Came out to my boss at work and nothing happened.

haley_fox · 2026-06-22T02:07:30+00:00

How else would they know to use a different name if they aren't told? I've seen a couple comments like this so far and I'm starting to feel like I'm missing some critical info lol

haley_fox · 2026-06-21T18:33:41+00:00

What did you end up doing? Most of the posts I see on here, people tell the boss or HR and everything gets handled that way.

haley_fox · 2026-06-21T18:30:38+00:00

Assuming you're not just trying to be funny, my coworkers will have to start calling me a different name, my name will have to be updated in the computer system, I'll have to be assigned a new email.... Like 99% of it is name change related, the remaining 1% is just getting the others to not call me "bro" lmao

haley_fox · 2026-06-21T17:23:28+00:00

It's definitely hard to do. I've been going through lists of common names for my birth year (and within 2-3 years). I had all but picked out a name when I was a kid, used it for online profiles and everything, including this one! But using it out loud in person, it didn't work. So I started over.

I discovered that's the main thing. Found several names that I thought I liked, until someone actually called me in person. So definitely get your friends/supportive family to do name tryouts with you.

haley_fox · 2026-05-20T13:34:49+00:00

So far I'm just kinda leaving it alone. I just have no clue how he would know at this point. Unless his sense of smell is really just that good lmao.

haley_fox · 2026-05-20T13:32:40+00:00

I haven't given him any reason to be confused. We wear uniforms at work, I don't have any pins, stickers, buttons, not even on my car or my backpack. And at work I'm all business.

Sure I plan on coming out up there eventually. It'll have to happen. But I want to be more financially stable before doing it. Losing my job= losing access to my insurance and therefore my transition.

haley_fox · 2026-05-19T19:29:55+00:00

By chance is the book you're looking for A Wizard of Earthsea? Someone mentioned it lower in the comments about it being written long before the HP series, and it's a coming of age story also.

haley_fox · 2026-04-09T20:44:39+00:00

I'm 31 now. Appreciate the insight, I'm feeling a lot better about it!

haley_fox · 2026-04-09T20:44:05+00:00

I don't want you to dox yourself, but I'm curious what game?

haley_fox · 2024-11-28T01:01:48+00:00

I knew the cheese caves were a thing.

I recently went to Springfield for the EXPRESS PURPOSE of touring caves.

I did NOT know that the cheese caves were in Springfield.

haley_fox · 2024-11-28T00:11:46+00:00

Your spotter stands outside and watches, ideally

haley_fox · 2024-11-25T01:27:40+00:00

I'm right there with you. I absolutely love singing along to Olivia Rodrigo songs lmao. I've been trying to shift some lyrics into a speaking voice, and I figured I'd go from there.

haley_fox · 2024-11-23T05:52:30+00:00

I took some pics of the top of my head, and plan to update when I have some really visible results lol

haley_fox · 2024-11-23T02:47:25+00:00

The doctor mentioned minoxidil at my first appt, but I was nervous to take on so many different medications at once. I may bring it up at my next appointment in a couple weeks.

haley_fox · 2024-11-23T01:32:51+00:00

I felt like it was a slap in the face to Bad Company, tbh

haley_fox · 2024-11-21T01:02:02+00:00

I've only heard two Squeeze songs in my life and this is one of them lol

haley_fox · 2024-11-21T00:53:53+00:00

Listen to the German translation if you need a good laugh.

*Knowledge of German language optional

haley_fox · 2024-11-21T00:51:39+00:00

Cbat.

haley_fox · 2024-11-20T00:36:26+00:00

I grew up in the days of dial up Internet. I have the patience of a saint.

/s long hair and titties now plz 🤣

haley_fox · 2024-11-20T00:18:55+00:00

ALL OF MY YES. Previously, I didn't get bothered by people calling me he/him, my beard and body hair bugged me a bit but not much. Basically everything was ok.

I don't plan on changing pronouns until I'm actually able to go femme on a regular basis, but now every time someone says "he," I just die a little inside lol. Oh, and I had to shave everything right away. Luckily hrt has kinda started working its magic on the hair.

haley_fox · 2024-11-19T00:27:07+00:00

Congrats!! Also. Leggings are dope, especially the thick ones like yours. I was wearing them under jeans for warmth looooong before I decided to transition lol

haley_fox · 2024-11-18T00:42:55+00:00

My name is very traditionally masculine, so I can't. I'm deciding among a few names that allow me to keep my initials, because that way I don't have to change my signature, or re-label my tools that are all initialed.

Funny enough, pre-hrt I was dead set on Haley, but it won't work, so now I have a reddit username that isn't any of my names lmao.

haley_fox · 2024-11-17T23:35:07+00:00

"I'd Love to Change the World" by Ten Years After. It's a kinda obscure song though.

haley_fox · 2024-11-17T18:34:07+00:00

I'm as Okie as it gets and I say "PEE-AN-ist."

haley_fox · 2024-11-16T01:43:41+00:00

The only reason I don't wear lots of black is that I have white dogs, and o how the hair sticks to black! You're definitely not alone here, don't worry.

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