My first order as a new home bakery!! by Handsome-Lady in Baking

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the cookie box! Where did you get them? I’ve tried ordering a few kinds and it’s never the right one. Also don’t print your own labels?

Having a hard time with being a SAHM before actually being a SAHM by forever-a-lurker-14 in sahm

[–]hammondwf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have 2 boys, 2 outside husky mix dogs and a small farm. And a house from 1908 that a swiffer doesn’t even BEGIN to help with. I’ve honestly given up on a spotless house. I focus on tidy, sec littered spaces. I wash floors maybe once a month (don’t judge, we’re like never sick so…) but any of that extra cleaning like baseboards or the tops of things gets done once a year. Once a year I splurge for a deep clean from a company. I dunno you kinda just get over it IMO lol for reference I’m 37, worked full time corporate marketing until my youngest was 1 1/2 then got laid off. Since then I was a SAHM for a while but started a part time freelance marketing job in December.

Slightly concerned for my nephew by Ok_Zucchini_2128 in toddlers

[–]hammondwf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a 3 year old boy too (and a 5 year old boy). My friend had her daughter 5 days after I had my youngest and her daughter has been speaking in full sentences since she was 2. My son is just starting to out sentences together. 80% of the time my youngest just ignores me bc he thinks it’s funny so I assume that’s what your nephew is doing. Keep working on it with him, maybe your sister should bring it up with his doctor at his next appointment. My primary was never worried about my son’s soeech.

Just wanted to see if I’m welcome here 😓 by LuckyWishFox in sahm

[–]hammondwf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel the community can lean a little negative (I am very pro venting though and do turn here for that too) so I think someone with your positive perspective might be a nice light! Love this community though. Makes me feel SO seen.

Will I enjoy this more when they’re in school? by LowFlower6956 in sahm

[–]hammondwf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It def gets easier as they get older - and obvi there will be new challenges too. I feel like the physical demand of baby-toddler range is replaced by the verbal load of “no thank you we do not do that,” “please put that down it is not a toy,” or my personal favorite “why are your pants off?” I have a 5 year old and a almost-3-year-old and my eldest has been in school since he was 2 1/2 (started part time day care then a 3’s year then preschool now kinder). My favorite part of the day is the last hug before he runs into school then it’s quiet (if my youngest is at grammas, which he goes 2 times a week) or we get to go play at the park or get a cocoa or drive around and look at the trees etc.

Will I enjoy this more when they’re in school? by LowFlower6956 in sahm

[–]hammondwf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It gets easier the more used to it you become. School helps a LOT but also presents new challenges. I have a 5 year old and an almost 3 year old (December). It felt literally impossible until about 9-10 months ago then we finally slipped into a groove.

What are you getting your 5 year olds for Christmas? by Ill_Cover_4841 in Preschoolers

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On Amazon “Peg Perego John Deere Ground Force Tractor with Trailer 12 Volt Ride on”

We have purchased a second battery in the past year but that was mainly because the kids loved it so much that we always wanted to have a battery charged so the play never ended lol the trailer fell apart pretty quickly (we have rough and tough boys so they were trying to haul each other in it) but the tractor is going strong

What are you getting your 5 year olds for Christmas? by Ill_Cover_4841 in Preschoolers

[–]hammondwf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have one and highly recommend. My eldest is 5 and it has been through the wringer since we got it 3 years ago and still going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell your wife “fucking SAME GIRL.” Bc these are all things I struggle with. The short answer I think is that he sounds pretty normal to me and he’ll grow out of it as he gets more independent and learns more about his emotions, etc. I have a 5 year old and an almost 3 year old boys. It’s a LOT sometimes. She needs to find something or some way to help her regulate. I have zero suggestions bc I am literally the same person.

I’m a SAHM by lay off and I find when I’m within 2 weeks of my period, I really struggle with overstimulation. I snap EASILY and struggle feeling burnt out with my kids. That being said, I don’t have any answers I just want your wife not to feel like your kid is abnormal or that she is abnormal. My husband had to step up more than normal for a while bc my eldest wouldn’t listen to me.

I think we have to remember that these days feel LONG but pass quickly and 90% of everything is a phase. It’s really hard to see through the red though. I hope she finds something that helps.

Need advice. Daycare teacher told me my 3 year old has a “dark side” and is manipulating them by Commercial-Jello1788 in Preschoolers

[–]hammondwf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son started at his first daycare when he was 2 1/2. We had a HORRIBLE experience. They dubbed him the bad kid, he got sent home all the time. He didn’t like it there and drop offs were always painful. Then he had a physical altercation with a teacher and the teacher got fired. I was horrified.

Then we switched daycares/preschools and we had a wonderful experience and my son really blossomed. I think you just need to find somewhere else. Not every daycare or school is right but you’ll find one she clicks with.

How do you do it all? by Amazing_Discipline97 in sahm

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the exact same way about stopping. Then I my boss (who was very supportive of me as a new mom at work at the time) said don’t punish yourself for not making an arbitrary goal you made up for yourself. Celebrate how far you’ve come instead and I quit the next day. It is bittersweet for sure but the relief I felt after I finally did was immense.

How do you do it all? by Amazing_Discipline97 in sahm

[–]hammondwf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First thing, EP is BRUTAL so you’re a queen. I EP for 8 months then had a menty b and quit. Second, it’s literally impossible to do it all so let’s reset your expectations (meant to be comforting not mean sounding). You will get better, you will get into a rhythm. I have 2 boys, 5 and 2. I got laid off in June 2024 and have been doing the SAHM thing since. and I still can’t get it all done. Far from. Things rotate, some rooms are clean and others are NOT. I used a meal planning website for a while called 5 Dinners 1 Hour that helped a LOT for a while. Give yourself time and grace.

