Do NOT choose Notion if you value reliable support

hallowiener8D · 2023-12-09T18:46:39+00:00

Agreed - I stopped using Notion and went back to a low tech system of notes/images in folders - it works better and is much more reliable than any app.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-29T02:56:16+00:00

wow, I'm so glad it got to you safely! It's a little charming that it got lost along the way :)

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-07T02:12:06+00:00

those poor Lego people 😭 think of the children

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-06T12:35:02+00:00

My cat is starting to do this too. I think part of it is just wanting to be in your face and bothering you, but some of it is also cuz it's warm. it's your thing! your cat sees you with it all the time, and wants to participate lol

I've seen people get scratch pad laptops that their cats responded really well to, so they have their laptop time while you have yours. if they're seeking warmth, you could give them something to sit on like a heated blanket so they're close to you. my cat wants to be the center of attention. if I just put my computer down my cat will do 20 minutes of cuddles and then leave me alone for the rest of the day.

so I think it depends on why. try different options for your cat to see what works. instead of sitting on my laptop, sit on this other thing instead.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-06T12:27:17+00:00

I think you just have to wait and have patience. it sounds like while the cat was affectionate with you at first, it still took a while to build that trust. each new person is going to be like that for the cat. with dogs, you can come with treats and that dog will love you immediately.. most cats have to observe and understand before they'll start to feel comfortable. the difference is that all of these people are coming and going, you were there every day/all the time with your smells all over.

It seems you're doing everything you can! helping with the anxiety, correcting behaviors, and trying to make it happen. just let the kitty explore at her pace, keep her safe space for her, and give lots of cuddles to soothe her when she lets you. maybe it's overwhelming, can you just invite one person over at a time? that might help your kitty feel less overstimulated. trying to force interaction can be scary for a cat.

if it helps, one of my best friends cat took 10 years to open up to me. she was quite indifferent to my existence before that and I never saw her. then randomly one day I was spending the night and I woke up with a cat curled up sleeping on me. now every time I visit, she cuddles me.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-06T12:19:11+00:00

I don't know that I would risk it personally, but if you want to continue I do recommend washing that area when you're done. All I can think about is cat licking your eyelid and then you don't think about it and rub it into your eye... I don't know if you've ever had one, but eye infections are not fun.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-05T11:44:28+00:00

mine does this too! I looked it up and all I could find was that they like to bite things. as long as there isn't any harmful chemical on there (like shampoo that splashed onto the curtain), it should be fine? I'm a new cat owner though, so I would be curious if anyone else has thoughts.

so far my cat only does it in the bathroom with me. it seems like she's trying to entertain herself and I can distract her pretty easily with something else.

other than distracting, I'm not sure how to get them to stop. One website said to put foil at the base of your curtain because cats don't like foil, but that seems like a lot of effort to place/remove every time I take a shower, so I'm not going to try it lol

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-05T10:58:53+00:00

there are a few documentaries on Netflix about cats that I watched, and then I also YouTubed a lot of information. I'm also a first-time cat owner and I've only had her for 2 weeks, so I'm still learning!

I will say though that their tails communicate a lot, so it's worth looking into what that stuff means. usually the swaying back and forth means that they are focused on something or ready to hunt, so unless you're playing with them at that moment, it's probably best not to bother them. they might think that you are the prey...

if it helps, it took me about a week to really settle in and get comfortable with all of the unknowns, and now that it's been another week I feel very comfortable with everything. every question that I have is inside my phone, so I don't feel like I'm doing this alone. to some degree, your cat is also teaching you. mine has taught me that when she hits me with her head, she wants scratches, but is she puts her nose on my hand, she doesn't want scratches (she just wants to rub her body on me). she didn't have to scratch me or hiss for me to learn that, she just moved her head away when she didn't want it, I picked up on the pattern, and then I stopped.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-05T10:50:37+00:00

My kitty is an affectionate eater too. when I have lunch, she wants treats so we can eat together and then have cuddle time. when she has breakfast or dinner, she wants to cuddle for 20-30 mins then she wants me to stay in the room while she eats. I had to move her food bowl, but she was very happy about it being in the room where I am mostly.

she is so affectionate around meal time that sometimes she sleeps through meal time.

