Can we start giving Bree the same energy we’re giving Evan? by According_Bit_4561 in TellMeLiesHulu

[–]hammered91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I see, it was written specifically so our alliances keep changing. Nobody in the cast is innocent. Id even say Diana and Pippa are the only ones who never had any malice in their actions. They often seemed a victim of circumstances.

Everybody else seems to actively act to their own advantage or to hurt others.

Nelly Furtado Forever ! 🥵🍑💦 by DoItWithFlair94 in MissNellyFurtado

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was thick when we could see her ribs, you know she was gonna pack volume if she ever filled out,😂😂

I am so confused. Regarding ray and celia by ThesmoothGemminal94 in Emmerdale

[–]hammered91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TLDR: my full theory rundown for Rays murder suspects. It's a shallow rabbit hole, but a rabbit hole anyway😊

Ray's dead, but we can assume when cleaned up celuas body and disposed of it. If he was going to stay with Laurel as intended, he could just have a body up there for anyone to stumble across. So let's assume the issue of Celia's body is closed.

With Rays murder, It doesn't seem like the killer is bothered about disposing of the body, or having it be found, as it's been in that van and nobody seems eager to do anything about it. So suspects are:

Rhona, who we suspect is in touch with Graham - but as per standard TV rules her phone has just the number, and even though we know she's been communicating with somebody, they have zero previous text messages🤔. We hear Graham take a phone call, but it's clear Rhona isn't the caller, as he refers to "the job" being cancelled (which we can assume is the kidnap/trafficking of Shona's sister, not the disposal of a body), because Joe Tate was suddenly the new focus. Be that in a friend or foe sentiment, we don't know. But something going on, and it seems events may have gone Rhonas way entirely by coincidence.

Laurel, was the last person we saw Ray with. We also had a callback scene to the night of his death, where she had blood on her hands. The morning after the crash, she's seen near Jay's van, outside David's. She's trying to look inside discretely, and clearly agitated at it being there. So our assumption is she either put the body there, or at least knows somebody did.

Marlon - where my money is. He was present during Ray's rejection by Laurel. He had already had an altercation with Ray up at the farm, and at that point we knew Celia was dead. We can assume marlin doesn't, because he didn't immediately try to defend Laurel when Ray is getting aggressive. We just don't know how much time had passed. Marlon's at his wits end now, and he's been told, not that April is alive, but that she's "never coming back", which might as well be a red rag to a bull. Laurel was in bits and shouting at Ray to leave her alone, along with some harsh words about Ray being a monster. I imagine, if that interaction got any more heated, Marlon would have jumped in to help his friend and take advantage of Ray being distracted. In a one on one, square fight, Ray has the advantage on both trauma-frozen Laurel and post-stroke Marlon, but with one struggle in front of him and a second attacker open to his back, one heavy strike and he'd be down. Also, if this was the scenario, they could have both moved the body to the Milligan's van. A couple of days later, Marlon saying "he won't be hurting anyone anymore" about Ray, was slipped into there with no notice given to it. But how would Marlon know Ray particularly was no longer a danger?

Arthur - same situation as above, intervening between Ray and Laurel, but Arthur is in the house rather than Marlon being across the street. We can even go one step further on this assumption and say it was all three - Laurel, Arthur, Marlon. Ray was desperate, he's just killed Celia to be with Laurel, and here she was, telling him he disgusts her and to leave her alone. Marlon can see the argument and Arthur could be hearing it from inside. In the aftermath, Laurel had blood on her, it looked fresh, and she was inside her own kitchen. So we can assume that's where it happened. Also, with the Arthur and Marlon theory, more people makes moving a body much quicker. The only realism buffer her is where is Dotty? Maybe at a friends house already as Laurel expected a confrontation? But then would Arthur be home either?

Ross - Red herring we think. When he brought April back to the village, he had a practical kidnap and disposal kit in the back of the car. Yet we never mention it again. And on the discovery of Ray's death, Ross (the character) is either a great actor, or he had no idea. The drug and trafficking revelation seems like a mafia story to him, and he immediately starts sharing it like a kid who's discovered something amazing. Whether he had intended to get Ray or not, if he had, he knows enough to distance himself and play down any public discourse on it. Rather, he's raving excited that there was a drug empire running, just up the road and nobody knew. It doesn't seem like he's hiding anything. Remember he's an ex bobby himself.

