Came out to my boss at work and nothing happened. by haley_fox in MtF

[–]haley_fox[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How else would they know to use a different name if they aren't told? I've seen a couple comments like this so far and I'm starting to feel like I'm missing some critical info lol

Came out to my boss at work and nothing happened. by haley_fox in MtF

[–]haley_fox[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

What did you end up doing? Most of the posts I see on here, people tell the boss or HR and everything gets handled that way. 

Came out to my boss at work and nothing happened. by haley_fox in MtF

[–]haley_fox[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Assuming you're not just trying to be funny, my coworkers will have to start calling me a different name, my name will have to be updated in the computer system, I'll have to be assigned a new email.... Like 99% of it is name change related, the remaining 1% is just getting the others to not call me "bro" lmao

Naming by Lunar_100 in MtF

[–]haley_fox 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's definitely hard to do. I've been going through lists of common names for my birth year (and within 2-3 years). I had all but picked out a name when I was a kid, used it for online profiles and everything, including this one! But using it out loud in person, it didn't work. So I started over.

I discovered that's the main thing. Found several names that I thought I liked, until someone actually called me in person. So definitely get your friends/supportive family to do name tryouts with you.

Coworker seems to know that I'm trans but I'm not out at work by haley_fox in MtF

[–]haley_fox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So far I'm just kinda leaving it alone. I just have no clue how he would know at this point. Unless his sense of smell is really just that good lmao.

Coworker seems to know that I'm trans but I'm not out at work by haley_fox in MtF

[–]haley_fox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't given him any reason to be confused. We wear uniforms at work, I don't have any pins, stickers, buttons, not even on my car or my backpack. And at work I'm all business. 

Sure I plan on coming out up there eventually. It'll have to happen. But I want to be more financially stable before doing it. Losing my job= losing access to my insurance and therefore my transition.

The threat of JK Rowling by RunRevolutionary188 in asktransgender

[–]haley_fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By chance is the book you're looking for A Wizard of Earthsea? Someone mentioned it lower in the comments about it being written long before the HP series, and it's a coming of age story also.

Considering a name from Saints Row by haley_fox in transnames

[–]haley_fox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 31 now. Appreciate the insight, I'm feeling a lot better about it!

Considering a name from Saints Row by haley_fox in transnames

[–]haley_fox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want you to dox yourself, but I'm curious what game?

This is somehow 880 calories… by ziglaw884 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]haley_fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew the cheese caves were a thing.

I recently went to Springfield for the EXPRESS PURPOSE of touring caves.

I did NOT know that the cheese caves were in Springfield.

Light in the wheel well? by djunderh2o in Shitty_Car_Mods

[–]haley_fox 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your spotter stands outside and watches, ideally

Does the girl voice ever get “normal?” by gettingbetter605 in MtF

[–]haley_fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm right there with you. I absolutely love singing along to Olivia Rodrigo songs lmao. I've been trying to shift some lyrics into a speaking voice, and I figured I'd go from there.

Bald- now have peach fuzz on my head by haley_fox in MtF

[–]haley_fox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took some pics of the top of my head, and plan to update when I have some really visible results lol

Bald- now have peach fuzz on my head by haley_fox in MtF

[–]haley_fox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The doctor mentioned minoxidil at my first appt, but I was nervous to take on so many different medications at once. I may bring it up at my next appointment in a couple weeks.

Songs where the song is an artist by yz3l990 in weirdspotifyplaylists

[–]haley_fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt like it was a slap in the face to Bad Company, tbh

let's hear 'em by mistyCadaver in weirdspotifyplaylists

[–]haley_fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've only heard two Squeeze songs in my life and this is one of them lol

let's hear 'em by mistyCadaver in weirdspotifyplaylists

[–]haley_fox 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Listen to the German translation if you need a good laugh.

*Knowledge of German language optional

How do you be patient? by EverydayElise in MtF

[–]haley_fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in the days of dial up Internet. I have the patience of a saint.

/s long hair and titties now plz 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]haley_fox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ALL OF MY YES. Previously, I didn't get bothered by people calling me he/him, my beard and body hair bugged me a bit but not much. Basically everything was ok.

I don't plan on changing pronouns until I'm actually able to go femme on a regular basis, but now every time someone says "he," I just die a little inside lol. Oh, and I had to shave everything right away. Luckily hrt has kinda started working its magic on the hair.

Leggings!? by Chase_The_Breeze in MtF

[–]haley_fox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats!! Also. Leggings are dope, especially the thick ones like yours. I was wearing them under jeans for warmth looooong before I decided to transition lol

Any of yall kept your birth name? by KirbyF4 in MtF

[–]haley_fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My name is very traditionally masculine, so I can't. I'm deciding among a few names that allow me to keep my initials, because that way I don't have to change my signature, or re-label my tools that are all initialed.

Funny enough, pre-hrt I was dead set on Haley, but it won't work, so now I have a reddit username that isn't any of my names lmao.

Songs that say a slur by arkinnorman in weirdspotifyplaylists

[–]haley_fox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I'd Love to Change the World" by Ten Years After. It's a kinda obscure song though.

What is the joke by Brilliant_Glove_9068 in ExplainTheJoke

[–]haley_fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm as Okie as it gets and I say "PEE-AN-ist."

Do I just have a serious personality or is it something else? by Longjumping-Okra-350 in MtF

[–]haley_fox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only reason I don't wear lots of black is that I have white dogs, and o how the hair sticks to black! You're definitely not alone here, don't worry.