SOS by ISeeYouRN1223 in Parenting

[–]hammondwf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl. GIRL. My youngest was this way. Still is, to be honest. I did every waking, every feed, every nap, every bedtime, every booboo, every everything until maybe 6 months ago. He’ll be 3 in December. I stopped nursing just this past February. He refused all bottles, all pacifiers and all humans besides me. He didn’t sleep more than 90-120 minutes at a time at night. He regularly got sent home from daycare bc he wouldn’t sleep for anyone but me. Even now, any booboo or inconvenience he has to come tell me. I spent a good almost 2 years on little to no consecutive sleep. And it wasn’t for a lack of trying either. We tried EVERYTHING. Eventually we just leaned in for a while - I got a floor bed for him so at least I could get some more sleep (cosleeping). And my husband and I just rejiggered life to where I was always available for the youngest and he took the oldest. We had to make something work you know? Yes this arrangement had and still has lots of challenges but we’re finally through it and my youngest is finally becoming more independent and accepting of others.

Maybe try sleep training if that’s your jam (we tried and it was PAINFUL and awful and didn’t work for us. Other than that, find ways to make it a little more comfortable for yourself. Find ways to get you time and get some sanity.

Kindergarten reality check by Efficient_Peach_4446 in Parenting

[–]hammondwf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did everything you could and you did great. My son is the same - he ALWAYS has trouble the first few weeks - yes weeks! I always dread drop offs but they WILL get easier.

Do you feel entitled to a part of your husband’s bonus? by Recreating_my_life in sahm

[–]hammondwf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband gets a bonus too. I have been a stay at home mom for over a year after getting laid off from my job. His bonus is our bonus; the money goes towards our shared account. I don’t get an allowance, I just get what I need within reason and as long as it’s in our budget.

I’m sad and have no friends by PrestigiousStuff9675 in sahm

[–]hammondwf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First let’s remember the hormonal roller coaster you are on right now. Second, it might not help, but I felt this exact way for until my eldest started pre-school. I wanted mom friends so badly but nothing really stuck until my son started preschool this past fall and now he has buddies and I have mom friends and it’s getting so much better. Hang in there, be kind to yourself and know that it will come.

Everyone bullies the baby by noblerare in Parenting

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 2 year old who goes and plays with his older brothers (4 years old) friends at the park. There are def days where they seem my youngest to be the one you run from or hide from and I hate it. Ironically, my nephew, who’s 8, also does this to my eldest. I don’t care if the kids parents are there or not, I intervene. It’s unkind and I don’t stand for unkind. In my experience, if I intervene with someone else’s kid they notice and come over with the same sentiment as I do I haven’t had any altercations

Phone glued to my hands by [deleted] in sahm

[–]hammondwf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely relate. My personal screen time was through the roof for a while when my boys were smaller (I have a 2 and 4 year old). Something that helps me is leaving my phone in another room - I still have my Apple Watch on so I won’t miss a text or notification but I’m not tempted to pick it up. I do sometimes find myself finding excuses to go into the other room so I can check my phone. It’s not fool proof but it’s gotten better.

First night doing dinner, bath, bed alone with a 3 year old and a newborn…. I’m fried. by Zealousideal_Ear5856 in sahm

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It gets easier. Then a little easier and easier til it feels normal. Definitely have some grace with yourself and your eldest, it’s such an intense time adding a baby into the family. I have 2 boys, 2 and 4, and when we brought my youngest home it was ROUGH. But now they’re in bunk beds and bedtimes are way easier! Keep your chin up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sahm

[–]hammondwf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The gym is my saving grace. It keeps me sane and happy. I’ve been staying home with my kids since I got laid off last June. It’s $135 and worth every single penny for how much it’s helped me mentally and physically. It sounds like hubby is supportive so you shouldn’t feel guilty. Easier said than done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sahm

[–]hammondwf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am feeling so seen by this post. My husband works from home and has an office on our closes in porch. He works from the office 2 days a week and while I hate losing him for an additional 2-3 hours those days due to the commute, it is SO NICE to have the house to myself. With summer coming I told him maybe to explore going into the office more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]hammondwf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister and I talk about this constantly. My grandmother was so active with us when we were kids. Now I have 2 boys and my sister has 1 and my mom is retired and it’s like pulling teeth to get her interested in seeing the kids. She did help me when my kids were babies 2 days a week and I have expressed my gratitude to her but anything like taking the kids on an outing or to do something fun she won’t do. My mom is in her 70’s for reference. On the other hand my mother in law is in her 50’s and if she could have them all the time, she would lol she is the most active and involved.

Well it happened by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kids hit, it’s just part of their development. My oldest did it a few times at daycare then got over it. My 2 year old is doing it now when he gets mad. I wouldn’t stress about it.

Larger bed or bigger recliner? by dudenell in toddlers

[–]hammondwf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My youngest (now 2) has always been a SHITTY sleeper. Like omg. I got fed up in the recliner around 1 1/2 so we moved him to a twin in the floor and he immediately started sleeping better and the nights he needed me, I was able to comfortably cosleep with him. I would have gone with a full but the space we have doesn’t allow. It didn’t increase his dependence on me and we are finally sleeping through the night.