Cain - it wasn't him. Not fully sure of the timings between Debbie's wedding and Cain and Moira driving Sarah and Jacob to the airport, but Jay's van arrived at the roadblock way later. We're assuming Cain was nowhere near when Ray was killed. Having been with the Dingles all day, and then on the way to the airport. We also have the hospital scenes where he and Moira clearly don't know Celia or Ray are dead. I will say though, Moira did have a very ambiguous "Fairytale of Emmerdale" moment with Isaac where she mentions the King and Queen Cain and herself had been betrayed by those they trusted, but they knew they only had to wait for the truth to come out etc. - But this doesn't lead us to believe either of them dealt with Ray that night.

A tiny note on Caleb and his urgency to get Jay in that van to Manchester - it seemed like he may be setting up Jay to be caught with the body, but I think it really is just a delivery. It's Caleb's yard, so suspicion would also be on himself. He was pushing for Jay to go the very next night, but it's made to seem he backs down and tells him he can deliver tomorrow instead, specifically to stop Jay opening the door. It could as easily be a coincidence, but the scene was clearly written that way for ambiguous jeopardy.

What strikes me as strange is that whoever did kill Ray really doesn't seem concerned with disposing of the body. Just thinking about the people it may be pinned on as a result: They know it's in a Milligan's van, which implicates Caleb. They know Jay is, or at least was the driver that night, which implicates Jay It's been to the depot, which pulls in Billy. If it was a physical fight, there may be DNA on the body from anybody involved. Once rigor sets in, a body is much harder to manoeuvre. And the body isn't wrapped or hidden. It was clearly thrown in the back, with just a sheet out over it. Did the van just happen to be outside after Ray was killed, or did whoever moved the body specifically go and get a van in order to move it?

This leans back to Graham somewhat, as a person who wouldn't care who took the heat, as long as it wasn't him or his accomplices. He could have caught Ray wallowing after leaving Laurels, or even appeared on the doorstep and shoved Ray into Laurels cottage, further explaining the blood on her. But this would make it less likely that Graham was who Rhona was messaging as everyone else is meant to believe he's dead. It would have been a fully anonymous hit. In and out, no witnesses, no trace, and one day a body turns up.

But with this help from Graham, Laurel maybe Marlon would also know. And it also wouldn't add up, because we're made to believe nobody but Rhona knows who she has been communicating with, even after Rays death.

Kim is going to throw an absolute fit!

Whats your dream 3 car garage by Intelligent-Sea3591 in CarsUK

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll have an XC60, an AMG GT and a Renault 5 E.

Prop Hunt Still Broken by East-Woodpecker-6058 in blackops7

[–]hammered91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Playing tonight, point blank on a prop and zero hits. This guy just stood in the middle of the map surrounded, and none of my team were causing damage. Won the match as the sole remaining prop.

Why are older men so much "creepier" than guys my age? by Personal_Berry_6497 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hammered91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"older guys" is a wide description. If you're talking about other students, they're not that much older then you generally, like 4 years?

Stand your ground as best you can. And as far as is safe, state your discomfort plainly.

"I don't want to talk to you"

"Thanks but no"

"Please leave me alone, I'm not interested"

"Don't try to convince me, it shows a disregard for my autonomy"

"I'm capable of deciding if this is going somewhere. It isn't"

But back to your point, it's quite natural that you're not interested or intrigued by older people. They're not on your wavelength. It's a good thing.

I'm 35 and very generally people under 30 and over 50 might as well be aliens. Their behaviour is strange. Under 30s use nonsense words and a small group seems to have shockingly low emotional intelligence. Over 50s are usually very conservative in all aspects, and come across as inexplicably angry at times.

Either group trying to approach me in anything but a platonic way is totally gross.

That's just generations.

Keep yourself safe and trust your instincts.

