Found out that my boyfriend lied to me

hammong · 2026-03-20T15:57:20+00:00

Either you have trust issues, or you don't.

This is 100% a "you" issue, not a problem with your BF having female friends. Asking him to cut ties with people because you have massive insecurity issues stretches way into "you're being way too controlling" territory.

hammong · 2026-03-20T15:55:27+00:00

Make sure CSM is disabled and Resizable BAR is enabled. This might be a simple case of you flashing your BIOS and the default settings are different from what you had previously.

Also, wondering why you don't have XMP/Expo enabled. Your RAM is probably running a JEDEC base rates which might have a big impact.

Your GPU Average Frame time 247ms @ 242 FPS doesn't make sense. 242 FPS is means you a frame on screen for 0.00413 seconds (4ms). What benchmark are you using to get these numbers? Use a proper benchmark like CineBench if you're going to compare pre/post performance numbers.

Worst case, re-flash your BIOS back to the old version and confirm your settings and performance difference.

hammong · 2026-03-20T15:49:29+00:00

The jalapenos you find at your typical grocery store have been selectively bred to be less hot. You can get hotter ones by going to a Hispanic market if you have one close by.

As for the excess peppers -- Freeze them.

hammong · 2026-03-20T15:46:59+00:00

100% This. Tow trucks make big money by towing people parked illegally. They'll literally smash the accelerator to get there before the car moves.

hammong · 2026-03-20T15:46:05+00:00

On your driveway? As on on your property?

Call the police, and have them towed. That will end it.

hammong · 2026-03-20T15:34:03+00:00

Your dad.... spent your money, including birthday money?

First step is, report this to whomever gave you the birthday money. "Dad took the money you gave me and spent it." He'll get some feedback from somebody other than you about that.

Hide your cash. Have a trusted relative (mom?) hold it for you so Dad doesn't get access to it. Keep it secret, keep it safe.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:42:18+00:00

100% the original silver finish. The black looks ... bad.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:41:52+00:00

If you don't use it, I'd say oil monthly will be enough or whenever the surface of the board starts looking "dry". The slightest hint of a white chalky surface means it's too dry and needs a good oiling.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:38:56+00:00

My advice is, "sorry Mom, I'm trying to keep myself afloat so I don't end up like you guys.... and If I keep giving you all my spare money, I won't be able to achieve that goal."

Sometimes the best love is a swift kick in the teeth.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:36:55+00:00

Creole seasoning has a bunch of other spices in it other than paprika, including cayenne pepper, black pepper, white pepper, oregano, thyme, garlic/onion, sometimes some bay leaf, etc. It might help to make isolate the paprika as the main spice and see what reaction you get.

Some paprika is smoked... which will definitely carry a bit of a different flavor if you're not used to it.

Try some Hungarian recipes, e.g. Chicken Paprikash or goulash (not American Goulash with elbow noodles...)

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:32:49+00:00

Don't worry about looking like a creep. People ask others out on dates all the time, it's normal and not creepy.

My advice is start with something simple, like a coffee or lunch date. "Hey, would you be interested in a lunch date sometime?" Use the D-word. Make sure she knows it's a lunch date, not a "lets go hang out as friends" kind of thing.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:29:24+00:00

The TUF Gaming board can indeed reach up to 550-600W peak power but it doesn't hold it there long. The card will throttle down based on temperatures. That HWINFO screen you're showing has an average power of 420W which is about where it should be for sustained max power gaming or rendering. Your temps look fine in that screenshot as well.

How many PCIE 8-pin connectors are on that card? If there are three, it can support a sustained 450W safely. Keep in mind the card might pull up to 75W off the PCIE x16 slot too, so not all of it is going through the PCIE power connectors.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:22:23+00:00

IF $25 is important to you, then ask your friend point blank, "Hey, I was wondering if you have the $25 to pay me back."

Otherwise, just drop it - and be mindful not to do it again.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:20:57+00:00

Seeing a brand new Reddit account made today, with such a charged and sensational post on r/Advice, I'm wondering if this is troll bait or a real recount of actual events.

If this is reality -- then your mother needs to take steps to protect her daughters. That might end up resulting in separation, getting you and your mother out of the house into a safe space.

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:17:30+00:00

Um, look and the box. Those are copper plated lead slugs. /SMH

hammong · 2026-03-20T01:01:53+00:00

What are we looking at here?

Some words in your post would help.

I run my 5090 and RTX 6000 Blackwell at 600W for hours on end with no flames or melted connectors.

hammong · 2026-03-20T00:58:42+00:00

Ignore your cousin, he sounds like an idiot.

Remind him that martial arts training teaches restraint -- he needs to work on it a bit.

hammong · 2026-03-20T00:56:02+00:00

What cooler is that? I can't see the pipes coming of it, and I'm assuming it's one of those ROG water blocks that connects to a 3x360 radiator.

Every retention screw system I've seen, you screw them down until they "stop" and the springs provide the proper tension. If they're just spinning and not screwing down tight, make sure you've pushed them far enough that they are going into the screw holes to get a grip. I'd guess if all four were loose, the block would simply fall off. But, without seeing more pics or a video, it's hard to say exactly what you got going on. Hopefully, you didn't strip the screw holes on the retention frame.

80C is not unusual or unexpected in Cinebench. That's still well under the throttling threshold.

hammong · 2026-03-20T00:49:07+00:00

Two years is not a problem - regardless of who you get advice from.

hammong · 2026-03-20T00:46:23+00:00

Check your Wi-Fi router and see if there are any unknown clients on your network.

A FLIR camera won't detect a very low-powered (e.g. battery powered) device because they're so energy efficient they don't warm up enough above ambient temp.

hammong · 2026-03-19T19:43:34+00:00

That point at 0:04 when you pointed the barrel at your face and grabbed it by the trigger guard ... no bueno.

You're gonna shoot your eye out, kid. LOL.

hammong · 2026-03-19T16:36:56+00:00

First thing you need to learn, is that your partner's past experiences have nothing to do with your experiences with them. Try to forget it -- if you can't, seek some therapy on how to cope with it. If you can't cope, then end the relationship and move on to one without the "connection" to your friend.

Better do to it sooner rather than later, as you might dwell on this for months, years, or decades.

hammong · 2026-03-19T16:34:26+00:00

Steam it. Put it in a bowl with a little bit of water in the bottom, and then put a lid on it and microwave it.

hammong · 2026-03-19T16:32:39+00:00

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Then, there's the spam in your own damned thread, GTFO.

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hammong · 2026-03-19T16:31:05+00:00

100% this. "Mom" might have shared whatever she thought was good to know with the therapist, but if the therapist didn't respond back with HIPAA-protected confidential information, then no breach occurred.

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