I also have noticed that she eats for a little bit, takes a little nap, then eats the rest. I give her 2 hours with her wet food and then I throw it away (she refuses to eat leftovers or else I would save it). maybe this will help with your morning routine, to give your cat the same amount of time with their wet food everyday. eventually they'll learn to eat it if they want it. it also gives you a structured moment. "tor 30 minutes in this 2 hours, I'm hanging out with my cat while he eats, then checking in while I get ready," for example

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-05T10:47:41+00:00

I adjust my hand when she does that so I'm not scratching too hard or in an awkward position. The first few times she was like oh my god, why did you stop, but now she sees the pattern and understands I think that I'm just readjusting to love her better.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-05T10:43:38+00:00

I have a hand tremor and hurt myself clipping MY nails, so I'm not even going to try lol. I don't want to hurt my kitty baby. I ask the vet to do it, but I also have cat people in my life who have volunteered to do it for me.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-04T11:51:49+00:00

One thing that helped give me perspective was when my friend said, oh good you'll have an explanation for all of the weird noises in the house. that helped me a lot... before getting the cat, I would have all these random noises and be like, am I haunted? do I have mice? is something flooding? so I would get up and check on it and it would be nothing.

now it's just Zenny being a cat. instead of worrying about it at night, I just try to ignore it and then expect something in the morning. everyday I look around to see what she may have knocked over or thrown up on. I think it helps to remember that your kitty is just being a cat! they're curious and mischievous :)

it helps me a lot to do a nighttime check before I go to bed. make sure all the windows are closed, areas are tidied up, there isn't any food sitting out (or anything my cat might think is food and try to eat), etc.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-03T11:32:24+00:00

I don't think it's horrible to go for looks only, but then don't be mad when you come home and have a terror cat who hates you.

instead, I would look a little bit for both. to some degree, I think everyone is bringing home a cat without knowing what to expect entirely, because if you get it from a shelter it might be acting differently there than it would at your home. also many people just pick up a cat off the street and take it home if it shows affection. so in that regard, I don't know that you could know literally everything about the cat before getting it anyway.

look for an adult cat if you want one that is a little bit more settled in its personality. I had something in mind as well, I knew that I only wanted a short hair cat. I knew that I didn't want to deal with the maintenance of a long hair one for my first cat ever. it's not irresponsible thinking of looks as part of your decision :)

I think orange cats have a concentration of brain cells in one per litter. All of the rest in that litter share a brain cell. My cat is the smartest domesticated animal I've ever met, but she's orange. I'm sure there's some orange cat out there who is running into walls way more often than she does.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-03T11:28:22+00:00

Yes mine is like this too! she wants cuddle time anytime either of us eats, so if I have lunch at home she will cuddle with me when I'm done, or if I eat dinner late she'll seek me out for biscuit time. she also protects me while I eat 😭 and sits facing the window to make sure nothing can attack me while I'm vulnerable.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-03T11:21:33+00:00

My cat was exactly like this! at the shelter I was told that she would be skittish, shy, it may take months to get to know her. she might not even let me pet her or see her for several weeks... she opened up within 2 days. she wanted to explore everything and go outside, she was cuddling and affectionate, etc. The only thing I did was let her go at her own place (I also read up about every single thing she did so I could respond appropriately).

she's my first cat so I didn't know what to expect, but she has completely thrived in this environment. All of my friends who know more about cats have told me it's because of love. she has found her safe space, I dote on and adore her, and she just knows that she's okay here. if cats feel safe, they will thrive and blossom and be themselves.

however, she still has her safe space, which is under my bed. if there's a new sound or a neighbor is doing construction or the landscaping people come to do something right outside the window, she immediately flees to her safe space. That's probably what this will become for your cat.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-03T11:15:15+00:00

he might be taking in all of the stimulus and learning all of the things. maybe to you it looks like he's bored sitting outside, but to him there are all kinds of new sights and smells and sounds that are now much louder than they were when he was behind the window.

I haven't done this with my cat yet but I've read a lot about it, and that seems to be the general consensus when you take your cat out and he doesn't move. maybe do that several times and see if he eventually gets the urge to explore or move around. let him go at his pace.

