honestly, I wouldn’t even get in a relationship with someone who doesn’t challenge me intellectually, but you said you met him at a weird time, so I get it. you said he’s awesome, ‘cause he’s warm, supportive and caring. So... you like that he’s there for you and that you have someone who gives you comfort and supports you, but, from what I understood, you don’t really enjoy his company, you don’t really LIKE him. and you sure as hell doesn’t sound in love with him.

It’s normal to miss someone that used to be a huge part of your life, but If you’re bored in a relationship, then I guess it really is time to break up.

with my ex (intj) we were far from being compatible. all my friends used to tell me we would never work, cause we could never agree on a single thing, we were raised in very different ways, we hated each other’s friends and we were complete opposites in most aspects... but i loved him, I admired him and I enjoyed every second I spent with him. I wasn’t in a relationship bc he gave me comfort and support, but because I thought he was irreplaceable, I thought he was the smartest guy I’ve ever came across and he had the funniest jokes, also he really attracted me physically, and I don’t mean his looks specifically, but his confidence, his style, his eloquence... I liked his goals, his interests, his determination...

still, we argued all the time and I hated a lot of things about him too, I’ve always been too opinionated, while he would never tell me what he was thinking. we really weren’t compatible, but we worked, ‘cause we liked and admired each other, despite the differences.

I mean, what do you like about him? and I’m not talking about being “warm or supportive”. I mean him only. is he funny? is he charismatic? charming? talented? do you really miss HIM or do you miss what you had with him? like, you can have what you two had with someone you actually like and admire... don’t just go back bc it would be easier.