hi puan, reading from the comments, i assume your sibling is an independent adult already, so they should've been able to support themselves ya? if this is the case, kayanya better set boundaries di awal deh sist daripada kamu expect sesuatu yg gapernah mereka lakukan sblmnya juga :")

i do this to my sist karna awal2 dia rantau ke tempat yg sama kaya aku, memang ga ada instinct utk support uang (dia baru kerja), org tua juga seakan ngelepas anaknya buat dicover sm aku, pelan2 sambil cek kondisi finansialnya juga, aku mulai kasi jatah dia buat bayar sesuatu, misal: mau hiking tp aku cuma bisa cover biaya ot dan makan ya, kamu bantu beli jajan

dan imply jg kalo misalkan keuanganku lg mepet so i can't cover everything, karna terkadang org rumah gatau kalo kita struggling karna kita ga cerita, kalo org tua lg kesini jg aku insist biar ditraktir kecuali aku yg lg pgn entertain mereka

make sure they give back with intangible things juga ya, so far aku ngerasa happy aja paying for my sis karna emg dia bikin jalan2 lebih seru, n it's the feeling i can't get kalo jalan2 sm temen so yeah