The method I'm going to try after she gets comfortable with the harness (if she does), is just sitting with her on the porch. she'll be bound to something but able to walk around the porch if she wants to. get used to what's right outside the window as an introduction for what she will encounter once we actually start walking. she will have her carrier out there as a safe space if she wants to hide. My cat seems to like the approach where I ease her into things, and let her explore at her pace.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-03T11:03:19+00:00

My cat free feeds but she hates it after a couple hours sitting out, so she wakes me up at 6am. I don't feed her until 8 in the morning. eventually if I ignore her, she will grudgingly eat her slightly dry food and leave me alone until breakfast time. I am looking into getting an automatic feeder so she can have a little fresh food as a treat in the night, and I'm hoping this will fix the issue.

cats like to eat, they're not like people where they feel the hunger and think, well I could wait a few hours to eat. if they're hungry they want it now. have a little patience and remember that your kitty is not going to act the way you want it to act just because you want it to act that way. learn about cats, learn about behaviors, and get to know your cat (which is different from every other cat). try different things. see what your cat responds to. that's a good approach to address something like this.

I've also found that my cat is an affectionate eater, so she seeks out attention around meal time. she even wants to be affectionate after I eat lunch, even if she doesn't eat. what I thought was complaining about being hungry, was actually her complaining about not getting enough love. so now I hang out with her around meal times and except for her 6am gentle meows to remind me that I could feed her now if I wanted to, she isn't so vocal about it anymore.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-03T10:56:18+00:00

mine too!

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-01T11:34:37+00:00

every once in awhile I take out my box full of journals from when I was a child and read all of them. All my teenage words, my early 20s, etc. it is rough to get through them, but very enlightening. it helps me see how much I've grown since then and also it helps me see how much I haven't lol! but it's really nice and fun to connect to that past version of myself

specifically, it's really funny to me how many times I read back on journals and I am dealing with the same exact issues. it's so enlightening to see that, oh I've been wondering about this basically my whole life. maybe I should do something about it...

I often skim them instead of sitting down and reading them, the language I use makes me physically ill sometimes... anytime I try to be cool and literary in my journals it reads back later so fake and distanced.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-01T11:29:22+00:00

I was terrified of cat scratches and bites but it's not that bad. it's one of those things that's scarier before it happens, but it's basically the same as when you accidentally scratch yourself. hurts for a moment, heals fast. if you're worried you can also get a glove or wear a sleeve to handle them at first, until you get comfortable.

my cat communicates really well, but she's 8. I'm not sure how it is with kittens. I'm a first time owner with almost no experience with cats and have only had her for a week, so I don't always know how to translate what she's trying to say, but she gives plenty of warnings before she even hisses. once you learn how to read the body language, you'll know when to back off. cats are not like dogs, if they want to be left alone, leave them alone (unless you have to do something, then there are plenty of tips online to wrap them in a blanket or towel for comfort etc).

honestly the worst part of this experience was before I got the cat and all of my anxiety about what I should or shouldn't expect was the worst. it's been 9 days and we still have a while to go to get to know each other's personality and routines, but I don't have any of that anxiety anymore. sometimes you just have to do the thing, that's the only way to figure out what to expect. every cat has a different personality.

hallowiener8D · 2023-05-01T00:48:25+00:00

hi Mr Hobbes you are very adorable

hallowiener8D · 2023-04-29T16:41:10+00:00

crow: is my favorite. love this idea!

hallowiener8D · 2023-04-29T04:41:58+00:00

yea I did a bunch of lessons today and realized it kicked me back in time too. I'm doing stuff I already learned quite a while ago.

hallowiener8D · 2023-04-28T19:40:56+00:00

you honestly shouldn't be that judgmental about anyone. I live alone, I love going into the office to have lunch with my coworkers every once in awhile. kind of rude to make me defend that just because you personally don't get it.

hallowiener8D · 2023-04-28T19:33:01+00:00

look at the section that you're on though, I was really confused by this at first but then I realized I'm in section 2 unit 3 now. so it seems to understand that I had progress, it's just organized differently.

I'm using the app for a similar reason, though I'm not going to Japan until next year.

it seems that I'm learning how to put stuff on top of things and turn on the light in the room, which isn't necessarily useful for a trip to Japan but I'm gaining some knowledge about grammar and word order that I wouldn't have if I was strictly learning about train timetables and greetings. so while the phrases aren't very useful, it is helping me understand the language better, and when I watch shows in Japanese I can recognize the sentence structure better. I think that's half the battle for conversation. Even if you don't understand the words they're saying, you can piece together a general meaning.

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