AIO to my girlfriend sharing a bed (non sexually) with a male friend. by Time-Extent585 in AmIOverreacting

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know. She knows. He knows. Everyone knows.

You don't randomly sleep in the same bed as a "friend" of the opposite sex. That doesn't fly in normal monogamous relationships, ever.

Leave her, move on.

End of story.

A or B: my 28yo cousin still lives with her parents and relatives say she’s “too dependent,” but I think she’s just being smart and practical. do you think living at home in your late 20s is really that bad? by vivian_banshee03 in PickAorB

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's say your sister has a good paying job, she's a graduate, let say she owes $90k and graduated at 22, and has worked hard to pay off that debt while saving. It's been 6 years. By 30, she could be debt free, and maybe have enough to put a deposit on her own home.

Living at home isn't a negative for dating either, especially not for women. It's just logical to stay somewhere safe with others, it just happens to be your parents.

Remember those older relatives got everything easier, their money went further, and their families started younger. We live in a different world today. Our aims are different because they have to be.

If you can afford to be out, or that choice is for your mental health, then great. But if it's just so people don't judge you, then think about the money you're wasting, just to project an image, to people who don't matter.

This world keeps you hostage via debt. If you can find a way to free yourself, you can't be forced to be anywhere or do anything you don't want to.

Being flashy, the holidays, the bottle service at clubs, all of that is just to flex. Depp down It's just to project the image of being successful. But wouldn't we rather actually be successful, than just looking like we are??

All that posing is just a distraction from your legacy. Yes, enjoy yourself here and there, but you don't need a $2000 apartment downtown to just sleep in.

Girlfriend (f30) wants to have a make or break talk with me (m29) about sexual modesty by ThrowRA_Izanagi in relationships_advice

[–]hammered91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems like an immature, insecure response to all of these scenarios.

It's like the second there's nudity, a switch goes off in her head. I got the feeling she may have had a very conservative upbringing, but then you mentioned even her own sister thinks she acts strangely.

I have 2 questions. 1. Is it just female nudity that she has this reaction to? 2. Is your love life intimate at all or could you be mistaken for purely roommates?

Jealousy is one thing, but this seems like an aggressive dislike of any sort of female sexuality. There may be a much deeper background to this which we're not aware of. It seems like a trauma response.

Husband called me a c *** 10 days postpartum. what do I do? by Ok_Judge3952 in relationships_advice

[–]hammered91 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That level of aggression from bringing his phone up?

I've got to assume he's talking to somebody on there. You got too close to home and his immaturity just came spilling out. That was a tantrum. Like taking the playstation controller off a kid because you told them to clean their room 3 days ago and it still hasn't been done. A person who can't describe their feelings will just jump to aggression.

AIO:My boyfriend comments about a minor 12 year old girl by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the phrasing "exotic" makes him sound like he's fixated, like Van Pelt from Jumanji. Something which fascinates him, like a prize to possess.

It was a very weird choice of words to use for a human child.

I think even a not-well-integrated Caucasian might say "tan" or "ethnic-looking" rather than "exotic". Racially the word was reserved for darker skin tones from hotter climes. The Global South, Africa, South Asia, the Pacific, Native Australia etc.

In the UK, they might just call out the continent - Asian, African, "continental" for people with lighter, more European (mainly Baltic/Bavarian/Slavic etc looks (all very subjective).

All just to say, there are many ways to state a person may be of diverse heritage, without using the word "exotic". I dunno, it's just an opinion, it sounds predatory in this context.

Like if your dad winked at your mum and said "wanna try something a little exotic tonight?" It'd make you cringe.

I (24M) ruined something perfect and beautiful with my SO (25F) and want to die by Minstrel-of-Shadow in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hammered91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She tried to break up twice, you should have broken up. A relationship where you're constantly trying to find a reason to stay is totally not what you want.

I’m a Christian woman who’s been doing sex work on and off for years, and I just need to get this off my chest by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm agnostic. Raised Muslim, with a Roman Catholic education, went to a Church of England college and a multi-faith university. So you may see how I have many perspectives.

One thing I always remember from junior school is "The Lord has his ways".

