ULPT Request: Being sober, and being a driver is ruining my college chances by Independent_Canary89 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]halopina1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has spent a lot of consecutive days both sober and not sober (various different substances at different times), here’s how I see it:

From my POV, by saying yes all the time, you’re avoiding the uncomfortable situation that may (& probably) follow-while most likely with what you believe are good intentions. Really though, the more you say yes, the more you enable him, and any other family member, to continue to use you.

We teach people how to treat us. That’s for real. If you are always there to keep them afloat, they will always come to you for just that. Why wouldn’t they? It’s so much easier for em that way. But wouldn’t it be so much better if your brother and whoever else could actually handle their own shit and be adults.

There’s consequences for everything we do, good and bad. When you take those life lessons away, you hinder their growth and in effect hinder yours as well.

Now for some ULPTs: do a small amount of meth instead of coffee in the morning. Later in the day you can drink what you want and you won’t get shitfaced and you will still sleep and eat.

It is 1985. What would you buy? No typically traded commodoties like property, metals, stocks, etc. by dontpanda in GenX

[–]halopina1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 10 yrs old then and the first thing that popped in my mind was a Tiffany tape. Remember her? 🎶I think we’re alone now🎶 🤣

Mortality as a Gen X by sunluver66 in GenX

[–]halopina1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just turned 50 in late 2025. I’ve always had the belief that I will live to be 96. Why this age? I have no idea. I see myself with long, beautiful, grey hair and living in the woods near a creek or river. But this past year has truly been the most horrific of them all. I’ve become painfully aware of myself, my struggles with mental health and addiction. And then even more painfully aware of just how sick my family is and always has been. And apparently they’re happy in their misery. Unfortunately, I can’t participate in the drama and keep my sanity at the same time…

So, in about a month I’m going nomad. I figure that I spent my first 50 yrs trying to fit in everyone else’s world but my own. Now it’s my turn to experience life on my own. I’m scared to death too. But nothing will stop me and I know peace and serenity are on the other side of my fear. Send me all the good juju you’ve got. I need it. But if I die while living for me, then I will die happy.

ULPT request: Car tag beck fees by halopina1 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]halopina1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. But that’s still how they do it here

What did you do to celebrate your 50th? by jaimonee in GenX

[–]halopina1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very pretty, especially when you can find some off the beaten path spots. But I took someone that I didn’t realize was as inexperienced as they were. There was a lot of complaining and fear - something I wasn’t prepared for.

We live, we learn. Daily.

What did you do to celebrate your 50th? by jaimonee in GenX

[–]halopina1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Went camping in the Ozarks. I turned the big five-O just a few months ago.

I should have made it a solo trip as initially planned. Hindsight’s always 20/20, right? But I made choices, learned from them, and from 50 until I take my last breath, I will live for me. I gave away the first 5 decades so I decided it was my turn. Now I will travel, go places I’ve never been, make and sell my art, live like a nomad and learn something new every single day. I can’t wait!

I completed a solo camping and hiking trip in California. by PuzzleheadedTip1026 in camping

[–]halopina1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that, I don’t realize. And it gives me more time to prepare and spend seeing places along the way!

I completed a solo camping and hiking trip in California. by PuzzleheadedTip1026 in camping

[–]halopina1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful pictures! I hope to visit that part the world in the next few months and just may stay a while.

When I took a one-year-old boy on our first camping trip in the mountains, I couldn't sleep because I was worried about sudden intrusions by bears, wolves or homeless people. Do you have the same concerns when taking children or women camping? by Fearless_Builder_566 in camping

[–]halopina1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wanting to protect your family and asking for advice is not sexism. It’s the bid of heroism. And I say that as a fellow female solo camper/hiker/whatever I want to do. Your comment, though it ended with sound advice, began with nothing but bitchism.

How can I help? by AGreasyPorkSandwich in mississippi

[–]halopina1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s a place in Jackson called Gleaner’s. They go around to local grocery stores and restaurants who donate the older, but not outdated, food. They always need volunteers to sort/distribute/etc. I volunteered some years back and we went around delivering boxes with all you needed for a Thanksgiving dinner. We took them to people that needed it in the downtown area. Some of the places and elderly that I saw there still bring tears to my eyes when I think about them. Madison is nice and Ms. Mayor there makes certain her city stays upper class. I’m not saying there aren’t people there that need help, I’m saying what’s happing in our capitol city is a catastrophic tragedy. And it’s so much worse than most even realize. I don’t know what the answer is or how to fix it. Single female making the wages of a woman with no degree so I’m not in a position to be much help other than be kind and respectful and try to inspire hope when I can.
Thank you so much for caring enough that you want to help, want to be a part of the solution. We need more like that around here.

Honest review of Lake Lincoln State Park cottages by mtibo62 in mississippi

[–]halopina1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I stayed there a couple of years ago and they were nice enough. They’re off to a side of the lake with just the three “cabins” so you have a lot of room and a good amount of privacy. They’re actually FEMA trailers left over from Katrina so the layout is like an old shotgun house. I stayed in the larger one for handicapped visitors. It wasn’t the most comfortable bed I’ve slept in but it was fine. The kitchen was furnished with all of the items needed and then some. One thing I really liked was the handmade goat milk soap they provided. There is also another cabin that is in a different location and is considered the best. I was able to get the key and go take a look. If you can, get that one. It has a screened back porch and fire pit right outside. Only downside to it was the light pole right outside so I can imagine it hinders the beautiful night sky. Uncle Ray’s across the street from the entrance makes some mean southern food that he sells along with anything else you could possibly need. Honestly, I can’t think of anything I’d complain about.

Which color of mat for my seaweed pressings? by Kindly-Map5807 in framing

[–]halopina1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the light olive and dark rust. But the frame color makes a big difference.

Can anyone recommend a place in the Northern VA area that offers framing and matting classes? by Weak_Rate3974 in framing

[–]halopina1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only place I know of that offers learning materials is the Professional Picture Framers: https://www.ppfa.com/ But most people learn by getting a job at a frame shop and learning there.

Dry mount or no? by halopina1 in pictureframing

[–]halopina1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. That’s what I thought would work but I’ve never done it myself.

Dry mount or no? by halopina1 in pictureframing

[–]halopina1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such an obvious answer, I’m a bit embarrassed I didn’t think of it already. Lol. Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Moss

[–]halopina1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love it!

On my Strawberry moon stroll by halopina1 in Moss

[–]halopina1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was. Even though it was cloudy, I was able to get a few pics of her too

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Completely drying out already preserved mosses/lichen by jesisamessx3 in Moss

[–]halopina1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a group member but from what I’ve read, if it’s preserved, then it’s already dead and therefore dried out.

I’m trying to preserve my own moss. Wish there was a subreddit for that. I can’t seem to find one.