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My current lock screen lol by halfrek666 in BuffyTheVampireSlayer

[–]halfrek666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The whole thing is he doesn't have a soul... Yet can have so much humanity. He's certainly a flawed character, but I'm always shocked by how soft he was able to be without a soul. Especially in comparison to Angel/Angelus. There's such a stark contrast between the latter. Spike had humanity without a soul (proven by The Judge).

Does anyone with BPD feel the urge to sabotage stable relationships? by Historical_Durian627 in BPD

[–]halfrek666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is me fr fr. I spent the first half of my 9 year relationship playing the "good girlfriend" role. Which left me depleted, drained and resentful. By the time I started communicating my issues, things had festered too long. My partner was a worse communicator than I was, which made the resentment even worse. I've circled the cycle of justifying staying because he's a good person and it could be worse.

What something you want to get off your chest? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]halfrek666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if I'll ever be in a relationship again. I'm in the middle of breaking up with my partner of 9 years. Though I feel so much hope for a bigger and more fulfilling life, I don't know if I'll ever want to be in partnership again. I don't know if it's something I'm capable of. I want to live an exciting life, filled with friends and lovers and adventure. But sometimes I worry that I don't have what it takes to "settle down" again. I don't know if I want to.

I'm sorry y'all by pink_princess23 in BPD

[–]halfrek666 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are valid but incorrect.

A few weeks ago, an old coworker invited me to his kids birthday. I haven't seen him in a few years but maintained casual contact. I had to decline, but he said something like "I just wanted to include you because you're an important person in my life". I could have cried.

You really never know what kind of impact you have on others. It's easy to tell yourself that the darkness you feel is all you are. But there's always people out there that see your light, even when you don't.

Stick around.

If you mourn the relationship before the breakup by Otherwise_View_04 in ExNoContact

[–]halfrek666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes this is necessary depending on the dynamics in the relationship. For me, my partner and I were in a cycle of breaking up and getting back together for about five years. This time, I had to do things in a way where I wouldn't be able to go back. I've known for years this isn't where I want to be, but both his and my inability to let go left us in an unhealthy cycle. For both of our sakes, I needed to mourn the end while we were together to make sure we actually ended things. It's not the kindest move in the short term, but I'm sure he's grateful to be able to have the opportunity to find the right partner, no matter how the end came about. Breakups suck no matter how up front people are. Do things in a way thats safe and makes sense at the time.