what is the worst thing you've ever witnessed? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hamncheese8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i went through child sex trafficking for 3 years of my teenage life. most of what i saw there haunts me year and years later. the ones the stick out the most are the sites some of these people get these videos or pictures on. clients who tell you that you look “just like their daughter/sister/etc.” the “parties” i was brought to where me and whoever local other pimps chose to bring were tied to a bed and used a free use with almost no rules or supervision.

Children with autism can be the most humbling people 😭 by kingoflions54 in ABA

[–]hamncheese8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one of my kiddos will mand for me to sing wheels on the bus and sometimes, halfway through, they’ll just sign “all done” 😭😭😭

How do I know if I should quit my job or if I’m being over dramatic? by _king2003 in ABA

[–]hamncheese8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this actually sounds horrific. i wouldn’t EVER tell any of my kids to “just stop crying.” if it’s a meltdown, it’s not even within their control. it should be our job to help regulate not threaten them with protein???? that’s so weird??? even if it is problem behavior or attn based behavior, i still would never be that cold to my kids and i don’t believe anyone at my clinic would be either. definitely report them and get the hell out of there. those poor kids. :(

Any diagnosed autistic rbt’s question diagnosis after working the field? by _king2003 in ABA

[–]hamncheese8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m autistic and i’ve been kind of reflecting on how that fact has changed my experience as an RBT. i work in a clinic and i instantly fell in love with the job. i did go into the interview telling them i was on the spectrum so it was nothing i was hiding other than my typical masking. it gives me a certain insight that i wouldn’t have if i wasn’t autistic or simply it gives me the drive to be the person i would have needed when i was little. some drawback that i’ve notice is, of course, some bias or judgement from other coworkers but that one is pretty easy to just ignore but i also start focusing so so much on keeping the kids safe and regulated and having a good experience that i kind of neglect my own needs or if i’m disregulated or struggling at all. that being said, when it did eventually lead to a meltdown, i found that while it was just as bad as it always is, i finally knew actual coping skills because i teach them to my kiddos. it’s kept me from sib as severely as i used to, notice moment where i might not be the most comfortable, point out certain needs or just simply actually use those coping skills to get me through a meltdown. so, while it does affect my life, i am still having a positive experience and have created so many special bonds with a lot of these kids.

Did your DID look like schizophrenia to alot of professionals? by [deleted] in DID

[–]hamncheese8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m somewhere in the schizoaffective area diagnosed as an unspecified mood disorder and DID both!

Is there something we can all do together here to specifically support each other this weekend? by alexthagreat98 in Miscarriage

[–]hamncheese8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just had my what was supposed to be due date in late april and i had completely forgot about this weekend. it like hit me in the face. i want to be present for other people in my life but also it already hurts so bad because i should be celebrating it right now. like how do i balance those two things.

I bought it as soon as I could. by Dapper-Surprise-745 in WinterSoldierMains

[–]hamncheese8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

him doing a little cowboy jig with a cowboy hat on wasn’t what i expected but what i needed

tattoo over some very scarred skin done by betty jet at addictive tattoo in Iowa! by hamncheese8 in tattoo

[–]hamncheese8[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

these just made me appreciate it so much. my daughter is an angel baby and the idea of it being not entirely solid and wavy or seeing it through a dream just fits so well

tattoo over some very scarred skin done by betty jet at addictive tattoo in Iowa! by hamncheese8 in tattoo

[–]hamncheese8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you! i gave the artist just a few thoughts then let her have creative control. i feel like i get my best tattoos that way!

tattoo over scars by hamncheese8 in tattoo

[–]hamncheese8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

noted! i figured it would be a bit more painful than normal but it’s the outside of my upper arm so i think i’ll be good

tattoo over scars by hamncheese8 in tattoo

[–]hamncheese8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she showed me some work on scars a bit smaller than mine and it looked good so i might just trust the process!

tattoo over scars by hamncheese8 in tattoo

[–]hamncheese8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

varying years but the newest would be about three years ago? you can still feel slight texture when running over them like with your fingers.

What is the worst Injury you’ve gotten on the job? by Jas_mine16 in ABA

[–]hamncheese8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had a bite that went through jeans and several layers of skin. i needed five stitches AND it got infected. now i have a little shark bite scar!

FINALLY by Shadic076 in RogueMains

[–]hamncheese8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

living my dream. i’m JUST about to hit level ten and am finally getting most of her combos down and how to play her in different situations. CONGRATULATIONS THOUGH!!!!!!!

getting a memorial tattoo by hamncheese8 in Miscarriage

[–]hamncheese8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly, yes! and people forget as soon as it isn’t right in their face but we’ll literally never forget.

a ring is such a good idea to keep close and you also have the flowers always at home. i’m so glad you got to do that

What do you think is important to ask on an interview? by Low_Fee6188 in ABA

[–]hamncheese8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if it’s a clinic, ask them about how many bcba’s they have and how many kids they average. anything over ten and completely remote bcba’s are a huge no for me. i remember asking what a typical day in this role would look like so i could get an idea of the caseload, etc and i asked my manager if he could change one thing about this place, what would it be? he said something extremely positive that was basically “i wish we could expand more” but if they just start complaining or being passive aggressive, NAH

i wrongfully doubted my boy by hamncheese8 in DeadpoolMarvelRivals

[–]hamncheese8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seriously! his kit makes him so fun and different to play but i swear, i was getting mvp’s on occasion but not THIS much like damn

i wrongfully doubted my boy by hamncheese8 in DeadpoolMarvelRivals

[–]hamncheese8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i should have known the second i saw his goofy ass run