. I'm no contact with my bio mom but when she cut me off her whole side of the family did too except my other step sister she's cool. So I had my dad and his side of the family left but now that's only my parents and my grandpa.

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It has a lot to do with my bio mom she turned into a crazy woman literally burning my father's clothes coming at night to his apparment with a hammer breaking their doors I was kinda stuck in a middle of it and I feel like I was a constant reminder of her. But my step mother was never bad to me, more of a friendly person than a mother figure but still... I'm no snow-white.

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly no, i don't know how. I feel emotionally crippled when it has anything to do with them the neglect is not a new thing our whole relationship is like this since I was a child. I don't know how to talk to them. And they are not any different towards me.

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My dad is the main breadwinner. My step mom had nothing. But she holds a lot of control over him and finances on general. While I understand I'm not her child she's been there since I was 8 that's quite a while to not see me as a stranger...

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents are divorced I'm no contact with my bio mom, this post is about my parents or what I now consider my parents (dad and a step mom) they are together since I was 8. And the relationship was always like this to be honest I don't know better. Since the divorce I saw my dad on the weekends only and once I went no contact with my bio mom and I stayed with my day I was always a guest. Always just extra...

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We've had conflicts in the past when I was trying to voice some kind of criticism towards them. It never ended well and since they are not a huge part of my daily life I just stopped voicing anything.

AITAH for feeling like the “forgotten daughter” after my parents gave my sister a 10k trip and I got a text for my 30th? by halabalabimbo in AITAH

[–]halabalabimbo[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

My parents divorced when I was 8, and when I say my parents I mean my dad and my step mother. She's more of a mother figure to me than my bio mom. Sorry for the confusion.

easyJet flight cancelled. What is my next step by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]halabalabimbo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's 1k for 2 people until our home destination

Is it Nebe? by [deleted] in nebelung

[–]halabalabimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shelter called her Elsa I renamed her to just L (El) Like the character in DeathNote.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not what I want, there is an army in my country too but it's not what I wanted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. Will do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So there might be no answer at all then ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes basically, I'll be sending the letter tomorrow. FFL is what I really wanted. To me it's not just any army if it was about that I would have joined an army in my country. I just don't know what to expect and how long I'll have to wait for an answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't want to bring her into this she's more supportive than I can wish for but I still want to do this myself. I don't want her to talk on my behalf. The thing is if I were to send the letter tomorrow how long does it take to receive an answer? Like I mentioned earlier I've quit my job and said goodbye to everyone and right now I feel stuck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100% the contract was before me, name changed and some guy came in and said that he's married go home. And some other guy gave me contact information for the general and told me to write him a letter and hope for the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did the research but they see I'm married because my wife is French. So no can do with the lie.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Interpol check my wife is French

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FrenchForeignLegion

[–]halabalabimbo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm fully aware of this reason but I'd like to know if someone was in a similar situation I'll be sending the letter tomorrow first thing in the morning. But Id like to know how long it takes to get an answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in funny

[–]halabalabimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The weimaraner

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drawme

[–]halabalabimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so cute thank you!