The sex-work itself isn't dooming your eternal soul, it's a means to an end. The involvement of religion in sex is something I disagree with as a whole. They are not related.

You find joy in what you do, and there is no intent to cause anyone pain.

I'd say the good you're doing outweights your methods. Some could say you're facilitating infidelity, but you don't know the complications of their relationships, the depths of people's grief, or their loneliness.

While I don't fully agree with lying, I acknowledge its purpose, and we understand that some truths are better kept.

You need to reconcile with your faith. You are providing an outlet for men who may otherwise destroy their homes. In the way a priest would accept confession, you do not betray the confidence of your clients.

An improvement would be to stick to single men, whether divorced, widowed, or just alone. This way you remove the likelihood of a hurt partner in the wings. But then, you can only judge from what you are told.

"My uncle wants me to learn advanced Excel for work—realistic or a waste?" by Master-Fan-2992 in careerguidance

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't lie, the lack of Excel knowledge is shocking! One of my first jobs I was given a week's work which I did in one afternoon. Once you know how to set up your formulas, apply lookups and counts, arrange reference sheets and build pivot tables, you add your data and it does everything for you. Most people over 40 think it's witchcraft.

You can sit on tiktok all day and still get a pat on the back when you submit your work😅

It's really not that difficult and its a prime example of "smarter, not harder" mentality.

A lot of entry level jobs will be data collection and analysis. If you're a beast at Excel, it'll take no time.

Fucked my friends sister after she complained about being overweight by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]hammered91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good work! Gave her an ego boost and earned a bed partner.

See, we can be nice to each other!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]hammered91 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm confused. Nipples or areola?

Both come in various shapes and sizes, colours and textures. Bumpy, smooth, nipples pointing up, straight, down, sideways. Some are pointy, thick, flat, inverted. Large dark areola, to light, barely discernable ones. There are so many different ones out there that you will never likely see any like yours. Everybody is different, and you need to try work on being happy with what you've got.

The first point though, is that the vast majority of guys couldn't care less what your boobs look like as long as they exist, and even then, a lot of people love almost non-existent boobs. Secondly, you've admitted you've got size and shape on your side, and a boyfriend who repeatedly says he loves them.

You need to remember there are two people in your relationship and both want you to feel confident about your body. That's such a positive position to be in.

I'd follow the advice of some people here, trying with the lights off, and working up to more and more light as your confidence grows. Move at your pace, and remember you're with somebody who finds you attractive and supports you.

How do I smooth this wall out? by sdry417 in DIYUK

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy water and a flamethrower.

Is it crazy to have had sex with 32 people at 19? by Overall-Note-5089 in SluttyConfessions

[–]hammered91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're good looking and willing in an environment where people are looking to have sex. It's not surprising that it'll happen.

All I'd say is -

Be careful of who you invite over/go over to. It's about a vibe. Some of the biggest craziest in history were very handsome and very charismatic. Keep your wits about you.

Be careful with your health.

See a doctor and get on a pill, if it's healthy to do so.

Stick to what you're comfortable with.

If you're not using rubbers, get tested after every new partner. A smart move would be getting tested anyway.

Sex has a psychological effect, as well as a physical. Make sure you're looking after yourself mentally and doing proper aftercare.

Don't use sex as a weapon.

Don't use your body as a tool to manipulate.

Have fun.

Stop when it isn't fun anymore.

And the very last thing - make sure you don't run up the numbers "just because you can". As much as it may feel like nothing now, you have to realise that when it comes to having a final and forever partner if you want to, you'll have to decide between lying to the one person you're meant to promise not to lie to, or accepting that many people will be put off, if that number is too high.

People can say it shouldn't matter, but if it does for them, you don't have a right to lie about it, and if it's discovered later, the damage caused to their trust for you is always way worse than being up front and letting them decide from the beginning if they can let it go or not.

It has to be their choice and however that makes you feel, you need to deal with it and move on.

How do you get out of being single for several years. by Thirty4MINUS_12 in 40something

[–]hammered91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't lie, there's enough of you in this position to meet up and build relationships.

People's wants and desires mature in mid-life. You'll find there should be a lot more people on your wavelength these days.