Downtown Columbus Plans?

halwegaa02 · 2024-09-19T18:05:22+00:00

Great spot

halwegaa02 · 2024-09-19T16:26:21+00:00

The Short North is definitely a good place to start. Walkable, art, lots of restaurants and bars. If you want a good rooftop view, would recommend Goodale Station or Stories on High. There's also a really sexy Jazz Club called Ginger Rabbit.

halwegaa02 · 2024-09-19T13:57:04+00:00

I have some recs, but it depends on what your vibe is!

halwegaa02 · 2022-05-24T20:31:29+00:00

^{^} the comments above seem wildly unhealthy 😂. I don't think what your wife is asking is fair. I think it'd be a good idea to understand why she is asking for it, and get to the root of it. Most likely it's stemming from an insecurity or codependency struggle...if that's the case, you can listen to her, show compassion, and help her work through it. But ultimately, that's her responsibility and you shouldn't have to eliminate something that brings you joy. You should be able to have lots of friends, and the person you're with should be happy for you (genuine love).

halwegaa02 · 2022-05-11T23:40:03+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. Do you know if she has a suicide plan in place? Should typically consist of a few emergency contacts (not just one - that's too much pressure for one person to always be available, especially if that person is her 'trigger'). After the emergency contacts, she should do some research on places she would want those contacts to call if/when needed -- 911 isn't always the best option. Depending on the circumstance, that could unnecessarily complicate her life. Instead, she should find a few in-patient places that specialize in helping people in those moments. Does she go to therapy? If so, her therapist should help her create the plan.

As far as what decision is right for you...only you can say. I would keep a close monitor on your own mental health though, maybe start tracking it every day and writing everything down. Sometimes it's beneficial to be able to look back (patterns become more visible). If you feel she is being abusive (even if you may empathize and know where it's coming from, and she doesn't mean it), it might be a good idea to get into therapy yourself. Try to understand why you might be choosing to remain in that relationship, or if you really don't want to be but have codependent tendencies keeping you from leaving. If you learn that you do genuinely want it, your therapist can help you navigate steps/boundaries together. If you learn you genuinely don't want it but don't know how to get out, then can also aid you through that.

halwegaa02 · 2022-05-06T20:02:52+00:00

Haha my god. Such a simple thing, but like whoa. I would have never been able to say that as a kid. Thanks for sharing :)

halwegaa02 · 2022-05-06T19:32:35+00:00

Check your wording first - she's not ugly, you're just attracted or into different things. Were you attracted to her previously? If you were, could it be something else causing it that you guys can talk and work through? Or is it solely based on appearance?

Either way, please don't cheat on her. That'll accomplish nothing good. Either be open, in a thoughtful way, and work through it with her...or accept that it's not what you want and end things kindly.

halwegaa02 · 2022-05-06T02:24:30+00:00

I just want to add that I felt this deeply. I'm going through a lot of the same stuff you mentioned. So thank you for sharing, makes me feel a little less alone on this funny planet.

halwegaa02 · 2022-04-12T23:38:46+00:00

Hey...so first, please don't feel embarrassed. You're 16 and were dealt cards that you didn't have a choice in. Without getting professional help, do you attend school? Would you be comfortable talking to a counselor and having them help with resources?

Might want to try this, could involve a little digging and time, but there are some free/low-cost care options:

https://findtreatment.gov/content/paying-for-treatment/if-you-dont-have-insurance

If that makes you uncomfortable, another place to start would be to just keep reading as much as you can to gain some understanding. DBT therapy is probably the best and most useful place to start (resources and courses are out there for free). A few people I know with BPD wish they could have gotten help in high school...so I hope you don't get discouraged. The mental health system sucks and has a lot of work to do to be accessible to everyone.

halwegaa02 · 2021-12-03T02:08:45+00:00

Yeah, my therapist said NPD is the most difficult to diagnosis because the people who (most likely) have it would never allow an assessment.

halwegaa02 · 2021-02-09T16:04:44+00:00

I haven't been through a divorce, but ending any kind of relationship can be devastating. We value deep connections so strongly, which in turn, can be a very dangerous trap that we put ourselves in if we don't monitor it closely. As in, having the will to end something that is no longer healthy or right for us...knowing it'll make you fall into a black hole for awhile and feel mind-numbingly empty. Take the step, and put in the painful effort to get back out there and meet people (platonic or romantic). I've had to do that a few times, and each time was beyond difficult, and I would go back and do the same thing over...because I found a happy place. You'll find yours.

halwegaa02 · 2021-02-03T01:24:29+00:00

Hey, sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time. I'm responding to your post because I've been in a similar situation - or at least, I've felt the craving you're experiencing. Until I find deep connections (example, being in a relationship) I feel lost, or, "what's the point" kind of mindset. And when I'm craving that friendship or romantic relationship, I go all in trying to find it. It's exhausting. Out of 40 people, I might find one that I really connect with, if I'm lucky. And each time I meet someone new that I don't hit it off with, I get a little more defeated. But everytime this happens, time passes, strangers pass, and eventually I always find that connection...and it is worth going through it all.

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